From Death To Life: Pastor Steven J. Cole Flagstaff Christian Fellowship 123 S. Beaver Street Flagstaff, Arizona 86001
From Death To Life: Pastor Steven J. Cole Flagstaff Christian Fellowship 123 S. Beaver Street Flagstaff, Arizona 86001
From Death To Life: Pastor Steven J. Cole Flagstaff Christian Fellowship 123 S. Beaver Street Flagstaff, Arizona 86001
Cole
Flagstaff Christian Fellowship
123 S. Beaver Street
Flagstaff, Arizona 86001
www.fcfonline.org
By
Steven J. Cole
2
“What’s going on in that family for this boy to do such a terrible
thing?” It would have shamed the father and it would have made
the boy a social outcast should he ever return.
And so the father’s response would have shocked Jesus’ audi-
ence. Normally, a Middle Eastern father would have slapped such
an impudent son in the face. Then he would have driven the son
out of the family and disinherited him. But the father didn’t do
that. He simply complied by dividing his wealth between his sons.
Without anger, the father endures this terrible humiliation and the
pain of a son who rejects his love and wants to get as far away
from him as possible.
Next, the younger son takes the money from selling the land
(to sell it quickly, he probably only got a pittance of what it was
worth), moves to a distant country, and squanders everything with
loose living. Jesus does not stipulate whether such loose living in-
volved prostitutes. That is the angry accusation of the older brother
(15:30) and it may have been true. But we don’t know for sure.
Then two things happen: due to his own stupidity, the boy
runs out of money. And due to God’s providence, a severe famine
hits the country where he is living. But he is not yet low enough to
return to his father and admit his mistakes. Rather, he attaches
himself to a citizen of that country and is assigned what would be
the worst job in the world for a Jew, to feed the pigs. The young
man became so hungry that he was tempted to eat the carob pods
that he was feeding to the pigs. He now hits the bottom!
Hard times have a way of making a man think more clearly!
So the young man comes to his senses. He thinks about his father’s
hired men. They all have more than enough bread, but here he is,
dying of hunger (15:17). So he comes up with a plan. He recognizes
that he has sinned against God (“heaven” is a figure of speech for
God) and against his father. So, he determines to go to his father,
confess his sin, and ask his father to make him as one of his hired
men. Perhaps he is thinking that this arrangement would allow him
someday to pay back the money that he had squandered so that the
family could recover the sold land.
So, he gets up and heads for home. The young man would
have been humiliated to show his face in the village, but he goes
3
anyway. The father sees the boy coming from a long ways off. This
can only mean that many times each day the father scanned the
road to see if his wayward son might be coming home. When he
saw his son, the father felt deep compassion for him. This caused
him to do something else that would have been shocking to Jesus’
audience: he ran to the boy! In that culture, patriarchs did not run. It
was undignified. To run, you had to pull up your ground-length
robe and expose your bare legs, which was disgraceful. Boys might
run and young men might run, but older men did not run. But this
father throws aside his dignity and runs to his son.
When he gets to him, the father ignores the son’s stench, falls
on his neck and tenderly kisses him. This would have been com-
pletely unexpected and shocking. In that culture, a wayward son
might have been grudgingly permitted to come back into the vil-
lage, but he would have been humiliated and scorned. The father
would have been unavailable or distant and aloof. When David
allowed his murderous son Absalom to return, he refused see him
for two years (2 Sam. 14:24, 28). Then, when the boy did see his
father, he would be made to grovel. The father coldly would have
set forth the demands that the boy would have to fulfill to earn his
restoration to the family. There would not be any show of affec-
tion. But this father hugs and kisses his son.
The son begins his rehearsed statement of confession, but he
leaves off the part about becoming one of his father’s hired men. I
think that he was interrupted by his father’s commands to the ser-
vants to bring the robe, the ring, and the sandals.
The father tells the servants (15:22-23), “Quickly bring out the
best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals
on his feet; and bring the fattened calf, kill it, and let us eat and
celebrate.” The best robe would have been the father’s own robe,
worn only on the most important occasions. The robe, the ring,
and the sandals all showed that the boy was being welcomed back,
not as a hired hand or as a disgraced son who now needed to earn
his way back into the family. He is welcomed back with full accep-
tance. He stumbled home barefoot and smelling like the pigsty, but
the father effusively welcomes him in an outburst of undeserved,
unexpected, joyous love. Then he kills the fattened calf, hires a
band, calls in the whole village, and throws a party! What a scene!
4
If Jesus had ended the story here, His pharisaic audience
would have shrugged it off. This story went against not only many
of their cultural standards, but also against their religious ideas. No
self-respecting earthly father would have done what this father did.
And surely, God is not like this, is He? God doesn’t welcome filthy
sinners into His holy presence, does He? He accepts those that
keep His commandments, but He has nothing to do with sinners!
We have to earn God’s favor, don’t we?
But Jesus doesn’t end the story there. He concludes by telling
us about the other lost son, the older brother. He comes in from the
field and as he approaches the house, he hears music and dancing.
Rather than going in to check it out for himself—he may have
feared that this would happen—he calls one of the servant boys
and asks him what’s going on. When he explains the situation, the
older brother is incensed and refuses to go in. The culturally proper
thing would have been for him to go in, scowl at his no-good
brother, and by his dour countenance show everyone how much he
disapproved of the party. Later, in private, he could have con-
fronted his father.
But instead, he humiliates his father in front of all the guests
by refusing to go in to the party. Again, the father does something
unexpected: he goes out and tenderly pleads with his older son,
showing the father’s love for this son as well. But the older son is
just plain rude. Rather than respectfully addressing him as “father,”
he says (15:29), “Look! For so many years I have been serving you
and I have never neglected a command of yours; and yet you have
never given me a young goat, so that I might celebrate with my
friends.” This is a shocking outburst. He’s saying, “Look, you owe
me big time! I’ve never done anything to wrong you and yet you
haven’t even given me a goat, much less a fatted calf, so that I
could have a party with my friends.” He’s accusing his father of
being unfair. He’s insulting his father of being prodigal (extrava-
gant) by spending his wealth on this no-good son of his (he won’t
call him his brother!).
The father responds with gentleness to this rude assault on his
honor. He says (15:31), “Son, you have always been with me, and
all that is mine is yours.” He has always had access to the father’s
goods, but he has been so distant from the father that he has never
5
utilized these abundant resources. The older brother’s self-
righteousness and anger have prevented him from experiencing the
father’s abundant bounty and from the joy of welcoming back his
repentant brother. All he can do is sit outside and sulk and miss the
party. The father ends with this appeal (15:32), “But we had to
celebrate and rejoice, for this brother of yours [not, “my son”!] was
dead and has begun to live, and was lost and has been found.”
We could draw many lessons from this profound parable, but
I want to zero in on just one. Maybe it will shock you!
True Christianity is essentially not a matter of moralism, but
rather of being alive to the Father.
I can only hit some highlights:
1. Both sons were dead to their father, but only one came to
realize it.
There are two ways to be dead or lost or alienated from the
Father. One way is to be like the younger brother—to walk away
from the Father’s love and move to a distant country.
A. The younger son was dead to the father through open re-
bellion and loose living.
He rejected the father’s values. He wanted freedom to explore
other ways to live. He was tired of the narrow-minded religious
mores. He felt restricted by the family’s religious heritage. In mod-
ern terms, he didn’t like going to church every Sunday and missing
out on all the fun that he could have partying with the world. So by
his open rebellion and loose living, he cut himself off from this
incredibly kind, gracious, loving father. But,
B. The older son was dead to the father through self-
righteous moralism and using the father for his own self-
ish purposes.
You’ll miss the point of the story if you do not see that there
are two dead sons, in terms of their relationship to their father. This
“good” son at home didn’t love the father any more than the
prodigal son did while he was in the distant country. He was lost
precisely because of his own “goodness.” He was proud of the fact
that he always did his duty. His pride made him feel that the father
owed him something. He had rights that he had earned and if the
6
father didn’t give him those rights, then he had a right to be angry!
And, he didn’t cherish the love of the father. He just wanted to use
the father to get what he wanted, his own party with his own
friends and his own inheritance. He didn’t care about his father.
But true Christianity is not a matter of using God to get what
you want, but rather of loving God because of who He is. True
Christianity is not a matter of being an unhappy, dutiful son, but
rather of joyfully receiving and enjoying the undeserved love and
extravagant bounty of the Father. True Christianity is not at its
heart a matter of moralism, but of being alive toward God, in a
close loving relationship with Him, experiencing the joy of His
grace. But how do you become alive to the Father?
2. To become alive to the Father, you must come to see your
own desperate need for His extravagant love and grace,
turn from your sin, and return to the Father.
The younger son finally, in his degraded condition in the pig-
sty, came to see his need for his father. He realized that because his
father was a kind and generous man, even the hired men had it
better than he did. And so, recognizing his need and his father’s
goodness, he left the distant country and his rebellious way of life
and returned to the father. He left his so-called “friends.” He left
his attempt to make it on his own in the distant country. He left his
loose ways. He returned to the only one who could help him—his
gracious father.
The younger son did not make up excuses for the terrible
things that he had done. He didn’t blame the father for being too
strict or blame his religious upbringing. He didn’t blame his legalis-
tic older brother, even though the older brother may have been one
reason he took off. Rather, he openly confessed that he had sinned
against God and against his father. And, he returned to his father
just as he was.
The older brother, however, was blind to his alienation from
the father. He didn’t see his need for his father’s extravagant love.
He didn’t need his grace because he felt that he had earned his
place in life. He was a dutiful son! The father owed him a few
things! His unawareness of his sin caused him not to see his need
for the father’s grace. “Just give me what I deserve!”
7
Many who grow up in the church are like the younger brother.
They reject their godly upbringing and wallow in our immoral cul-
ture, trying to find happiness in sin. But there are also many like the
older brother. They keep the rules, but they don’t love the Father.
They don’t enjoy His grace. They don’t know His joy.
How can you tell if you’re an older brother? Are you angry
with God? Do you feel that He is unfair towards you? Are you
proud of your dutiful obedience? Do you think that God has not
treated you as well as you really deserve? Do you despise and want
nothing to do with those who are down and out because of their
sin? Do you want God to judge them? If you see yourself in any of
these questions, you may be an older brother! Like the lukewarm
church of Laodicea, you need to see your true condition, that you
are wretched, miserable, poor, blind, and naked (Rev. 3:17). Also,
you need to see what happens when you see your need and return
to the Father:
3. When you see your need and return to the Father, He
welcomes you with joyous acceptance.
True joy is not found in the distant country, partying with
your worldly friends. True joy is not found slaving in the fields for
God, while you’re angry and bitter because you think that He
doesn’t treat you rightly. True joy is found when you see how self-
ish and proud and sinful you have been and you return to the Fa-
ther in true repentance and brokenness. He joyously welcomes
every repentant sinner to His banquet table!
It cost the Father dearly to provide the way of reconciliation
for alienated sinners. Just as the father of the two sons bore hu-
miliation and shame to be reconciled with them, so the heavenly
Father sent His Son to bear the shame our sins on the cross. Just as
the father of the two sons freely gave of his wealth, so the heavenly
Father gave the most costly gift, His own Son. As you grow in your
awareness of how much it cost the Father to welcome you into the
family, it will not make you want to move to the distant country
and live apart from the Father. It will not make you want to stay
outside the party and sulk about how mistreated you’ve been.
You’ll want to obey the Father joyously because of His abundant
kindness towards you. But the motive for your obedience is not
duty. It is the delight of being alive toward God.
8
Conclusion
If you were to ask people on the street what it means to be a
Christian, most of them would say that it means believing in Jesus,
going to church, and trying to be a good person. They view heaven
as a reward that you earn. But they just described the joyless older
brother! They have no concept of Christianity as a joyous relation-
ship with a kind, gracious, and accepting Father, who at great cost
sent His own Son to pay the penalty for our sins. They have no
experience of the joy of knowing the risen Savior. They don’t real-
ize that true Christianity is not essentially a matter of moralism, but
rather of being alive to God in Christ.
You are either dead towards the Father or alive towards him.
You may be a dutiful, moral church member, but you’re angry at
God and alienated from Him. You’re either in the party with the
Father or outside without Him. There’s no in between. Jesus ends
the story without giving the response of the elder brother. It’s an
open invitation to all religious older brothers who are proud of
their morality, but alienated from the Father. Respond now to the
Father’s costly, extravagant love and come in to the party!
Application Questions
1. Did the older brother have a right to be angry with the father?
Wasn’t the father’s treatment of the younger brother unfair to
the older brother?
2. Does your past look more like that of the younger or older
brother? What dangers does this alert you to?
3. How can an older brother grow to appreciate God’s grace?
How can a younger brother avoid abusing it?
4. Is there a danger in over-emphasizing God’s lavish grace? Why
does a proper understanding of grace lead to obedience?
Copyright, Steven J. Cole, 2009, All Rights Reserved.