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Ethlie Ann Vare

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The wit behind Affection Deficit Disorder, the hot humor blog about behavioral addiction (yes, there is a funny side to addiction), Ethlie Ann Vare started out as a rock'n'roll disc jockey and became known as a camera-friendly expert on pop culture. That led to the internationally syndicated newspaper column ROCK ON, the founding of ROCK Magazine, and articles in everything from Billboard Magazine to the New York Times. She then became a sought-after lecturer on the college circuit talking about women's history, and later an award-winning TV screenwriter. Chalk it up to wide-ranging intellectual curiosity, ADHD, or a combination of the two.The much-lauded LOVE ADDICT: Sex, Romance and Other Dangerous Drugs was written about her own addictio ...more

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It's All Fun and Games Until Someone Loses an I

It’s hard to write about addiction when you’re doing fine. Hard for me, at least. I have always confused excitement with happiness, so when things are fine, it can seem… boring. Serenity is an unaccustomed state of being for me, and I don’t feel like it’s my place to fire up the laptop and share how I learned to be bored.

But then I spoke at a large, lively 12-step meeting in Silverlake, and I was

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	Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs 4.27 avg rating — 79 ratings — published 2011 — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Patently Female: From AZT to TV Dinners, Stories of Women Inventors and Their Breakthrough Ideas by Ethlie Ann Vare (Goodreads Author), Greg Ptacek really liked it 4.00 avg rating — 24 ratings — published 1999 — 5 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Mothers of Invention: From the Bra to the Bomb : Forgotten Women and Their Unforgettable Ideas by Ethlie Ann Vare (Goodreads Author), Greg Ptacek 3.95 avg rating — 20 ratings — published 1988 — 3 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Rainbow: A Star-Studded Tribute to Judy Garland by Ethlie Ann Vare (Goodreads Author), Eehlie A. Vare, Michael Musto (Foreword by) 3.89 avg rating — 18 ratings — published 1998	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Women Inventors & Their Discoveries by Ethlie Ann Vare (Goodreads Author), Greg Ptacek really liked it 4.00 avg rating — 11 ratings — published 1993 — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Legend: Frank Sinatra and the American Dream 3.09 avg rating — 11 ratings — published 1995 — 5 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Diva: Barbra Streisand and the Making of a Superstar 3.44 avg rating — 9 ratings — published 1996 — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Harrison Ford by Ethlie Ann Vare (Goodreads Author), Mary Toledo liked it 3.00 avg rating — 8 ratings — published 1987 — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
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Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man: Coping with Hidden Aggression - From the Bedroom to the Boardroom

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“My fear of abandonment is exceeded only by my terror of intimacy.”
― Ethlie Ann Vare

tags: addiction, drugs, love-addiction, self-help, self-help-book, sex, sex-addiction

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“Just because something is addictive doesn't mean that you will get addicted to it. But . . . if your stomach ties up in knots while you count the seconds waiting for a phone call from that special someone . . . if you hear a loud buzzing in your ears when you see a certain person's car (or one just like it) . . . if your eyes burn when you hear a random love song or see a couple holding hands . . . if you suffer the twin agonies of craving for and withdrawing from a series of unrequited crushes or toxic relationships . . . if you always feel like you're clutching at someone's ankle and dragged across the floor as they try to leave the room . . . welcome to the club.”
― Ethlie Ann Vare

tags: addiction, ethlie-ann-vare, love-addiction, self-help, sex, sex-addiction

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“A frequent exchange of text messages is not a relationship. It's not even a pen-pal.”
― Ethlie Ann Vare, Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs

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