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    If a 21-year old friend asked if they were ready for marriage, the author would advise assessing communication patterns and conflict resolution skills with their partner. They would caution that poor communication before marriage often continues after and can harm marital happiness. They would also encourage exploring reasons for wanting to marry and ensuring both people are committed, rather than just cohabiting which is less likely to result in a successful long-term relationship. While marriage is a big decision, it can also be exciting and fulfilling if entered into carefully and both people treat it with commitment.

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    If a 21-year old friend asked if they were ready for marriage, the author would advise assessing communication patterns and conflict resolution skills with their partner. They would caution that poor communication before marriage often continues after and can harm marital happiness. They would also encourage exploring reasons for wanting to marry and ensuring both people are committed, rather than just cohabiting which is less likely to result in a successful long-term relationship. While marriage is a big decision, it can also be exciting and fulfilling if entered into carefully and both people treat it with commitment.

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    If a 21-year old friend asked if they were ready for marriage, the author would advise assessing communication patterns and conflict resolution skills with their partner. They would caution that poor communication before marriage often continues after and can harm marital happiness. They would also encourage exploring reasons for wanting to marry and ensuring both people are committed, rather than just cohabiting which is less likely to result in a successful long-term relationship. While marriage is a big decision, it can also be exciting and fulfilling if entered into carefully and both people treat it with commitment.

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    OPTION D: ARE YOU READY?

    Suppose your 21 year old child or best friend came to you and asked the question, "How do you

    know if you are ready for marriage?" How would you respond? If it will help, you may

    interview two other people and list their answers in your paper. As you consider the factors

    predicting marital success, look at your own past relationships. What factors, such as

    background, personality characteristics, and relationship characteristics, might have predicted the

    quality of your relationship? Were any particular characteristics especially important for you?

    Why?

    The decision to get married is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your

    life. You choose a person and make commitments to intertwine your lives. You take on their

    problems as your own as well as their extended family as your own. It changes you from an

    independent individual into an interdependent couple. Due to the gravity of this choice, I don’t

    think it is one that should be taken lightly. In this frame of mind if I had a friend who was

    twenty-one and about to make the choice if she could get married I would advise her to access

    several aspects of her current relationship and also make the decision with much care and

    thought.

    I would first ask my friend about her communication patterns with her boyfriend. If she

    relays stories about poor communication then I would advise her to think about how she would

    feel in her marriage if these patterns continued. “Many couples who communicate poorly before

    marriage are likely to continue in the same way after marriage, and the result can be disastrous

    for future marital happiness” (Strong & Cohen, 2014, p. 237). If she says that her communication
    with her boyfriend in the past has been positive, then I would be more encouraging about her

    getting married. I would also ask her about their arguments and if they argue at all. I would show

    her this advice about arguing, “As long as we value, care about, and live with others, we will

    experience occasions when we disagree” (Strong & Cohen, 2014, p. 230). I would assure my

    friend that it is normal for her to fight with her husband once they get married and that conflict

    actually can signify a healthy relationship if it is handled well. I would also give her other advice

    and ask her if she feels ready to give up her independence for marriage and ask her what her

    reasons are for wanting to get married. If she has good reasons for wanting to get married and it

    seems like both individuals are committed and love each other, then I would encourage her to get

    married. Lastly though I would caution her about the studies about cohabitation, couples who

    cohabitate are much more likely to split up. I would thus encourage her to marry her boyfriend

    rather than simply live with him because they are much more likely to have a successful

    relationship if they are married.

    While the decision to get married is a big one, it is also a very exciting transition in life. I

    would be very excited for my friend if she decides to get married. There is much anticipation and

    joy when two people decide to make commitments to stay together and be together for the rest of

    their lives. Marriage can be the most fulfilling relationship in your life if you treat it with care. I

    look forward to the day when I get married, but I will not take that decision lightly.
    References

    ​ ason, Cengage.
    Strong, B., & Cohen, T. F. (2014). ​The marriage and family experience. M

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