FAMILIES ( FAMILY

DYNAMICS &
FAMILY PATTERNS
,4r’s IN THE
FAMILY
2A
FIONNA A. LANDICHO
MARK CEDRICK J. YLAGAN

2B
EDRALINE PEDERNAL
RASMIAH MIKAELA TABERNILLA
 Table of contents

FAMILY FAMILY
1 2
DYNAMICS BOUNDARIES

FAMILY
3 4 4R’s
PATTERNS
Gender Role Attributes & Roles, Rituals,
Attitudes Relationships & Rules
 What is
Family?
A group of persons united by
the ties of marriage, blood or
adoption, constituting a single
household and interacting
with each other in their
respective social positions,
usually those of spouses,
parents, children and siblings
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FAMILY DYNAMICS
 Family Dynamics
Close family relationships afford a person better health
and well-being, as well as lower rates of depression and
disease throughout a lifetime. But in many families,
getting along isn't a given. The interaction between
various members is at the core of these complicated
dynamics. We may joke about the stereotypical sources
of disharmony. But factors like environment and sibling
rivalries do emerge when considering the viability and
stability of family networks.
 Family Dynamics
Family dynamics refer to the patterns of interactions
among relatives, their roles and relationships, and
the various factors that shape their interactions.
Because family members rely on each other for
emotional, physical, and economic support, they are
one of the primary sources of relationship security or
stress
 FACTORS INFLUENCE IN FAMILY
DYNAMICS
Various factors influence our
family dynamics, including:

• Family members’ ages

•Family members’ personalities
•The relationship between the
parents of a family
•A parent who is relaxed or strict
•An absent parent
6 TYPES OF FAMILY DYNAMICS
1 AUTHORITARIAN 4 UNINVOLVED

2 AUTHORATIVE 5 COMMUNAL

3 COMPETITIVE 6 ALLIANCE-BASED
 AUTHORITHARIAN

Authoritarian dynamics can be summed up as

being all about following the rules without any
exceptions. In this family dynamic, one family
member is very controlling. They expect others to
follow them without negotiation or questioning.
 AUTHORITATIVE
Authoritative dynamics also involve rules and
consequences, but not in the same way as
authoritarian dynamics. One individual sets
the rules while validating other family
members’ feelings and respecting their
opinions.
 COMPETITIVE
With competitive family dynamics, family
members are continuously competing with one
another. There is a sense of rivalry within the
household, as members try to outshine their
relatives. This competition could be for many
things, such as attention, recognition, or power.
 UNINVOLVED
When uninvolved dynamics are present,
family members aren’t present to one
another, even when they’re in the same
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room. Individuals don’t really know what the
other members of the family are doing.
There is often a lack of support and
guidance.
 COMMUNAL
The presence of communal dynamics
emphasizes the family as a
community in which every member
makes a contribution. Individual
opinions are respected, and all voices
are heard.
 ALIANCE-BASED
Alliance-based dynamics lead to members of the
family grouping together and playing off each other.
Certain family members form alliances in order to
gain leverage over other members of the family. They
agree to work together for mutual interest. This
agreement can be explicit or implied.
•The family dynamics of our childhood, as well as our
current family dynamics, can impact our behavior,
relationships, and work. One of the reasons for this is that
those dynamics can trigger various emotions. In some
cases, it can lead to emotional labor.

•Those emotions can also be triggered if we find ourselves

in situations with similar dynamics to what we experience
in our family units. Self-awareness is a key element in
understanding how our family roles impact us and our
work. Many of us are unaware of how those dynamics
affect our emotional well-being.
 Family
Boundaries
Clear boundaries are directly
stated, flexible, and adaptable.
While there is warmth, support,
and stability within the family,
each member is able to be
assertive, communicate their
needs, and develop their own
interests.
 Setting boundaries with family may seem
challenging at first, but remember, a clear
boundary can help you feel safe and
protected even if others don’t always like it
or agree with you. For example, you may
decide that you need time to yourself each
day, and you have the right to take that time
even if others think differently.
What are Examples of Family
Boundaries?
Time to yourself. Personal
information to remain private.
Respect about the feelings and
emotions you experience. Freedom to
change your mind. Respect regarding
your principles and beliefs. Your
physical and emotional needs being
met. Freedom from negative,
controlling energy.
 FAMILY PATTERNS
Characteristic quality of the relationship between the members of
a particular family (e.g., between parents and children). Family
patterns vary widely in emotional tone and in the attitudes of the
members toward each other. Some families are warm, others
cool; some are extremely close and symbiotic, in others the
members keep each other at a distance; some are open to friends
and relatives, others are not; in some, one or more children are
accepted and loved, in others one or more children are distanced
or otherwise rejected. Such patterns or elements of such patterns
may range from nonconscious to fully realized.
 FAMILY PATTERNS
Throughout history, family composition has affected
children's lives in important ways. The size and structure of
the family and its capacity to sustain itself has played a
critical role in how children are raised, their level of formal
education, and whether or not they participate in the labor
force. The principal household structures are nuclear,
extended, and blended. The nuclear household contains two
generations, parents and children.
 FAMILY PATTERNS
Extended families are multigenerational and include a
wide circle of kin and servants. In blended households
the result of divorce or the death of a spouse followed by
remarriage and a new generation of children mothers
and fathers can be both biological parents and
stepparents simultaneously.
Conditions Underlying Family Patterns of
Gender Roles Attitudes

Parents' gender role attitudes In general, the father

should have greater authority than the mother in
making decisions about raising children.

•Parents' Time Spent on Gendered Household Tasks As

noted, children learn about gender appropriate
behaviors by observing the behaviors of their parents.
 Conditions Underlying Family Patterns of
Gender Roles Attitudes
•Parents' Time with Children Another family process that
may affect children's gender role attitudes is fathers'
temporal involvement. Childcare is a stereotypically
feminine activity, and marks a less traditional family role for
fathers. This may be especially the case when fathers spend
time with daughters. On the other hand, within-family
comparisons have shown that fathers are more inclined
toward sex-typed activities with children (especially boys)
than are mothers.
 The 4R’s
The 4R (rules, roles,
relationships and
rituals/routines) model enables
families to describe who they
are and assists them in
becoming goal oriented by
assisting them to determine
what they want from the
relationships and how to reach
desired goals and promote
overall family well being.
Rules
Developing family rules can be
the dominant force in
determining family functioning-
Where fewer members are in the
family there is often a need for
more rules - Eg: single parent
families may need to establish
more rules as they would face
different challenges- Rules are
established to create structure
and consistency.
 Roles
Define what each members responsibilities are
within the family unit - Roles can be defined by birth
order, parenting or the contributions the person
brings to the family as well as individual
personalities - Some roles defined by gender in the
past (mom homemaker, dad Breadwinner) are no
longer socially acceptable and with greater
education around diversity and role equality roles
can be defined in a much broader way.
Roles of Father in the Family
•Protector
One of the strategies we've used is encouraging fathers
to baby-proof or child-proof their home when the mother
is expecting. What are the things they can do to prepare
the home for the child? That's one of the ways that men
can protect their children from dangers inside the
household. They can also protect their children from
external dangers. This is especially important in
communities where there are higher levels of violence,
where there is a potential for the child to be exposed to
gang activity or crime.
Roles of Father in the Family
•Provider
As the role of provider, a father's ability to provide for
his family is related to his sense of duty, his sense of
identity, and his manhood. Different cultures have
different messages about what it means to be a man, a
husband, and a father. That the "real men bring home
the bacon," they support their family, they tend the
fields or work in the factories, the mines, and the
forests. Although the jobs may be dangerous, that is
their responsibility as the provider for their family.
Roles of Father in the Family
•Disciplinarian
In preparing their child for the future, fathers often
have high expectations. They want their child to
succeed, to see what's on the horizon, to aspire to
bigger and better things. As such, fathers need to be
there to teach their child how to handle their impulses,
how to stay calm under stress, and how to deal with
situations where they don't endanger themselves or
endanger others.
Roles of Mother in the Family
•Nurturer
Biologically, mothers have been given the hallowed
opportunity to bear children. Because they nurture the
developing child in their own bodies, they almost always
feel a compelling drive to protect the new, entirely
dependent life they've given birth to. Most mothers also
feel inherent motivation to comfort and guide their
child. So it's natural in the vast majority of cases that a
mother becomes her child's primary caregiver,
especially during the first few years of life.
Roles of Mother in the Family
• LOVE

This for most is the easiest. Loving children makes

us feel good, it is natural, and it is unsurpassed by
anything you could try and fulfil it with, the discovery
of what it is like to love a child is enough to change
hearts forever.
Roles of Mother in the Family
• CARE

To care is obviously a start. Caring for a child is

tough, mostly because children don’t care how you
feel, they have needs, and they need them filled.
From the first minutes of life, we begin the journey of
putting another’s needs before our own.
Roles of Mother in the Family
• CORRECT/DISCIPLINE

Children want pleasure and expect pleasure, all the

time. The role as a mother is to teach the children
that they cannot always seek pleasure.
Roles of Mother in the Family
• BUILDING UP YOUR CHILDREN

Creating resilient children begins in the home, it

begins with a mother who can love, care and correct
her children while also building them up with
encouragement, praise and wisdom.
Roles of Mother in the Family
• CONNECTION

Connecting with your children will change and

morph as they age. Connecting with a baby is looking
into their eyes, smiling, and laughing, it is spending
as much time as possible to pass on emotion and
stability which leads to a stable and healthy
environment in which to build connection.
Roles of Children in the Family

House chores

- house chores like cooking, dish washing, sweeping

(hoovering), cleaning, mopping, cloth washing, disposing
of bins, bed laying; gardening for example planting and
tending flowers, cutting grass
Roles of Children in the Family
Run errands and care for one another

– run errands for you, care for their younger siblings by

taking them to and bring them back from school (once
they are of age to do so and are available)

– older children can help the younger ones with their

studies, assignments, homework, projects and their
house chore if they are lagging behind.
Roles of Children in the Family
Parental care

-assist their parents to welcome, entertain and

accommodate visitors
-care and provide for their parents at their old age and
also protect and defend them against physical and
spiritual aggressors
Roles of Children in the Family
Other responsibilities

–encouraged to learn to lead family devotion and

prayers at home and when they visit their friends’
homes
–younger siblings to respect the older ones
Roles of Children in the Family
Other responsibilities

– learn good manners and bring good names to their

parents: “Stand up in the presence of the elderly and
show respect for the aged. Fear your God”

-obey and submit to their parents, as unto the Lord

and to one another and to outsiders, the way they will
submit to their parents.
 Relationship
It’s important to have a healthy relationship with our
family members as we can’t influence each other until
we have a positive relationship with them. - In order for
that to happen we need to invest in mindful time. So
families needs to give each other mindful “Special Time”
every day including praise and unconditional love. -
Healthy communications and clear and concise
expectations also build strong relationships. -
Consistency assists with development of trust.
 Routine
Makes family life easier as everyone knows what will
happen and when- Sit down and agree your daily
routines, you can even write or draw up routine charts
that you can refer to when needed- You can have
routines for getting up, breakfast, leaving the house,
dinner, screen time, bath time, bedtime etc. - Roles
play a factor in the development and implementation
consistent routines become rituals in family life and
families then come to depend on these for a sense of
security.
 Thank you
for listening!