UNIT 3:

BUILDING AND MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS

MOST ESSENTIAL LEARNING COMPETENCIES

11.1 Appraise one’s family structure and the type of care he/she
gives and receives, which may help in understanding
QUARTER 2 himself/herself better.
WEEKS 3 & 4 11.2 Make a genogram and trace certain physical, personality,
or behavioral attributes through generations.
11.3 Prepare a plan on how to make the family members firmer
and gentler with each other.
 COMPETENCY 11.1
Appraise one’s family structure and the
type of care he/she gives and receives,
which may help understanding
himself/herself better
 Big Question: How does your family affect you as a developing individual?

What composes a family? What makes a family? What makes a happy family?
What makes a complete family?
These questions will serve as our guide as we discuss the last part of our
module on Building and Maintaining Relationships. The module tackles on the different
aspects of relationships: personal relationships, social relationships and how your
family can make a big impact on your life as a developing individual. The last topic will
revolve around the different family structures, and how each family, regardless of
structure could uphold the family legacies that they could pass on to their children.
At the end of this module, the learners will be able to:
1. Appraise their family structure and the type of care they give and receive, which
may help in understanding themselves better,
2. Make a genogram and trace certain physical, personality, or behavioral
attributes through generations, and
3. Prepare a plan on how to make their family members firmer and gentler with
each other.
 DO THIS

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 1: FAMILY STRUCTURE

Direction: Choose from the box the correct answer.

a. Nuclear family h. Blended family

b. Extended family i. Conditionally separated families
c. Step families j. Foster family
d. Single parent family k. Gay or Lesbian family
e. Adoptive family l. Immigrant family
f. Bi-racial or multi-racial family m. Migrant family
g. Trans-racial adoptive family

1. A family that moves regularly to places where they have employment. Most
common form of this type of family are farm workers.
2. A family consisting of at most a father, mother and dependent children.
3. A family consisting of parents and children, along with grandparents,
grandchildren, aunts or uncles, etc.
4. A family where the parents have immigrated to other country as adults.
5. A family where the adopted child is of a different racial identity group than the
parents.
6. Two families brought together due to divorce, separation, and remarriage.
7. A family where one or more of the children has been adopted.
8. A family where one or more of the children is legally a temporary member of
the household.
9. A family that consists of members from two (or more) previous families.
10. This can either be a father or mother who is singly responsible for the raising
of the child.
11. A family where one or both of the parents’ sexual orientation is gay or lesbian.
12. A family where the parents are members of different racial identity groups.
13. A family member who is separated from the rest of the family. This may be
due to employment far away.
14. Dainty is being raised by her mother only. Determine this type of family
structure.
15. BJ lives with his younger sister, mother, and father. What is this type of family
structure?
 Point of reflection:

Which family structure do you belong?

KEEP THIS IN MIND

LET US DEEPEN:

FAMILY STRUCTURE
The traditional family structure is considered a family support system which
involves two married individuals providing care and stability for their biological
offspring. However, this two-parent, nuclear family has become less prevalent, and
alternative family forms have become more common. The family is created at birth
and establishes ties across generations. Those generations, the extended family of
aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins, can all hold significant emotional and
economic roles for the nuclear family.
 nuclear

migrant extended

immigrant step families

gay or lesbian single parent

FAMILY

foster adoptive

conditionally bi-racial/
separated multi-racial

trans-racial
blended
adoptive
 DIFFERENT KINDS OF FAMILY STRUCTURES
1. Nuclear family: A family unit consisting of at most a father, mother and
dependent children. It is considered the “traditional” family.
2. Extended family: A family consisting of parents and children, along with either
grandparents, grandchildren, aunts or uncles, cousins etc. In some
circumstances, the extended family comes to live either with or in place of a
member of the nuclear family.
3. Step families: Two families brought together due to divorce, separation, and
remarriage.
4. Single parent family: This can be either a father or a mother who is singly
responsible for the raising of a child. The child can be by birth or adoption. They
may be a single parent by choice or by life circumstances. The other parent
may have been part of the family at one time or not at all.
5. Adoptive family: A family where one or more of the children has been adopted.
Any structure of family may also be an adoptive family.
6. Bi-racial or multi-racial family: A family where the parents are members of
different racial identity groups.
7. Trans-racial adoptive family: A family where the adopted child is of a different
racial identity group than the parents.
8. Blended family: A family that consists of members from two (or more) previous
families.
9. Conditionally separated families: A family member is separated from the rest of
the family. This may be due to employment far away; military service;
incarceration; hospitalization. They remain significant members of the family.
10. Foster family: A family where one or more of the children is legally a temporary
member of the household. This “temporary” period may be as short as a few
days or as long as the child’s entire childhood.
11. Gay or Lesbian family: A family where one or both of the parents’ sexual
orientation is gay or lesbian. This may be a two-parent family, an adoptive
family, a single parent family or an extended family.
12. Immigrant family: A family where the parents have immigrated to another
country as adults. Their children may or may not be immigrants. Some family
members may continue to live in the country of origin, but still be significant
figures in the life of the child.
13. Migrant family: A family that moves regularly to places where they have
employment. The most common form of migrant family is farm workers who
move with the crop seasons. Children may have a relatively stable community
of people who move at the same time - or the family may know no one in each
new setting. Military families may also lead a migrant life, with frequent
relocation, often on short notice.
Sources: https://www.scoe.org/files/ccpc-family-structures.pdf;
https://www.boundless.com/sociology/textbooks/boundless-sociology-textbook/family12/family-
91/family-structures-521-10352/
 APPLY WHAT HAVE YOU
LEARNED

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 2: POEM WRITING

Make two five-line poems about your family. Follow this pattern:

On the topmost portion, write down the type of your family structure
First line is _________family
Second line is two adjectives (joined by and) which describe the noun
Third line is a verb and an adverb to describe the noun in action
Fourth line begins with like and presents a comparison
Fifth line starts with if only and expresses a wish.
Example: MY LOVING FAMILY
My family
Unique and chaotic
Changing constantly
Like flaming hot Thai dishes, which are quite exotic
If only we could relive our family life, of jolly years gone by

Family structure:
 REFLECT

INSPIRING STORIES OF FAMILIES

What does it mean to put others’ first before ourselves?
A doctor entered the hospital in a hurry after being called in for an urgent
surgery. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes & went directly to the
surgery block.
He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.
On seeing him, the dad yelled: “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t
you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”
The doctor smiled and said: “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came as
fast as I could after receiving the call… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can
do my work.”
“Calm down? What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm
down? If your own son dies now what will you do?” said the father angrily.
The doctor smiled again and replied: “… Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and
intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”
“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy,” murmured the father.
The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Your son
is saved!”. And without waiting for the father’s reply, he carried on his way running. “If
you have any questions, ask the nurse!!”
“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I can ask about
my son’s state,” commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor
left.
The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a
road accident, he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And
now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”
Source: https://vk.com/topic-62771305_29403044?offset=0

The Wooden Bowl

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old
grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step
faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands
and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When
he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do
something about father,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating,
and food on the floor.” So, the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There,
Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather
had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl! When the family
glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped
a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps
on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the
boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in
when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears
started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what
must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to
the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And
for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork
was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
Source: http://www.moralstories.org/the-wooden-bowl/

Give time to our family

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to
dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and
would love to spend some time with you.”
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out
for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise
invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some
time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment,
and then said, “I would like that very much.”
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When
I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date.
She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the
dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a
face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with
my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait
to hear about our meeting.”
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My
mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the
menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway through the entries, I lifted my
eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It
was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s
time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we
had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent
events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived
at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.”
I agreed.
 “How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much
more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so
suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received
an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had
dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be
there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife.
You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU”
and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important
than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be
put off till “some other time.”
Source: http://academictips.org/blogs/give-time-to-our-family/
 REINFORCEMENT

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 3: FAMILY PHOTO

Post a photo of your family. Preferably a latest one. This photo is memorable and
significant for you.

PLACE PHOTO HERE

Point of reflection:

There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to the best

type of family structure.

Always remember:

Every family is important. Respect, love, care should always be

present. Our mental growth and stability all depend on our
family.
 COMPETENCY 11.2
Make a genogram and trace certain
physical, personality, or behavioral
attributes through generations
 KEEP THIS IN MIND

GENOGRAM

A genogram or family tree is a useful tool to gather information about a person's

family. This visual representation of a family can help us to identify patterns or themes
within families that may be influencing or driving a person's current behavior.

Symbols for drawing the genogram or family tree:

Female symbol – name, age

Male symbol – name, age

Unknown gender

Married – add the year or ages

-------- De facto relationship – commencement date or ages

Separation – date or ages

Divorce – date or ages

List children in birth order and put names and ages either within the symbol or
underneath

Source: http://www.strongbonds.jss.org.au/workers/families/genograms.html

SAMPLE GENOGRAM 1:
SAMPLE GENOGRAM 2:

• André has been married twice. His first marriage to Hélène ended in 1981 due to her
untimely death. His first marriage date is not specified in this genogram. In 1983, he
married his second wife, Lisa.
• André is currently separated from Lisa, and according to the genogram, he is living alone.
• Lisa was married to someone before marrying André. She gave birth to triplets with one
male stillbirth. Lisa and her first husband became foster parents to a child. The couple
eventually got divorced.
• Mike is André and Lisa's son. Mike has many half-siblings: Daniel, Anne, Benoit, Estelle,
Jean-Claude and Lisa's two surviving children.
• On the other end, Max and Nicole had identical twins in 1973. Later, Nicole had a
miscarriage and a stillbirth. The couple adopted Daniel.

Take Note:

A genogram will not only show you the names of people who
belong to your family lineage, but how these people interact
with each other.
 DO THIS

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 4: MY GENOGRAM

Make your own genogram using the symbols and samples given. Enjoy!

MY GENOGRAM
 The next activity that we are about to do will identify the legacies our
family/parents has/have passed on to us. According to the Merriam Dictionary,
legacies are gifts by will especially of money or other personal property or
something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the
past. They do not necessarily be physical properties. They could be teachings or
beliefs that our ancestors passed on to us.

EXPLORE

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 5: EMOTIONAL, SOCIAL AND SPIRITUAL LEGACY

Emotional Legacy Evaluation

Answer each question by writing in your journal the number that best reflects the
legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.
1. When you walked into your house, what was your feeling?
1 Dread 4 Stability
2 Tension 5 Calm
3 Chaos 6 Warmth
2. Which word best describes the tone of your home?
1 Hateful 4 Serious
2 Angry 5 Relaxed
3 Sad 6 Fun
3. What was the message of your family life?
1 You are worthless. 4 You are respected.
2 You are a burden. 5 You are important.
3 You are okay. 6 You are the greatest.

4. Which word best describes the "fragrance" of your home life?

1 Repulsive 4 Sterile
2 Rotten 5 Fresh
3 Unpleasant 6 Sweet
5. Which was most frequent in your home?
1 An intense fight 4 A strong disagreement
2 The silent treatment 5 A kind word
3 Detached apathy 6 An affectionate hug

Results:
Above 24 = Strong emotional legacy
19 - 24 = Healthy legacy
14 - 18 = Mixed legacy - good and bad elements
10 - 13 = Weak emotional legacy
Below 10 = Damaged emotional legacy

Social Legacy Evaluation

Answer each question by writing in your journal the number that best reflects the
legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.
1. Which words most closely resemble the social tone of your family?
1 Cruel and abusive 4 Non-communicative but stable
2 Cutting sarcasm 5 Secure with open communication
3 Chaotic and distant 6 Loving and fun
2. What was the message of your home life with regard to relationships?
1 "Step on others to get your way." 4 “Mind your own business.”
2 "Hurt them if they hurt you." 5 “Treat others with respect.”
3 "Demand your rights." 6 “Put others before yourself.”
3. How were rules set and enforced in your home?
1 Independent of relationship 4 Inconsistently
2 In reaction to parental stress 5 Out of concern for my well-being
3 Dictatorially 6 In the context of a loving relationship
4. Which word best characterizes the tone of communication in your home?
1 Shouting 4 Clear
2 Manipulation 5 Constructive
3 Confusing 6 Courteous
5. How did your family deal with wrong behavior?
1 Subtle reinforcement 4 Severe punishment
2 Accepted in the name of love 5 Discussion
3 Guilt trip 6 Loving, firm discipline

Results:

Above 24 = Strong social legacy

19 - 24 = Healthy legacy
14 - 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements
10 - 13 = Weak social legacy
Below 10 = Damaged social legacy
Spiritual Legacy
Evaluation Answer each question by writing in your journal the number that best
reflects the legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.

1. To what degree were spiritual principles incorporated into daily family life?
1 Never 4 Frequently
2 Rarely 5 Almost always
3 Sometimes 6 Consistently
2. Which word captures the tone of how you learned to view/relate to God?
1 Absent 4 Casual
2 Adversarial 5 Solemn
3 Fearful 6 Intimate
3. How would you summarize your family's level of participation in spiritual
activities?
1 Nonexistent 4 Regimental
2 Rare 5 Active
3 Ocasional 6 Enthusiastic
4. How were spiritual discussions applied in your home?
1 They weren't 4 To teach
2 To control 5 To influence
3 To manipulate 6 To reinforce
5. What was the perspective in your home regarding moral absolutes?
1 If it feels good, do it! 4 Dogmatic legalism
2 There are no absolutes. 5 Moderate conservatism
3 Let your heart guide you. 6 Clear boundaries

Results:

Above 24 = Strong spiritual legacy

19 - 24 = Healthy legacy
14 - 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements
10 - 13 = Weak spiritual legacy
Below 10 = Damaged spiritual legacy

Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/building-relationships/familylegacies/the-legacy-
you-want-to-give
 KEEP THIS IN MIND

FAMILY LEGACIES
No matter who we are, where we live, or what our goals may be, we all have
one thing in common: a heritage. That is, a social, emotional and spiritual legacy
passed on from parent to child. Every one of us is passed a heritage, lives out a
heritage, and gives a heritage to our family. It's not an option. Our parents always pass
to their children a legacy … good, bad or some of both.
A spiritual, emotional and social legacy is like a three-stranded cord.
Individually, each strand cannot hold much weight. But wrapped together, they are
strong. That's why passing on a positive, affirming legacy is so important and why a
negative legacy can be so destructive. The good news is that parents can decide to
pass a positive legacy on to their children whether these parents received one or not.
Today, if parents don't intentionally pass a legacy consistent with the beliefs to
our children, our culture will pass along its own, often leading to a negative end. It is
important to remember that passing on a spiritual, emotional and social legacy is a
process, not an event. As parents, they are responsible for the process. God is
responsible for the product.
The Emotional Legacy
In order to prosper, children need an enduring sense of security and stability
nurtured in an environment of safety and love.
Sadly, many of the children struggle to overcome a negative emotional legacy
that hinders their ability to cope with the inevitable struggles of life. But imagine a
parent giving warm family memories to his/her child. A parent can create an
atmosphere that provides a child's fragile spirit with the nourishment and support
needed for healthy emotional growth. It will require time and consistency to develop a
sense of emotional wholeness, but the rewards are great.
A strong emotional legacy:
• Provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow.
• Fosters confidence through stability.
• Conveys a tone of trusting support.
• Nurtures a strong sense of positive identity.
• Creates a “resting place” for the soul.
• Demonstrates unconditional love.
Which characteristics would you like to build into the legacy you pass along to
your children if someday you will become a parent yourself? Even if you don't hit the
exact mark, setting up the right target is an important first step.
The Social Legacy
To really succeed in life, children need to learn more than management
techniques, accounting, reading, writing and geometry. As teenagers, you need to
learn the fine art of relating to people. If you learn how to relate well to others, you will
have an edge in the game of life.
In order to prosper, you need to gain the insights and social skills necessary to
cultivate healthy, stable relationships. As you mature, you must learn to relate to family
members, teachers, peers and friends. Eventually you must learn to relate to
coworkers and many other types of people such as salespeople, bankers, mechanics
and bosses in the future.
Nowhere can appropriate social interaction and relationships be demonstrated
more effectively than in the home. At home you learned — and children will learn —
lessons about respect, courtesy, love and involvement. The modeling of parents plays
a key role in passing on a strong social legacy.
Key building blocks of children's social legacy include:
• Respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people.
• Responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves, that is cultivated by
assigning children duties within the family, making them accountable for their actions,
and giving them room to make wrong choices once in a while.
• Unconditional love and acceptance by their parents, combined with
conditional acceptance when the parents discipline for bad behavior or actions.
• The setting of social boundaries concerning how to relate to God, authority,
peers, the environment and siblings.
• Rules that are given within a loving relationship

The Spiritual Legacy

The Spiritual Legacy is overlooked by many, but that's a mistake. As spiritual
beings, we adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters from one source or
another. Parents need to take the initiative and present this faith to their children.
Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual legacy to their children model
and reinforce the unseen realities of the godly life. We must recognize that passing a
spiritual legacy means more than encouraging the children to attend church, as
important as that is.
The church is there to support parents in raising their children but it cannot do
the raising; only parents can.
The same principle applies to spiritual matters. Parents are primary in spiritual
upbringing, not secondary. This is especially true when considering that children,
particularly young children, perceive God the way they perceive their parents. If their
parents are loving, affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they believe, children will
think of God that way. He is someone who cares, who is principled and who loves
them above all else.
 THE LEGACY YOU WANT TO GIVE

We all have good and bad parts to the legacy we have inherited. The key is to
move forward from here. For some, taking a closer look at the legacy they've been
given helps them assess the legacy they want to pass on. After considering your past,
here are some practical tips for the future:
1. Decide what you'll keep
You probably have things you received that are wonderful and need to be kept
and passed on. Other things may need to be thrown out. Or perhaps you have a
weak legacy that needs strengthening.
Whatever you received, you can now intentionally pass along the good. This
isn't always easy. If you saw hypocrisy in your parents' lives, you may be tempted
to throw everything out even though much of what your parents modeled was good.
Don't. That would be like burning down the house to get rid of some bugs.

2. Realize that there is a being who can redeem even the "bad stuff" in your
legacy.
Unfortunately, many of us have parts of our legacy that are weak or even awful.
Maybe one of your parents was an alcoholic or abusive or didn't provide the
nurturing you needed. In today's society, the stories of such families are common.
You may be asking, "How do I give something I didn't receive? Nobody modeled
this stuff for me."
Hope is not lost. Consider the story of Josiah from the Old Testament in the
Bible. His father and grandfather were involved in many wicked things, including
idol worship that threatened the entire nation. But after 8-year-old Josiah became
king of Judah, he reversed that trend. He sought God and purged Judah of idols,
repaired the temple and saved a nation.
Like Josiah, you can choose which things in your legacy are no good and throw
them away. It's important to break the cycle of hurt by leaving bad things behind
and creating a new legacy. Legacies are not easily broken and always benefit from
His guidance.
Chart a new course as you begin a positive legacy for yourself and those you
love. Research suggests that most fathers will parent the way they were parented.
That means only a minority of fathers will change their parenting style — even if
their parenting is wrong! Today, you can take positive steps to design a new
heritage for yourself and your family.
Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/building-relationships/familylegacies/family-legacies-
passing-on-a-legacy
 APPLY WHAT YOU HAVE
LEARNED

NAME:________________________GRADE AND SECTION:

__________________

WORKSHEET 6: REACTIONS TO THE EMOTIONAL, SOCIAL AND SPIRITUAL

LEGACY

1. What were your scores in the emotional, social and spiritual legacy evaluation?
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2. How do these scores reflect your home atmosphere?

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3. What is the legacy you have received from your parents and siblings?
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4. How do you plan to give a legacy when you start your own family in the future?
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 REFLECT

NAME:________________________GRADE AND SECTION:

__________________

WORKSHEET 7: THE IMPORTANCE OF MY FAMILY LEGACIES IN MY LIFE

JOURNAL WRITING

THE IMPORTANCE OF MY FAMILY LEGACIES IN MY LIFE

 COMPETENCY 11.3
Prepare a plan on how to make the family
members firmer and gentler with each other
 DO THIS

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 8: HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?

How do you feel about your relationship? Where do you see your relationships going?
Are you happy with your relationships? Put a if your answer is YES and write X if
your answer is NO.

CRITERIA / RELATIONSHIP FAMILY FRIENDS PARTNER ORGANIZATION

I. Overall feelings about your relationship:
Are you getting your needs met?
Are you speaking up and asking for what
you want?
Are you feeling heard?
Are you feeling encouraged and supported
to grow?
II. The decision-making process:
Are decisions made to your satisfaction?
Is there sufficient time to discuss, assess,
and process?
Do you feel as though your thoughts and
feelings are taken seriously?
Is there a collaborative spirit about
decisions?
III. Communication
Do you feel safe to say whatever you feel?
Do you feel listened to when you
communicate?
Do you feel encouraged to tell your truth?
Do you feel supported in all your dreams
and goals?
IV. Roles and Responsibilities:
Do you feel the division of tasks is working?
Do you feel that both of you are doing your
parts?
Do you feel that task allocation is fair?
Is there anything that you want to change?
V. Activities
Do you feel like you spend enough time
together?
Do you feel like you need more alone time?
Do you want to try something new?
 VI. Planning, schedules, and logistics:
Are you experiencing any schedule conflicts
you want to address?
Are there financial agreements that are fair?
Does each of you have enough time to
accomplish everything you want?
Source: Carter-Scott, Cherie. (1999). If Love is a Game, These are the Rules. Broadway Books, a
division of Random House, Inc. pp. 151-152.
 EXPLORE

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 9: MY RELATIONSHIPS

1. In which relationship do you have more checks?

2. In which relationship do you have more Xs?
3. Group all criteria with checks
4. Group all criteria with Xs.

RELATIONSHIP WITH

RELATIONSHIP WITH x
 KEEP THIS IN MIND

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/tribute-to-family
 FAMILY RELATIONSHIP: WHY IS IT IMPORTANT?
A strong family is all we need to fight the odds in life. It doesn’t matter which
type of family we belong to. No matter how the day has been for you, no matter how
people must have behaved with you, and no matter the problems you have been
facing, the joy and the smile of your family will help keep you balanced.

A family is important because our mental growth, well-being, and stability all depend
on our family.
• A family makes all its members feel safe and connected to one another.
• It provides us with the comfort of having people by our side during tough times,
helping us to manage our stress.
• A family allows us to feel safe, protected, accepted and loved despite our
shortcomings.
• Families are the basic units that teach children about relationships. Children
brought up in a healthy family will be able to form better bonds outside their home.
• Strong relationships teach us how to build trust in others as family members
share both good and bad times together.
• Conflicts in family teach children a respectful way to resolve problems in the
future.
• A strong family is all a person needs to become confident in life.

HOW TO BUILD STRONG FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS?

1. Spend quality time
• Set aside some time every day as family time, when you can talk about
things and laugh together. It could even be boring topics.

2. Maintain good communication with everyone in the family

• Be approachable to talk about difficult things. Talking about feelings like
anger or frustration or delicate issues should be welcomed instead of
avoiding them.
• Be prepared to talk about matters that need immediate attention
• Encourage non-verbal conversation through simple gestures like a pat in
the back or a simple kiss.

3. Appreciate everyone in the family

• Appreciate every member for performing their duties well. For example,
praising a brother or your sister for taking of your younger siblings. Or
praising your sister for washing the dishes.

4. Acknowledge and celebrate each other’s strengths and differences

• A good family always cherishes the uniqueness of each of its members and
acknowledges their abilities and strengths. At the same time, they help each
other correct their shortcomings.
 5. Work like a team
• Help with even simple things. This every member feels acknowledged for
their contribution
• Share household chores.

6. Forgive and make amends

• Apologize, and forgive others when someone makes a mistake. It teaches
children to take responsibility for their actions.

Most of us value our families but may not be aware of the significance of
advancing our family ties. It takes time, dedication and hard work to raise a successful
and happy family. But it is all worth the efforts.

https://www.momjunction.com/articles/family-relationship_00460134/

Take Note:

A family is important because our mental growth, well-being,

and stability all depend on our family.

Do not forget:

No matter who we are, where we live, or what our goals may

be, we all have one thing in common: a heritage

Take Note:

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, and call it a

family. Whatever you call it, whoever we are, we need one
 REFLECT

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 10: TRIBUTE TO MY FAMILY

ESSAY:
Guide questions:

1. Describe your family.

2. Share the memorable times you share with your family.
3. What is unique about your family?
4. What is your tribute to your family? What will you do in order for your family to
be firmer, gentler and closer to each?

TRIBUTE TO MY FAMILY
 REINFORCEMENT

NAME:_______________________GRADE AND SECTION: __________________

WORKSHEET 11: INSIGHTS ON RELATIONSHIPS AND TRIBUTE TO MY

FAMILY

ESSAY:
Guide questions:

1. What have you learned in this unit about personal relationship with family,
friends, partner, and organizations?
2. How do you assess the present state of your relationships?
3. What do you plan to do in order to improve and strengthen your relationships?

INSIGHTS ON RELATIONSHIPS AND TRIBUTE TO MY FAMILY