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    This document discusses dealing with emotions in three parts. It first defines emotions and feelings, and describes the physiological, behavioral, and cognitive characteristics of emotions. Second, it explores specific emotions like fear, anger, guilt, and love in more depth. Finally, it discusses emotional intelligence, denying emotions, emotional debt, and the benefits of expressing emotions. The key takeaways are that emotions motivate and guide our behavior, specific emotions like fear and anger can be problems if not addressed properly, and openly identifying and expressing our emotions leads to benefits like stronger relationships and relief of pressure.

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    This document discusses dealing with emotions in three parts. It first defines emotions and feelings, and describes the physiological, behavioral, and cognitive characteristics of emotions. Second, it explores specific emotions like fear, anger, guilt, and love in more depth. Finally, it discusses emotional intelligence, denying emotions, emotional debt, and the benefits of expressing emotions. The key takeaways are that emotions motivate and guide our behavior, specific emotions like fear and anger can be problems if not addressed properly, and openly identifying and expressing our emotions leads to benefits like stronger relationships and relief of pressure.

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    This document discusses dealing with emotions in three parts. It first defines emotions and feelings, and describes the physiological, behavioral, and cognitive characteristics of emotions. Second, it explores specific emotions like fear, anger, guilt, and love in more depth. Finally, it discusses emotional intelligence, denying emotions, emotional debt, and the benefits of expressing emotions. The key takeaways are that emotions motivate and guide our behavior, specific emotions like fear and anger can be problems if not addressed properly, and openly identifying and expressing our emotions leads to benefits like stronger relationships and relief of pressure.

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    The passage discusses dealing with emotions, types of emotions, emotional intelligence, and guidelines for expressing emotions in a healthy way.

    Emotions have physiological, behavioral, and cognitive characteristics. They also have motivational tendencies that direct us toward certain experiences.

    Guidelines for dealing with emotions include listening to your body, identifying feelings, personalizing feelings, owning feelings, and deciding how to express feelings.

    Dealing with

    Emotions
    “The fully human being experiences the
    fullness of his [her] emotional life; [s]he is in
    touch with, attuned to his [her] emotions, aware
    of what they are saying to him [her] about his
    [her] needs and his [her] relationship with
    others.” --Carl Rogers
    Emotions and Feelings

     Feelings—”act as a barometer, letting


    you know what your internal weather is
    like.” (Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the
    Small Stuff. . . And It’s All Small Stuff)
     Emotions—feelings that are experienced
    (thoughts, physiological, biological)
    Characteristics of
    Emotions
     Physiological Changes (fear=increased
    heart rate, breathing, etc., sadness=tired,
    lethargic)
     Behavioral Expressions—crying,
    laughing, blushing, shaking, etc.
     Cognitive Interpretation—what we think
    about the situation or emotion give it its
    value to us.
    Characteristics of
    Emotions
     Motivational Tendencies—emotions
    direct us toward pleasant experiences
    and away from anxiety or unpleasant
    experiences
     Pleasure—motivates to move toward
    something
     Anxiety—motivates to run or escape
     Anger—motivates to fight
     Sadness—motivates to shutdown or
    withdraw
    Moods

     A general feeling tone


    Types of Emotions
     Primary emotions
     Joy, acceptance, fear, surprise, sadness,
    disgust, anger, and anticipation
     Mixed emotions
     Love (joy+acceptance), Aggressiveness
    (anger+anticipation), etc.
     Emery & Campbell suggest only four
    primary emotions: mad, sad, glad and
    scared
    Problem Emotions

     Fear, anxiety, anger, guilt, grief and love


    can cause difficulties
     These emotions are often experienced
    with mixed reactions
    Fear

     When we think we know what we are


    afraid of, this is fear
     Has a specific object
     False Expectations Appearing Real
     Conditioned association between the
    object and our emotion (remember little
    Albert?)
    Anxiety

     An unpleasant, threatening feeling that


    something bad is about to happen
     “objectless” fear
     Preparation anxiety, ‘neurotic’ anxiety
    and worry are examples of types of
    anxiety
    Facing your fears and
    anxieties
     Admit your fears
     Take risks
     Acknowledge the positive
     Avoid catastrophic thinking
     Stay in the present
     Have patience
    Anger

     A feeling of extreme displeasure, usually


    brought about by interference with our
    needs or desires
     Hate, annoyance, rage, hostility,
    resentment are forms of anger
    Anger and Loss
     Anger is closely related to loss or threat
    of loss
     Some examples are:
     Loss of self-esteem
     Loss of face
     Threat of physical harm or violence
     Loss of valued possessions, skills, or
    abilities
     Loss of a valued role
     Lose of a valued relationship
    Anger

     Anger is neither right nor wrong


     Anger can be released or expressed in a
    right or wrong way
     You are vulnerable when angry
     Anger is a secondary emotion
     Anger vs. aggression—Aggression is any
    behavior that is intended to hurt somone,
    either verbally or physically (Weiten, 2001)
    Expressing Anger

     Anger requires a balance between


    spontaneous expression and rational
    control
     When you are angry with someone—
    YOU are the one with the problem
    Anger Do’s and Don’ts
     Do speak up when an  Don’t strike while the iron
    issue is important to is hot
    you  Don’t use “below the belt”
     Take time out to think tactics
    about the problem  Don’t make vague
     Speak in “I” language requests
     Try to appreciate  Don’t tell the other
    differences person what he or she
     Recognize that each thinks, feels or should
    person is responsible think or feel
    for his or her own  Don’t participate in
    behavior intellectual arguments
    that go nowhere
    Guilt
     The realization of sorrow over having
    done something morally, socially, or
    ethically wrong
     Guilt relates to behaviors and our own
    conscience
     Shame relates to the person
     Guilt says, “I made a mistake.” Shame
    says, “I am the mistake.” (John
    Bradshaw)
    Grief and Bereavement

     Any significant loss can bring about grief


     Kubler-Ross: five stages of grief
     Denial
     Anger
     Bargaining
     Depression
     Acceptance
    Grief

     When we come to accept our losses,


    grief can become a point of positive
    growth
     Life contains many types and
    experiences of loss—learning to grieve
    well is an important part of human
    development
    Love
     We learn our attitudes about what it
    means to be loved and to show love from
    childhood experiences
     Children operate under certain
    assumptions which allow them to get
    through life. One such assumption is that
    parents love their children, therefore,
    whatever behavior parents exhibit is seen
    as “loving behavior.”
    Love

     Love can also become a problem when it


    gets in the way of allowing people to
    experience the consequences of their
    own behaviors
     Love deserves healthy expression
    Expanding Your Ability to
    Love
     Express yourself
     Love yourself
     Be tolerant
     Hang in there
     Learn to be alone
     Grow up
     Practice
    Emotional Intelligence

     The ability to monitor, access, express,


    and regulate one’s one emotions; and the
    ability to use this information to guide
    one’s thinking and actions.
    Denying Emotions

     Repression—excluding threatening or
    painful thoughts and feelings from
    awareness
     Suppression—deliberate control of one’s
    emotions rather than expressing them
    Emotional Debt

     The condition of imbalance in which


    feelings are trapped instead of expressed
    Guidelines for Dealing
    with Your Emotions
     Listen to Your Body
     Identify Your Feelings
     Personalize Your Feelings
     Own Your Feelings
     Decide what to Do with Your Feelings
    Benefits of Expressing
    Your Emotions
     Positive feelings about yourself
     Stronger relationships
     Relief of Pressure

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