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I am, as the poets say, a mess.

@aaristea / aaristea.tumblr.com

| italian | infj ꗃ |
she/her/they/them
just me ranting about things i love,
'cause people irl don't really wanna listen.

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welcome !

| 🍂 she/her, but they/them is fine too.

| 📪 weird people don't interact thx.

| 💌 if not a weirdo, please feel free to send me asks.

This is a new pinned post where I'm trying to organise tags. It is definitely gonna fail. Unfortunately, I do not care.

I might have tagged stuff. I might have not.

But, if you look for it, you'll probably find it.

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one of the funniest parts abt the stardew valley community is that no one questions the hat mouse. like yeah it's a mouse that lives in the woods? and sells u hats? what's the issue

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y'all missing the whole point of stardew valley. it's supposed to be slow paced. you're a farmer. crops do now grow instantly and you wont be making millions in a season. enjoy the fucking game, take your fucking time. take days off to just forage and talk to people. aren't yall tired of the grind from real life??? do you want to experience burnout in a farming game too??????

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unfortunately the best advice i can give to everyone bad at fishing in stardew valley is that you just need to get good at fishing in stardew valley

This is a minor thing but it is very annoying to me when people replace every instance of "th" with þ, while ignoring the existence of ð. Like those indicate very different sounds I'm sorry you are not really saying "þat, þis, þose" unless you are hosing me down with saliva

Now, writing like ðis might be confusing, but at ðe very least ðis actually follows what English sounds like. I only ask for consistency. "ðis þeremin." "ðat þursday." "ðis is ðe þanks I get?"

nothing pisses me off more than when i see a fic on ao3 talking about reach. "this ship isn't here but i added them for reach" "this fandom tag isn't necessary but i'm adding it for reach" "reposting for reach" STOP IT!!!! this is not tiktok this is not twitter this is an ARCHIVE this is not how it works!!!

i will not deal!!!! that is not how any of this works!!!!

if you see people doing this shit, report it. its against the terms of service.

genuinely. copy the link to the fic or series, and then scroll down to the bottom of the page:

click on policy questions & abuse reports which takes you to this page:

if you scroll down, youll be able to report the fic right there but you can also check for yourself that its against ToS

all you need to do is explain that theyre deliberately mistagging things which is just not a thing on ao3 because its an archive.

by posting your fic there, ao3, has the right to manually recategorise tags. its in the ToS:

you cant deliberately mistag stuff on ao3; it is an archive. you cant tag for reach, and this is likely gonna get pat tag wranglers because they deal mostly with form not content of tags and if theyre tagging for reach, its gonna be the more popular tags.

so report the fuck out of them for it. most likely, their fic will just have tags adjusted and their account will be fine.

and if they keep doing it and get suspended for it, its their own damn fault.

also thats not even getting into the fact that mistagging fics is kinda antithetical to their goal of reaching more people because youre not reaching the people who want to read your fic?

when people pop off with some ass take like "why should I have to put my pronouns in my profile or signature or whatever, my name is Tom and I have short hair and am wearing an oxford shirt in my profile pic, figure it out" I always think

so do you just not talk to people from other countries for your job, ever?

like, some people don't, and you can follow the flowchart to a different part of the argument about why pushing back about pronouns is stupid, but I e-mail people in Singapore and Dubai and Japan and India every day. A lot of those people have names that are probably their local equivalent of "Tom," but I have never seen them before and I have no idea if that's a girl's name or a boy's name. They usually have profile pics too. I don't know how common short hair is for women or long hair is for men in their country. I don't know if that style of shirt is more common for men or more common for women. I'm not writing this from some homogenous whitebread oasis, either, I live in New York City, it's just simply not possible for me to know the common names in every language of every country where the people I need to work with, live.

just put your stupid pronouns in your signature, some exasperated project manager in Mumbai will one day appreciate it

I'm always teeth grit rolling the fucking dice on some Tsumugi on the Tokyo team rocking a pixie cut and a blue shirt, help me

you are that Tsumugi to somebody

I had an older, white, male coworker ask me over message:

"Hi, the Team Lead for our sister team... I need to ask them a favour. I've never met them in person, and their name is Chinese. Are they a man or a woman?"

And I was like "<Name's> pronouns are she/her"

This guy had never seen pronouns used in the wild before. He honestly thought they only mattered to people who flew the rainbow flag in their office. The look of dawning comprehension in his eyes warmed my heart for a solid week.

Why do people actively choose to stay in relationships if they don't feel loved and appreciated by their partner?

If my partner didn't have time for me, that would mean I'm not their priority. If they could go a whole week without even a phone call, I don't know what I'd think.

If baffles me that people stay in relationships of 2+ years purely out of habit (especially at a young age, when you're supposed to find yourself).

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