Unlock your social success

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Have you
ever noticed how certain individuals effortlessly capture
everyone's attention? It’s quite interesting to see how
that works in social situations.
Now, for many of us, conversations can be a bit awkward,
and we worry about saying the wrong thing, Sounds
familiar, right?
Well, here at The Grooming Coach, we get it, and we're
here to make socializing easier for you. Let's embark on a
journey to boost your confidence.
Vanessa V Edwards, the author of a book Cues: Master
the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication, says
that charisma is mostly about being friendly and capable.
Let’s make a look on two types of personalities
first one is Warm individuals, warm individuals radiate
trust, compassion and friendliness. They’re approachable
and make people feel comfortable.
Another one is competent person,
Competent individuals, on the other hand, are seen as
capable, respectable and important. People take them
seriously and listen to what they say.
Have you ever heard about Charismatic Personality,
Charismatic people often find a balance between both
two qualities, Warmth & Competence.
But many of us tend to favor one of these qualities more
than the other, making it challenging to find a balance
between both.
Warm people might appear less impressive, while
competent individuals can seem a bit scary.
Today, let’s explore some practical tips to enhance your
conversational skills and become more engaging and
charismatic.
I used to be shy in social situations, but a book that really
helped me is "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
by Dale Carnegie.
Here’s one powerful tip I took away from it: use people’s
names in conversations.”
Why? Well, Carnegie said that “A person’s name is to him
or her the sweetest and most important sound in any
language.” and it instantly creates a culture of respect,
recognition for the discussion. Most people put a lot of
value in their name, and they should! Because
It’s part of who they are.
Now if you struggle to remember names or if you often
forget people’s names, here’s a handy tip: when you first
meet someone, use their name three times in your
conversation.
For example,
1.Ask them their name,
2.Say, “it’s a pleasure to meet you. “Using their name,
and
3rd Confirm the spelling of their name.
This technique can really help you remember people’s
names better.
Let’s breakdown it,
Try repeating a person’s name three times during your
first conversation with them. For example, if someone’s
name is robin so u can use this method,
What’s your name, Robin?
Oh, nice to meet you, Robin.
Is that Robin with a ‘y’ or ‘I’?
Trust me these three simple uses can work wonders.
Another key principle is: be interested, not interesting.
The best way to connect with someone is to genuinely
care about what they’re saying.
When they talk about their interest’s, be curious. Ask
questions, engage with non-verbal cues like smiling and
nodding, and show them you're really into the
conversation.
Here’s a crucial tip: avoid turning the conversation back
to yourself. Instead of talking about yourself, shift the
focus on them. Ask about their art, their preferences
(Like/Dislike) and their Projects.
Here’s a great trick to keep the conversation flowing – it’s
called “Conversational threading” which involves offering
multiple topics into your response to create a more
dynamic conversation.
When someone asks about your weekend, share multiple
aspects in your answer. Mention a hike you went on, a
new restaurant you tried, and a book you’ve started.
This gives them more things to discuss, making the
conversation more engaging and lasting.
Lastly, Embrace your imperfections. Perfection can create
distance, making you seem inauthentic. Show some
vulnerability when you make a mistake, you’ll become
more relatable and likeable.
When discussing others, be positive. The way you talk
about someone reflects on you. Speaking positively
makes you appear trustworthy and kind.
Don’t underestimate your expertise & Never undervalue
what you’re good at.
Be proud of your skills, even if they seem ordinary to you.
Sharing your passion and Expertise in conversation shows
confidence and make people interested in what you have
to say.
When you feel good about being yourself, enjoy your life,
and appreciate your unique qualities, you naturally show
self-confidence. People are attracted to those who are
comfortable with who they are and trust me they
embrace their uniqueness.
And here’s a bonus tip for you, Go into conversations
with the intention of having fun, not with the goal of
making people like you. Enjoy the moment and let your
charisma shine naturally. If you enjoy this video, please
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