http://www.carlosxuma.com Welcome to our new language. This is the language of Alpha Power and confidence.
You see, you need a language to change the way you think. Alex Mandossian described it like this:
“What is a “lexicon?” It's the
mental vocabulary in a speaker's mind for a specific language, social class, field, industry or glossary that communicates, organizes and pre-defines new ideas or concepts.”
As such, we need to pay attention to the words I have a saying: we use, because using the wrong one could easily damage our inner voice of belief and Don’t hate the player. Don’t hate the game. strength. Just re-write the rules!
Think about the difference between these That’s what re-writing your internal two experiences: vocabulary will do.
1)You walk up and talk to a woman. She Now, I’m going to share some of my core isn’t interested, and turns away. concepts with you, and the language I have established so that you can understand them. You take this feedback from her and re- In the weeks and months ahead, I’ll reveal even examine your approach to the challenge. more to you by means of examples in the You refine your skills and test it again, until newsletter and other training materials. you get the result you want. Stay Alpha!
2)You walk up and pickup on a woman. Your friend,
She isn’t interested and freezes you out.
You crash & burn. You’ve been tested,
and you failed. You go back home and learn another routine, taking it back out and running your new game on more women. Eventually, you score. Carlos Xuma
I think you can see the radical difference
between those two, just in terms of the emotions you feel when you read those words. One is empty of emotional meaning, which makes it easier for you to stay detached and not bog yourself down with a bunch of completely unnecessary negative emotions.
The other one buries you in despair that the
only way you can solve this situation is to feel more and more crushed by a “game” that you feel played as if you are a puppet on a string.
ALPHA MAN - Today's version of the "alpha alternate version of ourselves: Pickup Guy. male" discussed in science. The Alpha And after Pickup Guy runs out of clever MAN, however, is a more advanced version routines, scripts, and stories, there's a gap of the traditional "strong male role model." between him and you that needs to be He has more advanced skills, such as: crossed to get REAL and connect with a emotional intelligence, social savvy, woman. REAL GAME ™ will overcome this. conversational and negotiation skills, persuasion skills, etc. (This syndrome is often the cause of the "uncomfortable silence" in conversations. NEW AGE TRAP - When a more intelligent and progressive man (sometimes DISCONNECTED/DISENGAGED - Lacking “sensitive” as well) taps into his potential, he connection to one's purpose and passion in can sometimes become TOO self-aware. life. You are not in touch with your fire and This self-awareness then becomes social ambition, and your life will not be satisfying self-consciousness. Also, the trap occurs until you find it and make it a part of your when we start to think that our awareness of motivation. these "progressive" concepts makes us superior or somehow on a different "plane DEFENSIVE POSTURE - The protective of thinking." attitude when you're avoiding pain or possible risk ENABLERS/CHALLENGERS - These are the two sides of the coin when it comes to METAKNOWLEDGE - knowing how we improving a skill. You must seize the assimilate and manage knowledge in more enablers, and avoid the challengers. effective ways. Knowledge about knowledge. DATING CONTINUUM - MEET -MATE - MOVE ON... METACOMMUNICATION - Adopting the The dating continuum is Carlos Xuma's strong beliefs and powerful states that concept of the natural progression of transmit the powerful sub-communication romantic relationships. It's very simple: signals we pick up on. Meet, mate, move on. CROSSWALKING - The hesitation to put Move on can mean breaking up, OR it can yourself out there that creates hesitation in mean moving into deeper layers of a everyone else. committed relationship - or alternate forms of relationships. PULP-FICTIONING - the art of conversation where you play with timelines to keep the PICKUP GAP - The gap between who you listener engaged. REALLY are and the "pickup persona" you adopt to be attractive to women. When we SPIRITUAL ARROGANCE - thinking that learn there are "rules" and "tactics" to the you are superior because you are more art of attraction, we tend to manufacture an "enlightened." Everyone goes through this.
COMPOUND EMOTION - like approach MICRO REWARDS: We all juice our state anxiety, that is so complex and complicated no matter what, to make ourselves feel that you can't figure out where it's coming better. Example of the guy who doesn't from or how to deal with it. approach and feels a little relief. That's a reward of avoiding pain. THey all add up. PERSONA/PERSONALITY - Persona is the social "mask" many of us adopt to GCC - Genuine Curiosity Connector - The function in different social environments. technique of GIVING to a conversation to You have a different persona for church as achieve stronger attraction and rapport with opposed to a party or a nightclub. women. Personality, on the other hand is the core of your identity. FEEDBACK LOOP - The unintentional augmentation of a feeling or situation due to EMOTIONAL MAGNIFYING GLASS - The the effects being magnified and repeated distortion of problems we feel when it's emotionally related. Losing a job, not having Also related to the “Upward and Downward a woman, etc. Usually highlighting our own Spiral” sense of distorted attention. AFFIRMATIONS/ANTHEMS - Emotionally REDIRECTION SKILL - the ability to re- connected inner game boosters that raise channel negative or overwhelming energy your state of self-confidence. to a desired goal. Never meeting force with force. COOPERATIVE COMMUNICATION - Focus on giving fun rather than projecting SOCIAL/ATTRACTION FRICTION - something arbitrary and subjective like Subcommunication that jeopardizes "value." The opposite of "adversarial" attraction by creating subconscious communications. resistance in the target. aggravation, fatigue, or confusion - occurs in the mind as REAL GAME- Carlos Xuma's trademarked a result of something they pick up on about application of healthy social dynamics to the you. game of attracting women. REAL stands for:
Sources: Vibing rapport, circumstantial R = Relaxed & Resourceful
(friends, environment), mood E = Effective & Energized A = Alpha & Authentic Friction cannot be eliminated. If you did, L = Lifestyle & Lasting there would be no interaction. SiGNIFICANT MOTIVATOR - Your personal (Unfortunately, this is how many men motivator eliminate possible friction.) Friction can only be minimized.
BASELINE EXPERIENCES - Confidence, HEAT OF THE MOMENT THINKING -
peace, happiness, awareness are all Doing things in the heat of the moment and baseline experiences. Meaning, when we're letting your emotions rule you. Develop the not clouded by thoughts that pull us out of discipline to create space for decisions and hold that state, it's our natural state of feeling back the emotions. and being. THREAT ASSESSMENT - In all social IDEAL FEMININE ENERGY: Strong interactions, we’re trying to figure out how nurturing presence. much of a “threat” other people are to us. This is subconscious, and not necessarily a IDEAL MASCULINE ENERGY - malicious impulse. We simply have to Compassionate and assertive initiative. understand how to “take” the people we meet. TEFLONIZE - Whenever a woman tries to say something negative or tease you, go So when you’re meeting people for the first right along with her. time (or even the first few times), make sure you remember that they are trying to assess For example: what kind of a threat you will be to them.
Her: "That shirt makes you look like a dork." This is especially important with other You: "YES! I am a dork! Thank you! I go to guys. Don’t underestimate the lengths every comic book and geek/dork/loser some men will go to eliminate competition. convention on the planet. Don't worry, I won't tell your friends I saw you there, or One guy I was hanging out with one night you were wearing a Wonder Woman outfit." tried to lure me out into an ambush with his friends outside the bar because he felt I was When you’re “teflonized,” nothing a woman being TOO successful with the women. says will affect you. You can’t be rejected or insulted. Be aware.
NEGATIVE REACTION CONDITIONING -
WANDERLUST - The tendency to jump If someone realizes that their aggro and from technique to technique, opener to mean temperament will keep people away, opener, in the hopes of finding the “perfect” thus avoiding more uncomfortable social and ULTIMATE thing to say to women. situations, they will tend to use this as a defense mechanism. Women do this as It doesn’t exist. well, and especially very beautiful women. You must realize that this defense is paper thin. You only need to persist a little bit to break through.
