Esther Perel
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| Esther Perel | |
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| Born | 1958 (age 65–66) Antwerp, Belgium |
| Nationality | Belgian |
| Fields | Psychotherapy |
| Institutions | Family Studies Unit Department of Psychiatry New York University Medical Center International Trauma Studies Program Columbia University |
| Known for | Erotic Intelligence |
| Website EstherPerel.com |
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Esther Perel (born 1958) is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security (love, belonging and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure and distance) in human relationships.[1]
Perel promoted the concept of Erotic Intelligence in a best selling book (Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence) which was published in 2006 and since has been translated into 24 languages.[2] A talk entitled The secret to desire in a long-term relationship which she gave at TED in February 2013 has received more than 7.5 million views on TED's website as of January 2016.[3] A talk entitled Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved which she gave at TED in March 2015 has received more than 2.7 million views on TED's website as of August 2015.[4]
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Professional career
Perel grew up amongst Holocaust survivors in Antwerp, Belgium and noted two groups around her: "those who didn't die, and those who came back to life". Her observation was that "those who didn't die were people who lived tethered to the ground, afraid, untrusting. The world was dangerous, and pleasure was not an option. You cannot play, take risks, or be creative when you don't have a minimum of safety, because you need a level of unself-consciousness to be able to experience excitement and pleasure. Those who came back to life were those who understood eroticism as an antidote to death."
Perel subsequently trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy before finding a professional home in family systems theory. She initially worked as a cross-cultural psychologist with couples and families.
Select Discussion Topics
TED: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship
- Why does good sex fade even for couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?
- Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?
- Why does sex make babies and babies spell erotic disaster in couples?
Personal life
Perel is married to Jack Saul, Assistant Professor of Clinical of Population and Family Health at Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health.[5]
References
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Sources
- In search of Erotic Intelligence: Reconciling our desire for comfortable domesticity and hot sex
- Sexual Genius: An Interview With Esther Perel
- Esther Perel on Mating in Captivity
