Night Game Mastery - Part 1

How to meet women at bars

I. Why Meet Women at Bars?

a. Women are in a social environment and are expecting men to approach
b. Some women are out specifically to hook up and go home with a guy that night
c. Anything can happen (same night lay, make out, phone number, threesome, etc.)
d. Beautiful women everywhere
e. Great place to practice



II. DAY GAME VS NIGHT GAME

Women arent expecting guys to approach them Women expect guys to approach

No competition Lots of competition

Distractions: shopping, cell phone, working, in a hurry Distractions: music, friends, guys,

Best possible realistic scenario: instant date Best scenario: same night lay

Dont need to get all dressed up You must look and feel your best



III. Bar Game Mindset (Inner Game)

a. Look and feel your best (peacock?)
b. Warm up
a. get social talk to everybody
b. get pumped high fives, dance, listen to the music
c. talk to everybody - dont wait more than 60-seconds to say something to
someone
c. Whats your goal? Have a specific realistic goal that is not outcome dependent.
d. Dont impress her. Instead test her.
e. Have fun! Because thats why women are there.



IV. Bar Game Elements

a. Open
- Direct (youre pretty cute)


- Indirect (I need your opinion on something)
- Fun (I was going to wear that same outfit)
- Qualifying (You seem fun, are you fun?
- Generic (Whats in that drink?)

b. Be Fun
- Routines
- Games
- Role Playing
- Teasing

c. Confidence
- Escalating
- Screening
- Leading Her/Them

d. Rapport
- Getting to know each other and building commonalities

e. Close
- Get her number
- Move her
- Take her home



V. Opening

a. Direct Openers
- Shows you have balls and let the girl know that you are interested in her in a man-
woman way
- You have to really believe you are going to get the girl
- Great for daytime approaches

Adorable (good for crowded club where girls are walking by)
You are adorable (can also say and Im picky or kinda /cute to be a challenge)

Fun
You guys look fun so I thought Id come talk to you


b. Indirect Openers
- Neutral in that start a conversation but they dont spark attraction
- Low risk, high opening percentage and have no effect on your closing ratio
- You dont want to get sucked into a conversation about your opener

Do I Look Gay
Hey guys do I look gay? Because I just had a guy offer to buy me a drink



Get Ready
Hey guys quick question how long does it take you guys to get ready for a night
out? (tease their answer) So check this out my friend Sarah is 3 hours late, its taking
her 3 hours to get ready and shes all hippy so shes going to show up in sandals and a
hemp shirt, I mean how long does that take?

Deaf Girl
Hey this is kind of random but would you ever date a deaf person? Ok check this out I
just started talking to this really cute deaf girl and it just dawned on me that, now this
may seem kind of crude, but when we sleep together she might make some really weird
noises like eeaaahhwww

Naughty Text Messages
Hey guys this is kind of random but whats your take on naughty text messages, I mean
are you guys into that sort of thing? Im sort of dating this girl and she likes to send me
naughty text messages so of course I send them back and she says she really gets off
on them. Is that weird? Would you get off on text messages?

Meeting People
Whats your take on meeting people at X (X=mall, crosswalk, LA, etc.), my friend Matt
says most people are way to stuck up for that, but you seem pretty cool.

80s Song (good for groups with girls and guys)
Do you know who sang that song Died in Your Arms Tonight? (they respond). OK
look, check this out, it doesnt really even matter its actually Cutting Crew but me and
my friend we had this bet and so I told him I was going to ask you guys, so just point
over to my friend and say Cutting Crew and Ill get my free drink, cool? (they respond)
Cool thanks Im just going to stay over here for a second so that it doesnt look like a
set up.


c. Fun & Teasing Openers

a. Humorous

Boring Conversation
Hey guys! My friends are having a really boring conversation about their day jobs so if you
guys arent interesting Im going to have to bang my head against the wall until I black out

Conversation Interrupter
Hey guys Im a professional conversation interrupter so I had to come over here and interrupt
what ever it was you were talking about, its ok I actually get paid to do this. then you could
follow with where you guys having a lesbian lovers quarrel? Was this one of those DTR
conversations?



Same Outfit
Oh my god I was going to wear that exact same outfit tonight (she responds) Im not
going to lie, I would have pulled if a lot better

Sorry Im Late (good for seated sets)
Sorry Im late traffic was really bad, did you order drinks yet, what do you have me
coming?


b. Bait and Switch Openers

Beautiful Eyes
Has anyone ever told youhow beautiful.MY eyes are (point to your eyes) follow up with I
wanted to see if you have a sense of humor, ok you pasted the first test

Cutest Girl
I have this rule when I go out that I have to introduce myself to the cutest girls in the bar.
can you guys help me find them?


c. Role Reversal Openers

Are You Shy
Hey are you guys shy? Because Ive been standing here for like 5 minutes and you havent said
hi or grabbed my ass, whats going on here? You guys must be shy.

Fat Pants
Hey guys, I need your honest opinion, this is very important. Does my ass look fat in these
pants? Hey no touching!


d. High Value Openers
- You appear higher value than the girl
- Typically high risk high reward

Horse Girl (credit Brad P)
Hey do you like horses? (Theyll respond) OK check this out, when I was in 6
th
grade
there was this girl who used to love horses, I mean shed have horses on everything,
like horses on her notebook, horses on her locker, she even used to run around the
school making horse noises and we used to call her horse girl.and you look just like
her. (Theyll respond) Look if it was me I wouldnt admit it either. Now Im not saying it
is you, in fact Im about 90% sure its not you but just in case it is you I wanted to come
over and say that Im really sorry for that time we stuffed hay in your locker and I hope
you can forgive me, will you forgive me? (then open your arms for a hug)

Creepy Girls
Hey have you guys noticed that there are a lot of creepy girls here? (they respond)
Check this out I was at the bar and this girl comes up to me, you know how you have


that comfort zone, well she was way in my comfort zone and was all over me and said
are you metro sexual because Im metro sexual I mean thats pretty creepy right?


Roll Off
Open a set (set 1). Then when you see another set walk by (set 2) say in a loud voice
so both sets can hear Hey these are my friends I got to go while you point to set 2.
Then walk up to set 2 and say Keep walking, those girls where hitting on me and I
didnt want to be rude. You guys totally saved me! This gives you pre selection for both
sets.

Qualifying
You guys seem fun, are you fun?


d. Physical Openers

Poke
Just poke her in the stomach and say I like to poke people, its kind of my thing, you can
poke me back I have abs of steel

High Five
You guys are X you get a high five X = cute, adorable, short, fun, etc.

Wave or motion her over

Thumb Wrestle
Hold out your hand and when she goes to shake it start a thumb war "Hey, I know you're
in a hurry, but I'm gonna be on ESPN8 'The Ocho' tomorrow in the thumb wrestling
championship and I really need to practice. I wasn't gonna tell you this, but I used to be
on the Olympic Thumb Wrestling Team."

Cheers


e. Normal?
- Thats right, you dont need a clever opener, as long as you have a strong frame (inner
game)

Hey
Hey whats up?
(if she doesnt respond) Ok lets try that again (walk away then come right back) hey
whats up?

Hows your night going?

Question
- Good for warming up


Hey do you know where X is? X=bathroom, dj booth, outside area, etc.

Anything
Anything you can think of can be an opener. If you have a strong identity then anything
will work

f. Other Openers For You to Try

If I wasnt gay youd so be mine

You guys should not talk to me because Im a horrible person and Ill just hit on you and
try to pick you up

Why are there no cute guys hitting on you? Whatever youre doing to keep them away
isnt working on me

You cant just look at me like thatlike you want me. I saw you undressing me with
your eyes

Hey do me a favor and tell me to fuck off. Everyone is too damn nice here.

Do I look like a drug dealer?




VI. Infield Assignment

a. Go out twice this week and do 5 10 openers. Im only giving you a small piece of the
puzzle here, because if I gave you everything at once it would be too much to handle.
So I just want you to work on opening. It doesnt matter what you do after the opener,
you can just walk away if you want (in an attractive manner, anyways have an
awesome night).

b. Inner Game: Before you approach, imagine the last time you rock a girls world in bed.
Think of an amazing sexual experience you had and think about how you made that
woman feel. If youve never had an experience like that, its ok, just picture what it will
be like when you do that. Do this for only 3-seconds, then approach her. This will raise
your confidence and bring out a more sexual vibe.