UNIT I

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

 Growth is a process to achieve something. It is always moving forward in positive

direction.
 Growth starts with “what we have”.
 Growth is an effortful process.
 Growth is an attention seeking process.

SELF
 The individual’s perception or awareness of herself or himself.
 Self realization is the result of pure stability.

SELF-CONCEPT
 Self-concept can also be called self-construction, self-identity or self-perspective.
 Self-concept is our perception or image of our abilities and our uniqueness. At first one’s
self concept is very general and changeable. As we grow older, these self-perceptions
become much more organized, detailed and specific.
 A person’s feelings about himself or herself.
 The self-concept is an organized collection of beliefs and self-perception about oneself.
 The self provides a framework that determines how we process information about
ourselves includes our motives, emotional states etc.

SELF-CONCEPT: TYPES
 PSYCHOLOGICAL SELF CONCEPT- Person’s attitude toward his abilities and
disabilities.
 BASIC SELF-CONCEPT: The way I tend to perceive myself.
 SOCIAL SELF-CONCEPT: What way I think others perceive me.
 IDEAL SELF-CONCEPT: What I want to be.
 PHYSICAL SELF-CONCEPT: Persons image of his/her physical appearance and
characteristics.
 SELF AWARENESS
 Awareness is the first step in the creation process.
 Self-awareness includes recognition of our personality, our strengths and weaknesses, our
likes and dislikes.
 Self-awareness basically includes our strengths and weaknesses.

SELF ESTEEM
 Person’s overall evaluation of his/her own worth.
 Self esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value.
 Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tends to be stable and
enduring.
 COMPONENTS
1. Self-esteem is an essential human need that is vital for survival and normal,
healthy development.
2. Self-esteem arises automatically from within based upon a person’s beliefs and
consciousness.
3. Self-esteem occurs in conjunction with a person’s thoughts, behaviors, feelings
and actions.

DEVELOPING SELF-ESTEEM

 Pay attention to your own needs and wants.

 Take very good care of yourself.
 Take time to do things you enjoy.
 Get something done that you have been putting off.
 Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities.
 Give yourself rewards.
 Free from ‘shoulds’.
 Spend time with people.
 Do something good for other person.
 Make it a point to treat yourself well every day.
 Test your reality.
  Experience success, take chances, solve problem.
 SELF-ESTEEM is central to our survival. It is basis of our well-being.
 SELF-ESTEEM means having a positive image of self.
 SELF-ESTEEM is a state of mind. It is the way, you feel and think about yourself and
others and is measured by the way you act.
 High self-esteem is associated with positive feeling and vice-versa.

SELF-ASSESSMENT
 Self assessment is to obtain accurate knowledge about yourself.
 Self enhancement is to provide positive information about themselves.
 Self verification is to confirm what they already know about themselves.

SELF-MANAGEMENT

 Self management is the process of achieving personal autonomy.

SELF MANAGEMENT

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SELF SELF SELF

MONITORING EVALUATION REINFORCEMENT

 SELF MONITORING: The aim of self monitoring is teach the person to become more
awareness of his/her own behavior.
 SELF EVALUATION
 SELF REINFORCEMENT: It refers to self delivery of rewards for reaching the goals which
were set.

ATTITUDE

 An attitude is the way of thinking.

  An attitude is an expression of favor or disfavor toward a person, place, thing or event.
 Attitude can be formed from a person’s past and present.
 Attitude is also measureable and changeable as well as influencing the person’s emotion
and behavior.

DEVELOPING POSITIVE ATTITUDE

 Never compare yourself with people.
 Remind yourself most things are possible if you try hard enough.
 Set a goal to make friends.
 Give everything a chance before you neglect/reject it.

FIVE STEPS OF POSITIVE ATTITUDE

 Believe happiness is a choice.

 Rid your life of negativity.
 Look for the positive in life.
 Reinforcement of positivity in life.
 Share happiness with others.

VALUE

 A trans situational goal that serve as a guiding principle in the life of a group or
person.
 Values motivate and justify behavior and serve as standard for judging people,
actions and events.

Unit – II

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
  Emotional Intelligence describes the ability, capacity, skill or trait of emotional
Intelligence model, a self perceived ability to identify, assess and manage the emotions of
one’s self of others and of groups.
 Emotional Intelligence can be called as ‘emotional Quotient’ (EQ).
 Interpersonal Intelligence: understanding one’s own feelings involves self-awareness.
 Interpersonal Intelligence: understanding the feelings of others, contributes to the ability
to empathize.

Very famous book on emotional intelligence of “Daniel goleman”, “Why it can matter more
than IQ”.

DOMAINS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

 Knowing one’s emotions.

 Managing emotions.
 Motivating oneself.
 Recognizing emotions in others.
 Handling relationship: The art of relating to others.

FIVE KEYS TO QUICKLY IMPROVE (EI)

 Ability to deal with one’s own negative emotions.

“We become what we think about all day long”.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Ability to stay cool under pressure.

“Trouble comes from the month”

-Chineese Proverb.

 Ability to read social cues.

“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are”.

-Anais Nin
  The ability to be assertive and express difficult emotions when necessary.

“Being who we are requires that we can talk openly about things
that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional
issues and that we classify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship”.

-Harriet Lerner.

 The ability to express intimate emotion is close, personal relationship.

“We live in the shelter of each other”.

-Certic Saying

DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

 PERCEIVING EMOTIONS
 Ability to identify emotion in a person’s physical and
psychological states.
 Ability to identify emotion in other people.
 Ability to express emotion accurately needs related to them.
 Ability to discriminate between authentic and inauthentic
emotions.
 FACILITATING THOUGHTS
 Ability to redirect and prioritise, thinking on the basis of
associated feeling.
 Ability to generate emotions to facilitate judgment and
memory.
 Ability to capitalize on mood changes to appreciate
multiple viewpoints.
 Ability to use emotional states to facilitate problem
solving and creativity.
  UNDERSTANDING – EMOTIONS
Ability to understand relationship among various emotions.
Ability to perceive the causes and consequences of
emotions.
Ability to understand complex feelings and contradictory
states.
Ability to understand transition among emotions.

 MANAGING – EMOTIONS
 Ability to open to feelings, both pleasant and
unpleasant.
 Ability to moniters and reflect on emotions.
 Ability to engage or detach from an emotional states.
 Ability to manage emotional in oneself and others.

Unit – III

COMMUNICATION

 Communication is the activity of conveying meaningful information.

 Communication process

SOURCE TRANSNMISSION RECEIVER EFFECT

(SENDER)

FEEDBACK

 Body language

1. Body language is an important of communication which can constitute 50% or

more of what we are communicate.
2. Body language comes in clusters of signals and postures, depending on the
internal emotions and mental states.
Example:
 Aggressive body language: Showing physical threat
 Bold body language: Just not being interested.
 Closed body language: Many reasons are closed.
 Defensive body language: Protecting self from others.
 Emotional body language: Identifying feelings.
 Open body language: Many reasons for being open.
 Relaxed body language: Comfortable and under stressed.
LISTENING-SKILLS

 Listening is the important part of the communication. Listening makes our loved
ones feel worthy, appreciated, interesting and respected.
 We always learn more when we than when we talk.
 Listening skills fuel our social, emotional and professional success and studies
prove that listening is a skill we can learn.

LISTENING
1.Superficial : listening with lot of their own preoccupation

2. Attentive : attention on every aspect of information

3. Selective: focus on selective information

HOW TO LISTEN WELL

 Maintain eye contact.

 Don’t interrupt the speaker.
 Sit still.
 Nod your head.
 Lean towards the speaker.

PARA- LANGUAGE
 Para-language refers to the non-verbal elements of communication used to modify
meaning and convey emotion.
 It includes the pitch, volume and intensity of speech.
 Para-language is sometimes used a cover term of body language.
UNIT-IV

SELF –PRESENTATION/ IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT

 Self presentation is how you want to present yourself in the social world.
 Impression management is the fine art of looking good.
 Impression management includes deliberate use of dress, makeup, body language and
manner.
 Appearance is the important part of impression management.
 Impression management is a process people use to control the perceptions or impressions
about themselves; a bit like personal branding.
 Individuals may believe they are being judged or perceived based on their outward
appearance, personality or other subjective opinions by other people.
  An authentic self-presentation is used when an individual wants to present himself to
other people the same way he perceives himself.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

 Relationship can play a major role in our lives.

 In healthy relationship, handling relationship is relating to others.
 Relationships are hard work!!! Developing a healthy relationship takes: TIME, EFFORT,
COMMITMENT.
 To develop a healthy relationship, the power of praise in relationship is very important.
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WHAT MAKES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

 Mutual Respect, Trust

 Honesty, Support
 Fairness, Good Communication

TEAM-BUILDING

A ‘team’ is defined as a group of people who collaborate or work together toward a

common goal.

12 C’S for Team Building

1. Clear expectations
2. Context
3. Commitment
4. Competence
5. Charter
6. Control
7. Collaboration
8. Communication
9. Creative Innovation
 10. Cultural changes
11. Consequences
12. Coordinator

SOME OTHER CONCEPTS

 Id, ego, and superego: developed by Freud, this is part of a formal structural
model of personality.

Id: source of all drive energy represents pleasure principle free of inhibitions and restraints.

Ego: seeks reality – represent reality principle attempts to satisfy drives in accordance with
reality.

Superego: represents moral branch represents moral principle expresses our ideals and moral
values.

 Conscious: subconscious, unconscious.

Conscious: Thoughts, Experiences and feelings which we are aware of.

Subconscious: Thoughts, experience and feeling which we are partially aware of.
Unconscious: thoughts, experience and feelings which we are unaware of

 Need hierarchy
Developed by Maslow suggested there are five needs that moulds our personality

Self Actualization
↑
Self Esteem
↑
Love and belongingness
↑
Safety and security
↑
Basic physiological needs

Physiological needs: hunger, thirst, sex, and other basic needs.

Safety and security: safety of home, self, loved ones.

Self Esteem: self worth and confidence.

Self Actualization: maximization of one’s own potentials.

PERSONALITY

 Personality including thy whole individual, his physical, temperament, skills, interest,
hopes, appearances, feeling, habits, intelligent, and achievement.
 It includes both what you are today and what you hope to be.