PERSONAL

DEVELOPMENT
KNOWING THE FILIPINO RELATIONSHIPS
Filipino Relationships

Filipino social relationships are like a

mosaic of different values that are alive in
every Filipino regardless of who they are
with. A lot of researchers have already
studied these values and found them
unique to Filipino culture. Hence, social
relations in the Philippines are identified
by the values we embrace.
Filipino Values

Values are a guide to man’s behaviors and

actions as they relate with others in most
situations in life. With Filipinos, values are
somehow the symbol of identity which
helps them keep harmonious relationships.
Some of the Filipino values that we are
known for are:

1. Sense of propriety or ‘hiya’. It is a

positively defined value among Filipinos
which means conformity to the good.

2. Pakikipagkapwa-tao. It means showing

empathy towards and with others.

3. Hospitality. It is one of the values for which

Filipinos are famous; being polite and
accommodating to other people.
4. Utang na loob. It refers to a sense of
obligation on the part of someone being
helped with to repay the one who has done
a favor.

5. Bayanihan. It is the spirit of communal

unity and cooperation.
GENOGRAM

A genogram or family tree is a useful

tool to gather information about a
person's family. This visual representation
of a family can help us to identify patterns
or themes within families that may be
influencing or driving a person's current
behavior.
Reading: FAMILY STRUCTURE

The traditional family structure is

considered a family support system which
involves two married individuals
providing care and stability for their
biological offspring. However, this two-
parent, nuclear family has become less
prevalent, and alternative family forms
have become more common.
The family is created at birth and
establishes ties across generations.
Those generations, the extended family
of aunts, uncles, grandparents, and
cousins, can all hold significant
emotional and economic roles for the
nuclear family.
Different kinds of family structures:
Nuclear family: A family unit consisting of
at most a father, mother and dependent
children. It is considered the “traditional”
family.
Extended family: A family consisting
of parents and children, along with
either grandparents, grandchildren, aunts
or uncles, cousins etc. In some
circumstances, the extended family comes
to live either with or in place of a member of
the nuclear family.
Different kinds of family structures:
Step families: Two families brought
together due to divorce, separation, and
remarriage.
Single parent family: This can be either
a father or a mother who is singly
responsible for the raising of a child. The
child can be by birth or adoption. They may
be a single parent by choice or by life
circumstances. The other parent may have
been part of the family at one time or not at
all.
Different kinds of family structures:
Adoptive family: A family where one or
more of the children has been adopted. Any
structure of family may also be an adoptive
family.
Bi-racial or multi-racial family: A family
where the parents are members of different
racial identity groups.
Trans-racial adoptive family: A family
where the adopted child is of a different
racial identity group than the parents.
Different kinds of family structures:

Blended family: A family that consists

of members from two (or more) previous
families.

Conditionally separated families: A family

member is separated from the rest of the
family. This may be due to employment far
away; military service; incarceration;
hospitalization. They remain significant
members of the family.
Different kinds of family structures:
Foster family: A family where one or
more of the children is legally a
temporary member of the household. This
“temporary” period may be as short as a few
days or as long as the child’s entire
childhood.
Gay or Lesbian family: A family where one
or both of the parents’ sexual orientation is
gay or lesbian. This may be a two-parent
family, an adoptive family, a single parent
family or an extended family.
Different kinds of family structures:

Immigrant family: A family where the

parents have immigrated to another country
as adults. Their children may or may not be
immigrants. Some family members may
continue to live in the country of origin, but
still be significant figures in the life of the
child.
Different kinds of family structures:
Migrant family: A family that moves
regularly to places where they have
employment. The most common form of
migrant family is farm workers who move
with the crop seasons. Children may have a
relatively stable community of people
who move at the same time - or the family
may know no one in each new setting.
Military families may also lead a migrant life,
with frequent relocation, often on short
notice
 FAMILY LEGACIES

The Emotional Legacy

In order to prosper, our children need an

enduring sense of security and stability
nurtured in an environment of safety and
love.
 FAMILY LEGACIES
The Emotional Legacy
Sadly, many of us struggle to overcome a
negative emotional legacy that hinders our
ability to cope with the inevitable struggles of
life. But imagine yourself giving warm family
memories to your child. You can create an
atmosphere that provides a child's fragile spirit
with the nourishment and support needed for
healthy emotional growth. It will require time
and consistency to develop a sense of
emotional wholeness, but the rewards are
great.
 FAMILY LEGACIES

The Social Legacy

To really succeed in life, our children need to

learn more than management techniques,
accounting, reading, writing and geometry.
They need to learn the fine art of relating to
people. If they learn how to relate well to
others, they'll have an edge in the game of
life.
 FAMILY LEGACIES
The Social Legacy

In order to prosper, our children need to gain

the insights and social skills necessary to
cultivate healthy, stable relationships. As
children mature, they must learn to relate to
family members, teachers, peers and friends.
Eventually they must learn to relate to
coworkers and many other types of people such
as salespeople, bankers, mechanics and bosses.
 FAMILY LEGACIES

The Spiritual Legacy

The Spiritual Legacy is overlooked by many,

but that's a mistake. As spiritual beings, we
adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual
matters from one source or another. As
parents, we need to take the initiative
and present our faith to our children.
 FAMILY LEGACIES
The Spiritual Legacy

Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual

legacy to their children model and reinforce the
unseen realities of the godly life. We must
recognize that passing a spiritual legacy means
more than encouraging our children to
attend church, as important as that is. The
church is there to support parents in raising
their children but it cannot do the raising; only
parents can.
 PARENTING STYLES
One factor also that makes a family firm or
gentle is how the parents lead and form their
children.

Diana Blumberg Baumrind was a clinical and

developmental psychologist known for her
research on parenting styles and her critique of
the use of deception in psychological research.
According to Diana Baumrind, four parenting
styles influence children's development based
on two aspects of parenting behavior: control
and warmth.
 PARENTING STYLES

Parental Control refers to how parents manage

their children’s behavior which may range from
overly - demanding to give hardly any rules or
demands. Parental Warmth refers to whether
parents are accepting and responsive or
rejecting and unresponsive to their children.
The four types of parenting are driven by these
two aspects.
 PARENTING STYLES

Authoritarian. Parents tend to express little

affection and warmth to their children. They
believe that children “should” follow these rules
without questioning. The downside of this style
is children are not encouraged to express
themselves. And if not addressed, children will
likely become unsociable, unfriendly, rebellious,
or dependent.
 PARENTING STYLES

Permissive. Parents are warm; however, they set

no clear rules for their children. Thus, when
they reach adolescence, they realize that there
are no clear boundaries and there will be no
consequences for their actions. As a result,
adolescents may have problems with their
future relationships.
 PARENTING STYLES

Authoritative. Parents are firm and warm and

set limits with their children. They explain and
reason to their children which helps clarify the
rules with them. They actively listen to their
children, allow questions from them and
entertain ideas from them. Children with
authoritative parents become competent,
cooperative, likable, and autonomous. This type
of parenting is considered to balance parenting.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships
1. Communicate - It is an important component
in any relationship. Talking with each other
whether about trivial things or serious
decisions can help improve relationships.
Sharing what happened during the day, what
food they ate, what they learned at school, etc.
Adolescents can also become involved even in
solving problems, so all members will know that
they are part of the family and their ideas are
respected.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships
2. Learn to appreciate

It cannot be denied that the need to be

appreciated is fundamental to all. When family
members are appreciated, their self-esteem is
enhanced. Appreciation also promotes
healthier relationships because it establishes a
more positive home environment. Appreciation
is enhanced by hugs, kisses, and thoughtful
actions like simple "thank you" notes.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships

3. Shared Activities

No matter how busy family members are, it is

important to schedule a shared activity like
watching movies, hiking, bowling, or even as
simple as sharing a meal. These enhance
cohesiveness in the family and fosters a sense of
belongingness.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships

4. Be committed

The well-being of the family is considered to be

the top priority. Members are committed and
loyal to the values and rules implicitly or
explicitly set by them to keep the family
together.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships

5. Show support to each other

There will be times that families will experience

difficulties, challenging the cohesion of the
group. However, if members can extend support
to each other, chances are that they will be able
to overcome the problems.
 Ways of Improving Family Relationships

6. Accept each member as he/she is

Being part of a group and maintaining the

relationship can be a difficult task but learning
and understanding the differences among each
member can help foster a healthy connection.