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support asexual people

1) the world was not designed well for them

2) they are underrepresented 

3) they are cool beans who deserve to feel loved

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also if you’re an aphobe tell me to block you or block me first thanks

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millettown

not that my input really matters, but i don’t know much of lgbt history other than bits and pieces of stonewall, a little bit of the aids crisis, and the legalization of gay marriage; i’m an actual child and nobody here (kentucky) educates anyone/gets educated on it

how about instead of shaming people—especially young people—for not knowing our history, we provide them with credible resources?

here’s a long list of LGBT+ historical events worth googling and learning about. i’m not sure if all the dates and details are spot on, but, again, this is really just a guide for what to research on your own. to warn you, a lot of this history is ugly, including things like the conflation of pedophilia and LGBT+ people, genital mutilation, homophobia, transphobia, nazis, and wide scale persecution.

Free Resources:

Before Stonewall: The Making of a Gay and Lesbian Community (warning: this documentary was made in the 80s and is dated in a lot of respects as a result; it also features quotes from Allen Ginsberg, who we now know was a pedophile, but it’s still very informative in terms of history)

Some Purchasable Resources:

(most of these can be bought used online for pretty cheap and some can be found in libraries)

Before Stonewall: Activists for Gay and Lesbian Rights in Historical Context by Vern L Bullough (it’s a bit dated, but still informative)

A Little Gay History: Desire and Diversity Across the World by R. Parkinson

Sapphistries: A Global History of Love between Women (Intersections) by Leila J. Rupp

Gay Voices of the Harlem Renaissance (Blacks in the Diaspora) by A.B. Christa Schwarz

The Lavender Scare: The Cold War Persecution of Gays and Lesbians in the Federal Government by David K. Johnson

Queer Brown Voices: Personal Narratives of Latina/o LGBT Activism edited by Uriel Quesada, Letitia Gomez, and Salvador Vidal Ortiz

Transgender History: The Roots of Today’s Revolution by Susan Stryker

Asegi Stories: Cherokee Queer and Two-Spirit Memory by Qwo-Li Driskill

“India’s Supreme Court has issued a historic ruling confirming the right of the country’s LGBT people to express their sexuality without discrimination.
Judges ruled that sexual orientation is covered under clauses in the Indian Constitution that relate to liberty, despite the Government claiming there was no legal right to privacy.
The ruling paves the way for discriminatory practices against LGBT people to be challenged in the courts.”
(read more)
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demigray

This is such a huge deal! It affects 1.3 billion people.

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chrisdigay

This is…… amazing.

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fernlets-deactivated20190714

support aces of colour who are struggling to reclaim their sexuality while being actively fetishized, hypersexualized, and/or desexualized based on their race and intersections of neuro-atypicality, physical disability, etc.

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fernlets

i’m op of this post (i’ve since changed my url) and the amount of bloggers who have reblogged this and tagged it with some variation of “thank you” shows you how important it is to recognize people of colour who are on the ace spectrum

fun tip for cis people: instead of saying “back when she was a he” or “back before [birthname] became [preferred name]”, try not being a pile of shit by saying something like “before she came out” or “before she began her transition”!

Pls friends and thanks.

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marysburgerbackpack

“before she came out” is so easy and preserves so much dignity, PLEASE

I’ve been wondering the best way to say this. Thank you. 

also if their transition is irrelevant to the story, don’t bring it up! just say “when X was a kid/ younger/ in college/ etc” and carry on using their current name and pronouns.

That last point is very important! DO NOT OUT ANYONE! Do not bring up their trans status or transition unnecessarily! And you trying to look more interesting/cool/whatever by having a trans friend does not count as “neccessary”!!

once these nails dry……bitch..

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spook-mutt

Hey Chelsea you ever think about that wild bitch from Holes who painted her nails with rattlesnake venom and clawed a motherfucker across the face?

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bumbleshark

that was a very special moment for my young lesbian ass, thankyou for reminding me

i feel like we need to have a better line in the “gays who can drive” community between “gays who THINK they can drive” and “gays who can actually drive” because my girlfriend can actually drive and get this sexy intense look when shifting gears but my twink roommate is driving me rn and im terrified for my life he’s just singing along to panic at the disco with both his hands out the window and his eyes shut

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Sapphic//Lesbian Pop

Pop Songs by Lesbian Artists, inspired by Amandla Stenberg coming out as a lesbian!

  • Let My Baby Stay by Amandla Stenberg
  • Girls Like Girls by Hayley Kiyoko
  • Pretty Girl by Hayley Kiyoko
  • Sleepover by Hayley Kiyoko
  • Curious by Hayley Kiyoko
  • She Keeps Me Warm by Mary Lambert
  • Know Your Name by Mary Lambert
  • Secrets by Mary Lambert
  • Jessie’s Girl by Mary Lambert
  • Explosion by Zolita
  • New You by Zolita
  • Holy by Zolita
  • girls by girl in red
  • i wanna be your girlfriend by girl in red
  • 1950 by King Princess
  • Talia by King Princess
  • Holy by King Princess
  • Boyfriend by Tegan & Sara
  • Boys aside by Sofya Wang

Hey, we just wanted to provide a few of asexual/romantic articles we have written so that all of you have a rebuttal ready if any aphobe comes at you saying that “asexuals haven’t historically been a part of the queer community”

The Golden Orchid- An order of lesbians, asexuals, aromantics, and women who didn’t want to get married to the men their family picked our for them looking out for each other.

Langston Hughes: the Poet - A take on the famous poets sexual and romantic orientation, considering that maybe both sides are right in a way.

Christina, the King of Sweden- Someone on the asexual spectrum who was one of the most interesting figures we have covered

when love simon came out white gays got hella loud-which is fine because it was a coming of age movie about a closeted gay kid. but it’s been real quiet since the announcement of rafiki, which is not only a film about two kenyan girls but the first kenyan film to go to sundance

on top of that despite the best efforts of the director to appeal to the kenya’s film and classification board the film was banned in kenya on the grounds that it “attempts to legitimize lesbianism”. since that put the film in the spotlight it seems like this should have shown up on some radars and spawned a few “support rafiki” posts yet they’ve been very few and far between

Is there any place where I, an American woman who is not straight and who would love to see a Kenyan Lesbian film, can support this?

the film came out at cannes (not sundance) last month and is still playing at festivals so it‘ll probably be available in a few months. the soundtrack is on itunes

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corned-beef-hash-deactivated201

yesterday i went to a gay bar for the first time, and I met two people. The first was a man well into his 70′s, who had only come out since his wife died. Even though he could barely walk, he knew every single person at the bar, and each one came over for a hug and to chat. The second was a transgender woman who, after two children and three grandchildren, had finally decided to live as herself. She was wearing heels and leather pants and makeup, and she was absolutely beautiful. she knew she was as well, and she was so proud and excited when people walked by and said “hey girl” without even thinking about it. point i’m trying to make is, it’s never too late to come out

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