The Weapon of Fear: How They Use Fear To Manipulate You
The Weapon of Fear: How They Use Fear To Manipulate You
The Weapon of Fear: How They Use Fear To Manipulate You
to Manipulate You
“He who has overcome his fears will truly be free.” ~Aristotle
Since the moment we were born, society has imposed on us what to do, what
to think and what to feel, and it has conditioned us to believe that if we don’t
follow its rules, we’re bound to get into serious trouble.
Parents taught us to behave in certain ways. If we did, they would reward us,
and if we didn’t, they would punish us. Naturally, every child obeys its
parents, because the child is dependent on the parents — it is a matter of
survival, especially in its very early years.
At school we were taught to think in certain ways. They taught us what to
think, but not how to develop our thinking. And everyone was taught the
same. If we thought in different ways than our classmates, teachers would tell
us we are bad students. They would give us bad grades and might even
expel us from school. Therefore, as students we learned to compromise our
thinking so as to get away with trouble.
Religion taught us to follow anything but our inner voice: scriptures, priests,
god. It taught us to have faith in others, but not to have faith in ourselves.
Religion taught us that, if we did certain things, we would be rewarded with
the bliss of heaven, but if we didn’t we would be punished in hellfire. And who
in his right mind would desire to be punished in hell? And who wouldn’t want
to experience heaven? Not surprisingly, we held religion in dear faith.
Parents, school, and religion used one and the same thing to make us do
what they wanted us to do: fear. If you want to manipulate anybody, first
make him or her afraid. Once afraid, he or she will be ready to accept your
offered suggestions.
This tactic is being continuously used in our everyday life, but we are
unaware of it. Have a clear look around you, and you will see what I mean.
Politicians are being elected by persuading the masses through the use of
fear. Companies are selling their products by manipulating consumers’
insecurities in advertising. Journalists influence public opinion by terrorizing
people’s minds. And these are just a few examples.
Fear is the best weapon of all great manipulators. It can move people to do
anything, no matter how nonsensical it is.
Why? Because it’s the emotion that warns us about potential threats to
our survival and urges us to protect ourselves from them.
Let’s have a closer look into how they do that, starting with politicians.
Well, they do, much of the time, but rarely when they are gripped by
fear of a threat, whether real or imagined. Here’s why, according to
cognitive psychologist and economist Robin M. Hogarth:
Political leaders harp on any reason they can find to make us panic:
terrorism, immigrants, drugs, crime, minorities, and various others.
A master at creating panic is the current president of the United States,
Donald Trump. In fact, that’s one of the main reasons why he was able
to become the US president in the first place.
Trump’s rhetoric goes like this: “Illegal immigrants are pouring drugs
and violence into America. Radical Islamic terrorists are preparing for
another big US attack. Christians are being executed en masse in the
Middle East.” And so on and so forth.
Today, it’s crystal clear that Bush had a hidden agenda: to expand and
strengthen the American Empire by gaining economic and geopolitical
power. Panicked and confused, millions of Americans couldn’t
understand what was really going on and blindly consented to the so-
called War on Terror.
There are various reasons, such as siding with their preferred political
parties, but the most important one is simply this:
When, for instance, you read a newspaper headline that elicits a fear
response in you, you are much more likely to get the newspaper and
read it. Why? Because as author and journalist Neil Strauss put it:
You might not be consciously aware of it, but corporations are heavily
using fear-based advertising to make you buy their stuff. And it has
been found to work pretty well. By instilling fear in people, advertising
manipulates them into making emotional rather than reasoned choices.
All the great marketers know well that one of the primary human
desires is to connect with other humans and feel part of a community,
and hence that one of the things people are most afraid of is to be
excluded from their social groups. And through advertising they try to
convince you that if you don’t buy stuff nobody will like you anymore
and that you’ll probably be ostracized by your community.
Buy the latest iPhone and you’ll not appear to be poor. Get this pair of
Nike shoes and you’ll be cool. Obtain this wristwatch and you’ll feel
important. Purchasing them will cost you some money, but not doing
so will cost you your happiness.
Afraid and insecure, most people blindly do what they’re told, thus
wasting their hard-earned money buying things they don’t really need
and which only provide them with a temporary, superficial sense of
belonging and emotional gratification.
Dealing with Fear-Based
Manipulation
Now that we’ve looked at different ways fear is being used against you,
I’d like to share with you a few simple tips that can help you to avoid
falling victim to fear-based manipulation.
The first and most important thing is to identify fear when it arises
within you and try to see it for what it is, without shying away from it or
pretending that it’s not there. By bringing fear into your conscious
awareness, you’ll be able to examine where it’s coming from and what
message it’s trying to convey to you, which will help you to better
understand it and hence deal with it. In fact, research has suggested
that just acknowledging an emotion and explicitly identifying fear can
help manage its subsequent effects on our behavior.
Like other animals, we humans can learn fear from experience, such as
being attacked by a predator. We also learn from observation, such as
witnessing a predator attacking another human. And, we learn by
instructions, such as being told there is a predator nearby.
Tribalism has been an inherent part of the human history. There has
always been competition between groups of humans in different ways and
with different faces, from brutal wartime nationalism to a strong loyalty to
a football team. Evidence from cultural neuroscience shows that our brains
even respond differently at an unconscious level simply to the view of faces
from other races or cultures.
At a tribal level, people are more emotional and consequently less logical:
Fans of both teams pray for their team to win, hoping God will take sides in
a game. On the other hand, we regress to tribalism when afraid. This is an
evolutionary advantage that would lead to the group cohesion and help us
fight the other tribes to survive.
Fear is uninformed
During the first year after my arrival in the U.S., one night I entered a
public parking lot to turn around. People were leaving a building in
Orthodox Jewish dress; it was a temple. For a short second, I noticed a
subtle, weird but familiar feeling: fear!
I tried to trace the source of this fear, and here it was: My hometown was
almost all Muslims, and I never met a Jew growing up. One day when I was
a little child and we were visiting a village, an old lady was telling a crazy
story about how Orthodox Jews steal Muslim kids and drink their blood!
Having come from a well-educated family that respects all religions, being
an educated doctor and having so many great Jewish friends, I felt
embarrassed that still the child within had taken that stupid and obviously
false story a bit seriously, only because that child had never met a Jew.
This human tendency is meat to the politicians who want to exploit fear: If
you grew up only around people who look like you, only listened to one
media outlet and heard from the old uncle that those who look or think
differently hate you and are dangerous, the inherent fear and hatred
toward those unseen people is an understandable (but flawed) result.
To win us, politicians, sometimes with the media’s help, do their best to
keep us separated, to keep the real or imaginary “others” just a “concept.”
Because if we spend time with others, talk to them and eat with them, we
will learn that they are like us: humans with all the strengths and
weaknesses that we possess. Some are strong, some are weak, some are
funny, some are dumb, some are nice and some not too nice.
Very often my patients with phobias start with: “I know it is stupid, but I
am afraid of spiders.” Or it may be dogs or cats, or something else. And I
always reply: “It is not stupid, it is illogical.” We humans have different
functions in the brain, and fear oftentimes bypasses logic. There are
several reasons. One is that logic is slow; fear is fast. In situations of
danger, we ought to be fast: First run or kill, then think.
Politicians and the media very often use fear to circumvent our logic. I
always say the U.S. media are disaster pornographers – they work too
much on triggering their audiences’ emotions. They are kind of political
reality shows, surprising to anyone from outside the U.S.
When one person kills a few others in a city of millions, which is of course a
tragedy, major networks’ coverage could lead one to perceive the whole
city is under siege and unsafe. If one undocumented illegal immigrant
murders a U.S. citizen, some politicians use fear with the hope that few will
ask: “This is terrible, but how many people were murdered in this country
by U.S. citizens just today?” Or: “I know several murders happen every
week in this town, but why am I so scared now that this one is being
showcased by the media?”
There is a reason that the response to fear is called the “fight or flight”
response. That response has helped us survive the predators and other
tribes that have wanted to kill us. But again, it is another loophole in our
biology to be abused. By scaring us, the demagogues turn on our
aggression toward “the others,” whether in the form of vandalizing their
temples or harassing them on the social media.
When demagogues manage to get hold of our fear circuitry, we often
regress to illogical, tribal and aggressive human animals, becoming
weapons ourselves – weapons that politicians use for their own agenda.