Using Books To Support Social Emotional Development: Pat Them Gently
Using Books To Support Social Emotional Development: Pat Them Gently
Using Books To Support Social Emotional Development: Pat Them Gently
Examples of activities that can be used while reading Pat Them Gently and throughout the day
to promote social and emotional development:
• Before reading the book, ask the children if they know what it means to be gentle. Ask questions
like, “If I touch something very softly, am I being gentle?” or “If I want my voice to be gentle,
should I talk loudly or quietly?” These questions will help children start to think about what the
word “gentle” means, and what behaviors they can use to be gentle or not gentle. Tell the children
that you are going to read a book about being gentle to animals. Ask why they think it is
important to be gentle to animals (so that the animal doesn’t get hurt or scared, so that children
won’t get hurt).
• While reading, allow children to take turns practicing “patting gently” with the furry illustrations
in the book. You can demonstrate with the first illustration, and repeat as needed to remind the
children what gentle patting looks like. The next time you read the book, try giving each child a
stuffed animal to hold while you are reading the story. Have them pat their stuffed animal gently
each time you read those words in the book.
• After reading the book, ask children if they can think of other times when they might need to be
gentle (for example: if they give a friend a hug, when they are playing, when there is a baby
around). You can help them think of different situations (think of the times that you tell children
to “be gentle,” what are some of those situations). Go through each situation and explain why
being gentle is important. Some of the reasons might be similar to the ones they came up with for
animals, (so no one gets hurt) and new reasons (so that toys don’t get broken). Talk about how
important it is to be gentle to other children. Throughout the day, let children know when you
notice them being gentle! If someone needs a reminder about being gentle, ask if they remember
practicing patting gently in Pat Them Gently. Can they try to do that again?
• Use the story as a way to talk about pets in general. Ask children about any pets that they might
have at home. They can even bring in a picture of their pet if they have one. Ask children how it
makes them feel to be around a pet. Does it make you happy? nervous? excited? Some children
like being around pets very much, but some children might not. Some children might like small
• If none of the children in the class are allergic to pets, try bringing a real pet to class one day.
Check to see if there are therapy animals in your area that could come visit your class! Therapy
animals are often used in hospitals or nursing homes, and are specially trained to be very calm and
friendly. Before letting children touch the animal, read the book together again to remind everyone
how to be gentle. Let each child have a turn petting the animal, using the steps they learned in the
book (First say please, talk quietly to them, and of course “Pat them gently!”) Take a picture of
each child with the pet and put the photos on a “We Can Be Gentle!” bulletin board in the
classroom. Seeing these pictures in the classroom will help children to remember their gentle
behavior every day.
Reading the same book for several days in a row is a great way to provide opportunities for infants,
toddlers, and preschoolers to develop a sense of competence and confidence, which is an important
part of social and emotional development. They become able to turn pages, point at and label
pictures, talk about the story, predict what will happen next, learn new vocabulary words, talk about
their own experiences in relation to the story and even make up their own story! Try reading Pat
Them Gently for several days in a row and use some of the ideas, activities, and teaching
opportunities listed below to enhance social and emotional skills.
Being Gentle
Art: Remind the children how they were able to pat the furry animals in Pat Them Gently. Tell them
that they can make their own furry animal to pat gently just like the ones in the book! Make sure the
Pat Them Gently book is in the art center so children can look at the pictures to get ideas for their
own drawings. Provide cotton balls, furry fabric, and/or felt for children to glue on their animals to
create the furry spot. Toddlers will probably need more help in creating their furry animals (consider
providing pictures of dogs and cats that toddlers can color and then glue furry material on their
animals). After the children complete their drawings, bind the pictures together to make a We Pat
Them Gently classroom book. Read the book and let each child pat his or her own illustration as you
read.
Dramatic Play: Create a “Pat Them Gently” Clinic in the dramatic play center. Encourage children to
use stuffed animals, baby dolls, etc. to practice being gentle. Children can introduce their pets or
babies to one another, allowing everyone lots of practice at using the steps in the book. Ask the
children if they can remember how they learned to be gentle in Pat Them Gently and remind them of
the different ways to be gentle to pets and to other children (ask please, talk softly, touch softly).
This Book Nook was developed by Erin Olinger and Tweety Yates