Transactional Analysis
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1. Transactional analysis [edit]
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In the early 20th century, Sigmund Freud first established that the human psyche is multi-faceted, and that each of us has warring
factions in our subconscious. Since then, new theories continue to be put forward, all concentrating on the essential conviction
that each one of us has parts of our personality which surface and affect our behaviour according to different circumstances.
In 1951 Dr Wilder Penfield began a series of scientific experiments. Penfield proved, using conscious human subjects, by
touching a part of the brain (the temporal cortex) with a weak electrical probe, that the brain could be caused to 'play back'
certain past experiences, and the feelings associated with them. The patients 'replayed' these events and their feelings despite not
normally being able to recall them using their conventional memories.
Penfield's experiments went on over several years, and resulted in wide acceptance of the following conclusions:
The human brain acts like a tape recorder, and whilst we may 'forget' experiences, the brain still has them recorded.
Along with events the brain also records the associated feelings, and both feelings and events stay locked together.
It is possible for a person to exist in two states simultaneously (because patients replaying hidden events and feelings could
talk about them objectively at the same time).
Hidden experiences when replayed are vivid, and affect how we feel at the time of replaying.
There is a certain connection between mind and body, i.e. the link between the biological and the psychological, eg a
psychological fear of spiders and a biological feeling of nausea.
His starting-point was that when two people encounter each other, one of them will speak to the other. This he called the
Transaction Stimulus. The reaction from the other person he called the Transaction Response.
The person sending the Stimulus is called the Agent. The person who responds is called the Respondent.
Transactional Analysis became the method of examining the transaction wherein: 'I do something to you, and you do something
back'.
Berne also said that each person is made up of three alter ego states:
1) Parent
This is our ingrained voice of authority, absorbed conditioning, learning and attitudes from when we were young. We were
conditioned by our real parents, teachers, older people, next door neighbours, aunts and uncles, Father Christmas and Jack Frost.
Our Parent is made up of a huge number of hidden and overt recorded playbacks. Typically embodied by phrases and attitudes
starting with 'how to', 'under no circumstances', 'always' and 'never forget', 'don't lie, cheat, steal', etc, etc. Our parent is formed
by external events and influences upon us as we grow through early childhood. We can change it, but this is easier said than
done.
2) Child
Our internal reaction and feelings to external events form the 'Child'. This is the seeing, hearing, feeling, and emotional body of
data within each of us. When anger or despair dominates reason, the Child is in control. Like our Parent we can change it, but it
is no easier.
3) Adult
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Our 'Adult' is our ability to think and determine action for ourselves, based on received data. The adult in us begins to form at
around ten months old, and is the means by which we keep our Parent and Child under control. If we are to change our Parent or
Child we must do so through our adult.
In other words:
When we communicate we are doing so from one of our own alter ego states, our Parent, Adult or Child. Our feelings at the time
determine which one we use, and at any time something can trigger a shift from one state to another. When we respond, we are
also doing this from one of the three states, and it is in the analysis of these stimuli and responses that the essence of
Transactional Analysis lies. See the poem by Philip Larkin about how parental conditioning affects children and their behaviour
into adulthood. And for an uplifting antidote see the lovely Thich Nhat Hanh quote. These are all excellent illustrations of the
effect and implications of parental conditioning in the context of Transactional Analysis.
At the core of Berne's theory is the rule that effective transactions (ie successful communications) must be complementary. They
must go back from the receiving ego state to the sending ego state. For example, if the stimulus is Parent to Child, the response
must be Child to Parent, or the transaction is 'crossed', and there will be a problem between sender and receiver.
If a crossed transaction occurs, there is an ineffective communication. Worse still either or both parties will be upset. In order for
the relationship to continue smoothly the agent or the respondent must rescue the situation with a complementary transaction.
In serious break-downs, there is no chance of immediately resuming a discussion about the original subject matter. Attention is
focused on the relationship. The discussion can only continue constructively when and if the relationship is mended.
Here are some simple clues as to the ego state sending the signal. You will be able to see these clearly in others, and in yourself:
Parent
Physical - angry or impatient body-language and expressions, finger-pointing, patronising gestures,
Verbal - always, never, for once and for all, judgmental words, critical words, patronising language, posturing language.
Child
Physical - emotionally sad expressions, despair, temper tantrums, whining voice, rolling eyes, shrugging shoulders, teasing,
delight, laughter, speaking behind hand, raising hand to speak, squirming and giggling.
Verbal - baby talk, I wish, I dunno, I want, I'm gonna, I don't care, oh no, not again, things never go right for me, worst day of
my life, bigger, biggest, best, many superlatives, words to impress.
Adult
Physical - attentive, interested, straight-forward, tilted head, non-threatening and non-threatened.
Verbal - why, what, how, who, where and when, how much, in what way, comparative expressions, reasoned statements, true,
false, probably, possibly, I think, I realise, I see, I believe, in my opinion.
And remember, when you are trying to identify ego states: words are only part of the story.
To analyse a transaction you need to see and feel what is being said as well.
There is no general rule as to the effectiveness of any ego state in any given situation (some people get results by being
dictatorial (Parent to Child), or by having temper tantrums, (Child to Parent), but for a balanced approach to life, Adult to Adult
is generally recommended.
Transactional Analysis is effectively a language within a language; a language of true meaning, feeling and motive. It can help
you in every situation, firstly through being able to understand more clearly what is going on, and secondly, by virtue of this
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knowledge, we give ourselves choices of what ego states to adopt, which signals to send, and where to send them. This enables
us to make the most of all our communications and therefore create, develop and maintain better relationships.
a theory of personality
a model of communication
a study of repetitive patterns of behaviour
Transactional Analysis developed significantly beyond these Berne's early theories, by Berne himself until his death in 1970, and
since then by his followers and many current writers and experts. Transactional Analysis has been explored and enhanced in
many different ways by these people, including: Ian Stewart and Vann Joines (their book 'TA Today' is widely regarded as a
definitive modern interpretation); John Dusay, Aaron and Jacqui Schiff, Robert and Mary Goulding, Pat Crossman, Taibi Kahler,
Abe Wagner, Ken Mellor and Eric Sigmund, Richard Erskine and Marityn Zalcman, Muriel James, Pam Levin, Anita Mountain
and Julie Hay (specialists in organizational applications), Susannah Temple, Claude Steiner, Franklin Ernst, S Woollams and M
Brown, Fanita English, P Clarkson, M M Holloway, Stephen Karpman and others.
Significantly, the original three Parent Adult Child components were sub-divided to form a new seven element model,
principally during the 1980's by Wagner, Joines and Mountain. This established Controlling and Nurturing aspects of the Parent
mode, each with positive and negative aspects, and the Adapted and Free aspects of the Child mode, again each with positive an
negative aspects, which essentially gives us the model to which most TA practitioners refer today:
Parent
Adult
Adult remains as a single entity, representing an 'accounting' function or mode, which can draw on the resources of both Parent
and Child.
Child
Where previously Transactional Analysis suggested that effective communications were complementary (response echoing the
path of the stimulus), and better still complementary adult to adult, the modern interpretation suggests that effective
communications and relationships are based on complementary transactions to and from positive quadrants, and also, still, adult
to adult. Stimulii and responses can come from any (or some) of these seven ego states, to any or some of the respondent's seven
ego states.
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Initially criticised by some as a simplistic model, Transactional Analysis is now gathering worldwide attention. It originally
suffered much from the popularised writings in the 1960s. Also, summarised explanations, such as this, which can only touch on
some of the concepts in Transactional Analysis, led their readers to believe that there was very little to it. Many did not
appreciate the duration and complexity of the training.
Today there is greater understanding of Transactional Analysis. More and more people are taking the four to five year part-time
training courses to qualify, and increasingly universities are accrediting these courses for masters degrees. Those taking training
include psychiatrists, organizational and management consultants, teachers, social workers, designers, engineers and the clergy.
Today Transactional Analysis is used in psychotherapy, organisations, educational and religious settings. Books have been
written for all ages, from children through to adults, by people all over the world. Transactional Analysis is truly an international
theory relating to a diverse range of cultures.
Theoretical concepts within the Transactional Analysis world are constantly being challenged and developed making it a rich
dynamic process. Berne died in July 1970 at the age of 60. However, Transactional Analysis has not stood still and continues to
develop and change, paralleling the processes we encourage in ourselves and others.
The key concepts in Transactional Analysis are outlined below in the form of introductory information.
For example, we want the outside of our house painted, we need to find a person who will paint it and who will give
us a quote for doing it. If we agree the quote, and we like him or her enough, we will no doubt employ them. We will
agree a date and time, perhaps check they are insured, and choose the colour of the paint and off they go.
Sometimes contracts will be multi-handed with all parties to the contract having their own expectations. If these
expectations are all congruent then fine, if not then discussing everyone's expectations will lead to greater
understanding and therefore to a clear contract.
Contracts need to be outlined in positive words i.e. what is wanted, rather than what is not wanted. Our minds tend to
focus on the negative and so this encourages failure. For example, how many times do we look round when
someone says to us "Don't look now but......." , the same is true when we set up contracts which start "I don't want to
do .............. anymore".
We have contracts about employment, how much will we be paid and when, what holidays we are due, what
deductions there will be etc. In order to ensure placements are effective then different, but similar, details are
required. Naturally, these details will vary dependent on the setting in which we work.
All parties need to state what are they are prepared to do. Are they able and willing to undertake what is being
asked, is this appropriate? Does it fit within any statements of purpose and function? Is it legal? Do they have the
competence to deliver this? Do they want to? What does each party want of the others?
In summary contracts need to be: measurable, manageable and motivational. Measurable means that the goals
need to be tangible. That each party involved in the contract will be able to say in advance how they will know when
the goal has been achieved. The goal will be specific and behavioural and clearly defined. The contract will also
need to be manageable and feasible for all those concerned.
'Contracting' in Transactional Analysis, and indeed many other aspects of TA, provide a helpful way to
understand the Psychological Contract in employment and similar organizational relationships.
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As we grow up we take in ideas, beliefs, feelings and behaviours from our parents and caretakers. If we live in an
extended family then there are more people to learn and take in from. When we do this, it is called introjecting and it
is just as if we take in the whole of the care giver. For example, we may notice that we are saying things just as our
father, mother, grandmother may have done, even though, consciously, we don't want to. We do this as we have
lived with this person so long that we automatically reproduce certain things that were said to us, or treat others as
we might have been treated.
The Adult ego state is about being spontaneous and aware with the capacity for intimacy. When in our Adult we are
able to see people as they are, rather than what we project onto them. We ask for information rather than stay
scared and rather than make assumptions. Taking the best from the past and using it appropriately in the present is
an integration of the positive aspects of both our Parent and Child ego states. So this can be called the Integrating
Adult. Integrating means that we are constantly updating ourselves through our every day experiences and using this
to inform us.
In this structural model, the Integrating Adult ego state circle is placed in the middle to show how it needs to
orchestrate between the Parent and the Child ego states. For example, the internal Parent ego state may beat up on
the internal Child, saying "You are no good, look at what you did wrong again, you are useless". The Child may then
respond with "I am no good, look how useless I am, I never get anything right". Many people hardly hear this kind of
internal dialogue as it goes on so much they might just believe life is this way. An effective Integrating Adult ego state
can intervene between the Parent and Child ego states. This might be done by stating that this kind of parenting is
not helpful and asking if it is prepared to learn another way. Alternatively, the Integrating Adult ego state can just stop
any negative dialogue and decide to develop another positive Parent ego state perhaps taken in from other people
they have met over the years.
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Perhaps the boss calls us into his or her office, we may immediately get a churning in our stomach and wonder what
we have done wrong. If this were explored we might remember the time the head teacher called us in to tell us off.
Of course, not everything in the Child ego state is negative. We might go into someone's house and smell a lovely
smell and remember our grandmother's house when we were little, and all the same warm feelings we had at six
year's of age may come flooding back.
Both the Parent and Child ego states are constantly being updated. For example, we may meet someone who gives
us the permission we needed as a child, and did not get, to be fun and joyous. We may well use that person in our
imagination when we are stressed to counteract our old ways of thinking that we must work longer and longer hours
to keep up with everything. We might ask ourselves "I wonder what X would say now". Then on hearing the new
permissions to relax and take some time out, do just that and then return to the work renewed and ready for the
challenge. Subsequently, rather than beating up on ourselves for what we did or did not do, what tends to happen is
we automatically start to give ourselves new permissions and take care of ourselves.
Alternatively, we might have had a traumatic experience yesterday which goes into the Child ego state as an archaic
memory that hampers our growth. Positive experiences will also go into the Child ego state as archaic memories.
The positive experiences can then be drawn on to remind us that positive things do happen.
The process of analysing personality in terms of ego states is called structural analysis. It is important to remember
that ego states do not have an existence of their own, they are concepts to enable understanding. Therefore it is
important to say "I want some fun" rather than "My Child wants some fun". We may be in our Child ego state when
we say this, but saying "I" reminds us to take responsibility for our actions.
Parent contamination
Child contamination
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The OK Modes Model is a relatively recent (2010/11) development of the concept, and is a more sophisticated and
usable representation of the traditional PAC Transactional Analysis model.
The concept and diagram are particularly helpful tools for understanding what happens in human communications -
essentially one-to-one - and what makes these communications constructive or destructive; effective or ineffective.
The Transactional Analysis OK Modes Model has been developed by leading TA practitioners and thinkers Mountain
Associates (of Desford, UK) and I am grateful for the help of Mountain Associates' Anita Mountain and Chris
Davidson in featuring their model in this article.
The word Mode is used to differentiate the categories of behaviour from the structural ego state model mentioned
previously.
In this context the term Mode dates back to 1975, notably in an article in the Transactional Analysis Journal by
Nancy Porter (now Nancy Porter-Steele).
The Mountain Associates OK Modes Model provides a visual way of representing how we behave and interact with
other people. The diagram below illustrates the concept.
The OK Modes Model is easier to understand when you see the OK Corral model after the OK Modes Model
explanation below.
Miniature 'OK Corral' grids are incorporated into the diagram to emphasise that:
four are effective - (prompted by the process of Mindfulness, i.e., taking account of current reality and acting
accordingly)
six are ineffective.
Generally when something is said from an effective Mode the response from the other person is also likely to be from
an effective Mode. Equally, where a communication comes from an ineffective Mode, the invitation is for the other
person to respond from one of the ineffective Modes.
Note that of course in reality there are not simply four effective ways of behaving - these descriptors are intended as
a broad impression or guide rather than definitive. Also some behaviours fall between (on a 'continuum') two or more
of the Modes.
The central grid represents the OK Corral model, in which here the communication is 'I'm OK, You are OK' - i.e., put
simply, from your 'okay' frame of mind to to the other person's 'okay' frame of mind.
This central element of the OK Modes Model shows the four effective Modes. The centre 'Mindful' grid indicates that
communication is 'OK to OK' in terms of the OK Corral, i.e., the person communicating is doing so from a position of
feeling OK, and this communication is to the 'OK' position or feeling of the other person.
1. Structuring
2. Supporting
3. Co-Creating
4. Playful
1. Inconsistent
2. Interfering
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3. Reckless
4. Oppositional
5. Over-adapted
6. Criticizing
Particularly this enables us to imagine the flow of a communication exchange in a conversation, and so to
understand what happened.
Effective communication comes from the green Modes, (like traffic lights, green equates to go-ahead).
Ineffective communication comes from the red Modes (like traffic lights, red means stop).
When we come from (communicate from) the green Modes we invite a positive response, and when we
communicate from a red Mode, we invite a response from one of the red Modes.
The model is linked to the OK Corral, since another way of describing this model is is that an 'OK to OK' (I'm OK, you
are OK) communication invites an OK to OK response, whereas a Not-OK communication invites a Not-OK
response.
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The adjectives used in the diagram here are not definitive. For example the term 'Interfering' could instead be
described as 'fussing'.
In some cases the Modes represent a 'continuum' - for instance a communication from a manager could be
somewhere between Structuring and Supporting.
a communication is likely to achieve the intended response or result. Information is received, necessary action(s)
follow and good relationships are maintained or developed
communication will (if necessary and desired) be able to continue - either now or later
each party to the communication, whether they agree with each other (or not) or like each other (or not) maintains
an I'm OK, You're OK position.
Definition of 'Ineffective'
the intended communication is not understood the person receiving the communication is themselves invited into
a "not OK" position or invited to make someone else "not OK"
communication may be broken in some way and so does not continue, or it escalates to even more discomfort or
misunderstanding for those involved. In extreme cases the rift may be permanent
what needs to be done is less likely to be done - or may be done incorrectly.
effective modes
To help you understand the TA
OK Modes Model and to avoid
having to keep scrolling back up
the page, the diagram is
repeated alongside the
explanation below. It's the same
diagram.
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Effective communication
happens when we are in a
Mindful Process.
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ineffective modes
The ineffective (red) Modes all
emanate from outdated
experiences, which are not
relevant or appropriate in the
present.
Criticizing Mode -
communicates a "You're not
OK" message. When in this
Mode you will believe that
others cannot do things as well
as you can, or perhaps only
certain chosen people can. If
you lead from this position you
are unlikely to develop a loyal
supportive team or culture.
Inconsistent Mode - As a
leader we might be inconsistent
in our style - changing our
behaviour in unpredictable and
apparently random ways. This
is not helpful for followers (or
leaders).
Interfering Mode -
communicates a "You're not
OK" message. When in this
Mode the person will often do
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The OK Modes Model of Transactional Analysis was developed by Mountain Associates or Desford, UK, and first
published in this format in 2011.
However, when we work with other staff or are relating with young people, we are responding on the behavioural
level. It is not always possible, or appropriate, to be undertaking more in-depth types of diagnosis. I have outlined
them here though so that an understanding of the complexity of the process can be achieved.
behavioural diagnosis
Words, tone, tempo of speech, expressions, postures, gestures, breathing, and muscle tone provide clues for
diagnosing ego states.
Parent mode words typically contain value judgments, Adult words are clear and definable, and Free Child mode
words are direct and spontaneous. For example, a person in Adapted Child mode may cry silently, whereas when in
Free Child mode we are likely to make a lots of noise. "You" or "one" usually come from Parent. This can switch even
mid-sentence. If we are leaning forward it is likely we are in the posture of the Parent mode, whereas if we are in
Adult mode we tend to be erect.
These are indicators not guarantees. Assessment needs to be supported by other methods of diagnosis.
social diagnosis
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Observation of the kinds of transactions a person is having with others. For example, if eliciting a response from
someone's caretaking Parent it is likely that the stimulus is coming from Child, though not necessarily the Adapted
Child mode. Our own responses to someone will often be a way of assessing which ego state or mode they are
coming from.
historical diagnosis
The person's past also provides important information. If, as a child we had feelings similar to those we are
experiencing now, it is likely we are in Child ego state. If our mother or father behaved or talked in the same way that
we are behaving or talking now then we are probably in a Parent ego state.
phenomenological diagnosis
This occurs when we re-experience the past instead of just remembering it. This means that diagnosis is undertaken
by self-examination. This is sometimes accurate and sometimes very inaccurate as the Child ego state may be afraid
to allow our Adult to know what is going on.
We all have particular strokes we will accept and those we will reject. For example, if we have always been told we
are clever, and our brother is creative, then we are likely to accept strokes for being clever, but not for being creative.
From this frame of reference only one person in the family can be the creative one and so on.
Stroking can be physical, verbal or nonverbal. It is likely that the great variety of stroke needs and styles present in
the world results from differences in wealth, cultural mores, and methods of parenting.
Together these five rules are the basis of what Steiner calls the stroke economy. By training children to obey these
rules, says Steiner, parents ensure that ".. a situation in which strokes could be available in a limitless supply is
transformed into a situation in which the supply is low and the price parents can extract for them is high."
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Strokes can be unconditional or conditional. An unconditional stroke is a stroke for being whereas a conditional
stroke is a stroke for doing. For instance:
People often have a stroke filter. They only let in strokes which they think they are allowed to let in. For instance they
allow themselves to receive strokes for being clever and keep out strokes for being good looking. One way to think
about this to consider being out in the rain. The rain is the strokes that are available to us, both positive and
negative. There is a hole in the umbrella and some of the strokes go through and we save them in a bucket to enjoy
in lean times. Conversely we might use them negatively to reinforce the negative strokes we give to ourselves. Of
course, some just bounce off the umbrella and we might not accept the good strokes that are coming our way. Some
might come in but fall straight onto the floor.
When we are conceived we are hopefully at peace, waiting to emerge into the world once we have grown sufficiently
to be able to survive in the outside of the womb. If nothing untoward happens we will emerge contented and relaxed.
In this case we are likely to perceive the world from the perspective of I am OK and You are OK.
However, perhaps our mother had some traumatic experiences, or the birth was difficult or even life threatening. This
experience is likely to have an effect on the way we experience the world, even at the somatic level. In which case
we might emerge sensing that life is scary and might, for example, go into "I am not OK and You are not OK either".
Let's take it that the pregnancy went fine, and the birth was easy enough. What then? Well life experiences might
reinforce our initial somatic level life position, or contradict it. If we were treated punitively, talked down to, and not
held, we may begin to believe "I am not OK and You are OK". This might be the only sense we can make of our
experiences.
Let's take another situation. Perhaps we were picked on and bullied as a child. We learnt that the way to get by was
to bully others and that way we felt stronger and in control. Our behaviour then comes into the I am OK and You are
not OK quadrant. Of course this may cover up our belief that we are really not OK, but nobody sees that. They just
see our behaviour, and in fact we may have forgotten all about our negative feelings about ourselves as we have
tried so hard to deny the pain of believing we are not OK.
These life positions are perceptions of the world. The reality is I just am and you just are, therefore how I view myself
and others are just that "views" not fact. However, we tend to act as if they are a fact. Just like when somebody says
"I can't do this, I'm useless". Rather than "I don't know how to do this. Will you show me?" The latter is staying with
the fact that they do not yet know how to do it, whilst the former links being useless with not being able to do
something.
There are a number of ways of diagramming the life positions. Franklin Ernst drew the life positions in quadrants,
which he called the OK Corral (1971). We have put these into red and green to show the effective and ineffective
quadrants for communication and healthy relationships. By shading in the quadrants according to the amount of time
we think we spend in each we can get an idea of the amount of time we spend in each. Ernst used the term
'Corralogram' for this method of self-assessment using the OK Corral matrix.
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Berne talked about the life positions as existential positions, one of which we are more likely to go to under stress.
This is significantly different to the concept Ernst uses, i.e. that we move around them all during the day. Whilst there
is some truth in this we could agree with Berne that there will be one major position we go into under stress, with
perhaps another position underneath this one. These positions can change as we develop and grow. The difference
between Berne and Ernst is important.
Chris Davidson (1999) writes about the three dimensional model of Okayness. All of the previous diagrams talk as if
there were only one other person in the equation, when in reality there are often more. For example, the behaviour of
young people in gangs may say that they believe they are okay and perhaps other gangs in their neighbourhood are
okay, but an individual or gang from another neighbourhood are not okay. We often do this at work as well. We find
other people who we like and then we gossip and put other people down. We are therefore saying that we believe
we are okay but those others are awful (underneath this there may be a belief that we are not okay either but we feel
better by putting someone else down). In this way the two dimensional model of okayness i.e. that there are only two
people involved, becomes three dimensional model where there can be three or more involved.
There is also the way in which we view life itself. If we consider that there is something wrong with us, and that
others are not to be trusted and are not OK either, then the world would be a scary place and we are likely to
experience life as tough and believe we will only be all right if we keep alert and on the look out for danger and
difficulties.
Blame model
The Transactional Analysis 'Okay Corral' can be linked to 'blame', for which Jim Davis TSTA developed this simple
and helpful model. Commonly when emotions are triggered people adopt one of three attitudes relating to blame,
which each correlate to a position on the Okay Corral:
I'm to blame (You are okay and I'm not okay - 'helpless')
You are to blame (I'm okay and you are not okay - 'angry')
We are both to blame (I'm not okay and you are not okay - 'hopeless')
Instead the healthy position is, and the mindset should be: "It's no-one's fault, blame isn't the issue - what matters is
how we go forward and sort things out." (I'm okay and you are okay - 'happy')
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Another way of getting to what script is may be to think about what we believe will happen when we are in old age.
Do we believe we will be alive at 80 or 90 years old, be healthy, happy, and contented? What do we think will be on
the headstone for our grave? What would we like to be on it?
Mountain Associates use a model based upon Dr Taibi Kahlers observations of clients in distress.
Subsequently, for this discovery Dr Kahler received the 1977 Eric Berne Memorial Scientific Award.
Drivers in this context are behaviours that we move into when we start to be distressed.
Kahler noted that there were two variants for each driver:
Be Perfect for me
Be Perfect for you
Be Strong for me
Be Strong for you
Try hard for you
Please for you
When we notice the driver in ourselves or others we can recognise that we are in the early stages of distress. This
will mean that we need to address our psychological needs so that we return to a 'here-and-now' mindful process.
See more about personality types within Transactional Analysis on the Mountain Associates website.
Separately the book 'Parlez-vous Personality? Process Communication for Coaches', by Grard Collignon, Pascal
Legrand and John Parr, (2010 - Kahler Communications Europe), also offers more explanation about personality
types within Transactional Analysis.
Withdrawal
Rituals
Pastiming
Activities
Games
Intimacy
Obtaining balance means ensuring that we have sufficient time for play and intimacy and if this does not occur then it
would be beneficial to explore what we might be avoiding.
be that we like to help people and then it goes wrong as the person we were trying to help says that we didn't do it
well enough and that we got it wrong. We might think "Well, I was only trying to help" and feel got at.
When similar situations keep happening over and over again then the term Transactional Analysis uses for this is a
game. A game is a familiar pattern of behaviour with a predictable outcome. Games are played outside Adult
awareness and they are our best attempt to get our needs met - although of course we don't.
Games are learned patterns of behaviour, and most people play a small number of favourite games with a range of
different people and in varying intensities.
First Degree games are played in social circles generally lead to mild upsets not major traumas.
Second Degree games occur when the stakes may be higher. This usually occurs in more intimate circles, and ends
up with an even greater negative payoff.
Third Degree games involve tissue damage and may end up in the jail, hospital or morgue.
Chris Davidson (2002) has argued that world politics can involve fourth degree games - where the outcomes involve
whole communities, countries or even the world.
Games vary in the length of time that passes while they are being played. Some can take seconds or minutes while
others take weeks months or even years. People play games for these reasons:
to structure time
to acquire strokes
to maintain the substitute feeling and the system of thinking, beliefs and actions that go with it
to confirm parental injunctions and further the life script
to maintain the person's life position by "proving" that self/others are not OK
to provide a high level of stroke exchange while blocking intimacy and maintaining distance
to make people predictable.
cross the transaction by responding from a different ego state than the one the stimulus is designed to hook.
pick up the ulterior rather than the social message e.g. when a person says "I can't do this, I'm useless". Rather
than saying, "Let me do this for you," instead say, "It sounds like you have a problem. What do you want me to do
about it?" (said from the Adult ego state)
the opening message to the game always entails a discount. There are further discounts at each stage of the
game. By detecting discounts we can identify game invitations and defuse them with options. (A discount is when
we minimise, maximise or ignore some aspect of a problem which would assist us in resolving it. Such as saying
in a whiny voice "This is too difficult for me to do", so we automatically help them).
replace the game strokes. Loss of strokes to the Child ego state means a threat to survival. We get a great many
strokes from games, even if they are negative. However, if we don't obtain sufficient positive strokes, or give
ourselves positive strokes, we will go for quantity rather than quality of strokes and play games to get them. This
loss of strokes is also a loss of excitement that the game has generated.
Another way to think about this is to consider the game role we or the other person is likely to take. One way to
discover this is to ask the following questions:
We can then consider the reason we might have taken up a particular role, where we might switch to, and then
consider how to do things differently. We need to consider what our own responsibility is in this - if the situation is too
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violent for us to get involved what options to we have? We could call for help, get others to come with us to intervene
and so on. We need to choose the appropriate assistance and take the action required.
For more information about Transactional Analysis training, and its use for personal and organizational development
or therapeutic applications, I can confidently recommend Mountain Associates of Desford, Leicestershire, England,
telephone +44 (0)1455 824475 or email: TA at mountainassociates dot co dot uk. See the Mountain Associates
website. Mountain Associates have particular expertise and experience in organizational applications of
Transactional Analysis.
Refer also to the Johari Window model for personal and inter-group communications and development.
Working Together; Organizational Transactional Analysis and Business Performance - Anita Mountain & Chris
Davidson (Gower)
TA Today - Ian Stewart & Vann Joines
I'm OK You're OK - Thomas and Amy Harris
Staying OK - Thomas and Amy Harris
Games People Play - Eric Berne
What Do You Say After You Say Hello - Eric Berne
Scripts People Live - Claude Steiner
The Total Handbook Of Transactional Analysis - Woollams & Brown
Transactional Analysis For Trainers - Julie Hay
The Transactional Manager - Abe Wagner
Please note: The technical content of this article has been authored/provided by different experts in
Transactional Analysis, notably Anita Mountain and Chris Davidson of Mountain Associates.
Authors/originators are indicated throughout the article. Where you use these materials please reference the
authorship accordingly. See the copyright and attribution notice at the foot of this webpage.
With grateful thanks to Chris Davidson and Anita Mountain of Mountain Associates.
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