there aren't enough apologies in the world I can make to any woman on this website that I ever doubted or disbelieved, due to desperate lies from a despicable man.

"Pavlovich asserts that Gaiman and Palmer knew that Pavlovich was poor and homeless, and that Pavlovich only endured these abusive acts because she would otherwise "lose her job, housing, and promised future career support if she did not."

if it's really not "all men" then i need these men exposed by men. otherwise stfu!!

“until we know who these seventy thousand men are, it’s going to be ‘all men’. and I don’t want to hear a fucking word about it.”

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well now, isn’t this rich.

comment from today’s jezebel story on Neil Gaiman:

for fucking real 🙄

it’s insane to me that people still buy a “THIS IS ALL FANTASY” banner lazily slapped onto the blogs of terminally online horny losers that offer nothing but abusive, misogynistic and violent porn and ideas.

lol nah, it isn’t. nine times out of ten you’re gonna find that the people (primarily men) behind those blogs literally feel that way about women.

not now daddy, kitten's taking a firearms safety course and getting her license to carry.

If you’re a man over 35 reblogging the lewds and noods of young women on here who look barely old enough to be legal, and you claim to be a protector of women, ya ain’t. You’re predatory as fuck. And to the young women on here sharing themselves, be careful. I’m not saying to be ashamed of your naked self, but be wary who you share that with. Be vigilant and protect yourself. Not everyone is a safe space, no matter what they say.

A woman’s choice to engage in sexual banter on her blog or express herself openly in a sexual manner does not in any way allow you to dehumanize her. Nor does that allow you to invite yourself into her bed when she has not summoned you. She is not an object. Never a novelty. Every woman deserves respect no matter what dimension of herself she decides to show. Don’t be a dick head.

there aren't enough apologies in the world I can make to any woman on this website that I ever doubted or disbelieved, due to desperate lies from a despicable man.

Necesito hacerme esta polera

I’ve been out of the D/s scene here for a bit now, and seeing some posts circulating around that have made me realize exactly what it was the I found so off putting about it but couldn’t put my finger on before.

Quite frankly, if you claim your partner is this great person IRL but the only way they can get sexually aroused is by being degrading/abusive but “it’s kink”/gaslighting you etc….well, that doesn’t sound healthy to me. If your partner refuses to give you pleasure or denies you orgasms, then IMO that’s not healthy either. And probably because they don’t know how to fucking make you cum. If the only way your partner can get aroused is by having you pretend to be a preteen girl with pigtails, there might be an underlying issue there. If you claim BDSM and allowing your partner to be mean to you in any way (in the name of kink) has healed all your trauma, I personally call bullshit. If you or your partner cry “CONSENT” in the name of some unhealthy shit, you all need to go back and re-learn what consent means (because yeah any adult can give consent verbally but an abused person will not tell their abuser no because they’re fucking scared).

I’m a woman who loves sex. It’s beautiful, it’s natural, whether it’s long and slow and tortured or fast and furious and passionate. And there are a lot of healthy kinks out there, and a lot of healthy D/s relationships. But I will never want to be with a person who treats me like I’m a pocket pussy, one who doesn’t want to know my body and what gives it pleasure, and someone who even has a thought in their head that is degrading towards me. Give me a person who recognizes I’m a goddess and worships me and my pleasure, and I’ll return the favor. The idea of begging for orgasms or someone being so coldly clinically detached from me that they tell me to “finish myself off but be quiet” dries my pussy up quicker than you can say Trump. I deserve adoration and worship. So do you. I’m a magical sexual being. So are you. Fucking enjoy sex. You deserve it.

That’s how I feel, and whether you like it or not, I don’t care. I spent a lot of years in BDSM, & it did help me figure out what I want and need. Mostly it helped me recognize behavior I won’t tolerate, and the whole community is ripe with abuse. But if you have to convince yourself that what you’re participating in is okay and consensual, you might want to take a second look. You deserve better.

can't even help myself, gonna go ahead and pullquote some of this:

"But I will never want to be with a person who treats me like I’m a pocket pussy, one who doesn’t want to know my body and what gives it pleasure, and someone who even has a thought in their head that is degrading towards me. Give me a person who recognizes I’m a goddess and worships me and my pleasure, and I’ll return the favor. The idea of begging for orgasms or someone being so coldly clinically detached from me that they tell me to “finish myself off but be quiet” dries my pussy up quicker than you can say Trump. I deserve adoration and worship. So do you. I’m a magical sexual being. So are you. Fucking enjoy sex. You deserve it.

That’s how I feel, and whether you like it or not, I don’t care.

I spent a lot of years in BDSM, & it did help me figure out what I want and need. Mostly it helped me recognize behavior I won’t tolerate

and the whole community is ripe with abuse. But if you have to convince yourself that what you’re participating in is okay and consensual, you might want to take a second look. You deserve better."

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

Hmmm. There’s a couple of good points in this post, but overall it sucks. There’s toxicity in all types of relationships, not just the monogamous ones. There’s also jealousy because we’re human. There’s also nothing wrong with wanting a fully supportive and invested equally partner, and the part about time spent together…well, if they want to, they will. Let’s be honest, when people want to make the effort for you, they do, and expecting effort and consistency in relationships is not toxic. The only points I can agree on are that your value in yourself should not be based on your partner’s value of you, and the part about insecurity and marriage.

There is this prevalent notion on here, especially within the bdsm/kink communities, that if you’re not polyamorous or okay with poly relationships, you’re judgmental and you’re toxic. That’s simply not the case. There are numerous examples of toxicity in poly relationships too, I’ve seen and heard too many stories, and experienced some situations myself. It’s okay to be monogamous. There’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t want multiple partners or to share your partner with other people.

ALL relationships are valid, and all relationships have issues. Toxicity is not exclusive to monogamy. Quit trying to shame people who want to be monogamous.

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TW: Pedophilia

I refuse to believe that people who find pedophiles on the sex offender registry, hunt them down, and kill them are heroes.

They're not heroes. They're just people who want to kill someone and choose a convenient target who no one would defend.

You don't know anything about these people. They could easily be pedophiles themselves who are trying to protect their own self image by making it seem like they're against pedophilia. They could easily hate the pedophile who's been caught while covering for the pedophile in their family. Whoever killed Jeffrey Epstein killed a pedophile, but they're certainly no hero.

It's also way too easy to accidentally kill the wrong person. An innocent person shouldn't have to die because some asshole with a hero complex mistook them for someone else.

You want to stop pedophilia? Showing off how violent you can be toward the few who have been caught won't help. You need to take away the power that pedophiles have. You need to listen to victims of pedophilia. You need to stop raising children to always obey and never criticize adults. You need to believe victims. You need to stop believing that some victims are asking for it. You need to stop calling teenage boys "lucky" for being raped by a grown woman. You need to stop trapping children in poverty and making them financially dependent on pedophiles. You need to stop normalizing the preference of obedient partners. You need to stop normalizing middle aged adults dating 18-year-olds and being as close as possible to pedophiles without crossing an arbitrary line.