How to not get defensive

“The Couple that Coaches Couples” on Instagram: "Write YES if this is helpful 👇 plus read further for tips: Defensiveness is a pattern that many of us need to break because it prevents conversations from progressing or getting resolved. But you’re NOT alone in this! It takes conscious awareness to shift away from being defensive when communicating with your partner. If you want to get better at this, here are some helpful resources: 1️⃣ we discuss “Defensive Behavior: How to Overcome this…

Everyone gets defensive sometimes! However, when defensiveness is a pattern it can become destructive. A pattern of defensiveness becomes destructive for both you as an individual and for your relationships. This is why it is so important to know how to stop being defensive.

Defensiveness - it's the gut reaction to defend yourself when you feel someone has said or done something unfairly or negatively to you. This is

Nedra Glover Tawwab, Therapist on Instagram: “{People can’t listen when you aren’t being heard.}⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ People who are defensive don’t hear anything because they get stuck on the belief…”

Ayo Ogundipe| Communication, Friendships and Relationships on Instagram: "How do I start a difficult conversation? Starting a difficult conversation can be challenging and it is normal to feel uncomfortable around these kind of conversations. The goal is not to communicate perfectly, but to address the situation in a respectful manner. Some things to keep in mind: Keep the outcome you want in mind and be flexible Stay open to their perspective Use “I” statements Approach the situation…

Yvonne | Relationship Coach | Marriage & Family Therapy Student on Instagram: "Defensive behavior is TOXIC.. Defensiveness is defence mechnism that aims to protect you when you are getting feedback, which you take as criticism.. The goal is to avoid feeling hurt or shame, and rather than owning up to what you did or said, you get defensive.. It typically develops due to childhood experiences where you were either emotionally or physically abused, neglected or received a harsh parenting…

A relationship is a regular job where you have to exert some effort and put in your best to stay in it. We all go into a relationship expecting to get the best out of it. We want regular dinner dates, a romantic stroll in the pack, a monthly couple’s vacation, and an exchange of gifts. However,

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