8 Reasons Why Children Misbehave
8 Reasons Why Children Misbehave
8 Reasons Why Children Misbehave
First behavior is the way in which one acts or conducts on self, especially
towards others:
Behavior analytic theories of change
- It states that complex behavior is learned gradually through the
modification of simpler behaviors.
Imitation and reinforcement play important roles in these theories, which
state that individuals learn by duplicating behaviors they observe in
others and that rewards are essential to ensuring the repetition of
desirable behavior as each simple behavior is established through
imitation and subsequent reinforcement that complex behavior develops.
When verbal behavior is established the organism can learn through
rule-governed behavior and those not all action needs to be contingency
shaped
Reasoned action theory:- assumes that individuals consider a behavior’s
consequences before performing the particular behavior. As a result
intension is an Important factor in determining behavior and behavioral
change also according to Icek Ajzen, intentions develop from an
individual’s perception of a behavior as positive or negative together with
the individual’s impression of the way their society perceives the same
behavior. Thus, personal attitude and social pressure shape inten, which
is essential to performance of a behavior and consequently behavioral
change.
And know according to some dictionary books the definition for
misbehavior is unacceptable behavior, especially naughtiness,
disobedience, or troublesomeness on the part of children, to be naughty
and troublesome, or otherwise behave in an unacceptable way and to
function badly or not at all, or to cause problems (informal)
8 Reasons Why Children Misbehave
(With Solutions!)
Featured Uncategorized by Erin Kurt
One of the most common expressions parents can be heard saying is, “I don’t
understand why he’s/she’s doing that”. There are eight, very common reasons
why children misbehave. It is extremely useful for parents to know these
because if they can pinpoint the root cause of the misbehavior, they can be
more successful at reducing it.
Listed here are the eight most common reasons why children misbehave and a
solution to help reduce or eliminate the problem:
Children’s main job is to figure out how their complex world works. In order to
master the things they need to at each developmental level they will test their
parents. They are literally trying to see where the boundaries are, or, if they
exist at all. Although testing is frustrating for parents they should know that it
is normal and that this is their chance to really make a difference in their
child’s life.
Consistency is hugely important in making a child feel safe and secure and
able to have a comfortable understanding of the world and how it works. If they
are receiving mixed messages from home and school they will feel uneasy
inside and express this through more testing than normal and will feel an inner
sense of stress.
The best thing a parent can do is learn a simple method to discipline and then
have a conversation with their child’s teacher. During this conversation, the
parents should explain their method and ask how the teacher handles
situations. The goal is to try and use some of the same language at both the
school and at home. With a consistent, clear message, children will rise to the
expectation and be happier in the process.
3) They do not understand the rules, or are held to expectations that are
beyond their developmental levels.
Sometimes, parent expectations go beyond their child’s abilities. Discipline and
guidance strategies should always take into account the child’s developmental
level. For example, it would be unreasonable to tell a 2 year old to clean up his
room and expect that he will finish the job. At this age, children need a lot of
support and guidance to do a job like this.
Reading books about what children can do at each age is helpful with this
problem so that parents can know what is developmentally appropriate for
them to expect of their child.
4) They want to assert themselves and their independence.
Children begin to show their desire for more independence at around age two.
They start to want control over certain areas of their life so that they can feel
capable and independent. It doesn’t take long for children to identify the areas
they CAN control, much to the chagrin of parents. Situations like eating,
sleeping, brushing teeth, and dressing are great examples of times when
children recognize their power to get you upset and therefore make them feel in
control.
What is the solution? Give them loads of choice in their daily life so that they
feel in control of their life in other, more positive ways. As well, it is key to learn
a simple, loving method to discipline so that misbehavior are taken care of
easily, without any emotion required. Without emotion, there is no reason for
the child to want to rebel in order to gain control.
When children’s basic needs aren’t met regularly each day they are always
more likely to misbehave, cry, throw a tantrum, etc.
The solution to this is simple: have a routine where the child eats, has
individual play time, parent and child play or interaction time and sleeps.
When children do something such as go to cross a road for the first time, they
do not know that they are supposed to look both ways, so we all know that we
must explain to them to look left and look right, etc. However, the same
technique needs to be applied to discipline situations. Children will repeat a
behavior over and over until they have accurate information as to what they
should be doing instead and prior experience of the consequence if they
continue the behavior.
Using clear, concise language stating what they “need” to be doing rather than
what they “shouldn’t” be doing is extremely important. Better to say, “Carry
this carefully”, rather than, “Don’t drop this”. In other words, give them
something to use as prior knowledge for next time.
7) They have been previously “rewarded” for their misbehavior with adult
attention.
No parent would ever think of purposefully rewarding bad behavior, but it
subtly happens quite often.
If the child whines, cries or throws a tantrum and mom or dad eventually gives
in to make them become quiet, they have just been rewarded.
The solution? Say what you expect without emotion and then follow through
consistently if they continue the negative behavior. The two keys here are: no
emotion and little talking.
Although not always simple, parents need to look at parenting as a life lesson
in personal growth. I always say that children can make open and willing
parents into the best human beings in the world because they have the
opportunity to practice being their best selves every single day of the year.
Looking at parenting this way makes it easier to catch oneself more often and
start demonstrating good behavior by modeling it.
All teachers have to deal with student misbehaviors on a daily basis. Most of
the time, these problem behaviors will not cause major disruptions. However,
even minor misbehaviors can lead to greater disruptions if left unchecked. This
article looks at a number of problem behaviors that students exhibit. It then
provides specific ideas on ways to combat these behaviors before resulting to
the discipline plan. Major disruptions like belligerence and cheating have been
left off because those require more direct action. Remember, the earlier you can
stop a child from misbehaving, the more likely it is that a major disruption will
not occur.
Excessive talking can be truly disruptive. The first step to deal with talking is
to walk near the students. This helps them realize that you are aware of their
misbehavior. Sometimes this is enough to stop the talking. If not, the next
thing you can try is to stop talking completely and using nonverbal cues. The
students in question will notice the silence and probably stop talking too. If
these two actions are not enough, then you will need to move to your posted
discipline plan.
Every year, you will probably be faced with at least one class clown. The key to
dealing with a class clown is channelling that energy to positive behavior
within the class. However, realize that they present a problem that can escalate
into full-scale disruption if not careful. A talk with them after class and giving
them responsibilities within he class can help.
7. Rudeness
This can be the most troubling behavior. While you can't pinpoint specific
belligerent actions, when a child generally has a rude attitude towards you it
can be very disheartening as a teacher. If the student is outright rude, calling
your names or other actions such as this, follow the discipline plan
immediately. But when you are getting mean looks and a surly attitude, it's
best to pull the student aside and discuss this with them. If necessary, call a
parent-teacher conference to get their help with the situation.