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this is a good article for the most part but imo misses the core issue even though one of the guys quoted lays it out pretty explicitly:

this is why I don't feel bad for men who claim the Male Loneliness EpidemicTM (not a real thing) "forces" them to turn to porn etc.: it's the other way around. they choose to seek out one-sided and/or transactional "relationships" with porn and online sex workers because they are completely uninterested in an actual relationship.

because an actual relationship requires work (everything from basic personal hygeine to listening skills to shared housework) -- work that to a healthy person is only occasionally dull because when you care about someone and find them interesting, there's pleasure in that work.

but to these men it all feels pointless and joyless because they do not care about women and it's not worth it to them. they don't want to have to listen to a woman talk about her day, let alone about her problems (especially not any problems she might have with him). they don't even want to engage with a woman face-to-face irl. they want a woman who cares only about them, and who doesn't ask them to care about her.

and then when their misogyny leads them into self-isolation, debt, and resentment, they turn around and say it was the fault of women all along. and then a whole society, including a lot of women, fall for it and ring the alarm over male loneliness: a problem created solely by men, and solvable only by men, which stems from misogyny and hurts women more than anyone else. it's such bullshit.

honestly just kicking and spitting mad this morning about how the reason progressives and democrats have lost all power in this country is largely because of virtue signaling idpol shit i ALWAYS thought was fucking goofy all the way back to 20 fucking 12 and got called everything but a child of god for saying “maybe we should focus on actions and gathering power and coalition building and not lbeing perceived as the most ideologically correct in every situation and scolding people for using the wrong words” and yet here we fucking are and we are all going to die under fascism. i hate everyone and everything

and these people are just off in their own little echo chamber on bluesky taking no accountability for the way the left became the coalition of insufferable teacher’s pets, out of touch academics who level bad-faith accusations of racism at anyone who annoys them slightly, and “zero covid” science deniers who call you a genocidair if you’ve left the house without a mask in the past 5 years. like people literally do not want to reflect on how policing everyone else’s language to death and splitting hairs over “white feminism” and harping on celebrities’ political stances and shit has made so much of this country openly hostile to anyone with progressive ideals and i could have TOLD you this, i DID tell you this in 2021 and got doxxed for my trouble, but they killed cassandra first cuz she feared the worst….

one of the most baffling things of the pro prostitution movement is their favorite mantra, “sex work is work.” that’s so funny. what do you expect me to say, “no it isn’t?” because i don’t care. makes not a lick of difference to me. you know what else is work? child labor, sweatshop labor, prison labor, slave labor, sharecropping, indentured servitude. all work. do you know why reasonable people are against those things? it’s not because they aren’t work. it’s because the inherently exploitative and potentially injurious conditions of the jobs make them morally unjustifiable. “sex work is work,” so what? what’s your point?

Being an incomplete female, the male spends his life attempting to complete himself, to become female. He attempts to do this by constantly seeking out, fraternizing with and trying to live through an fuse with the female, and by claiming as his own all female characteristics – emotional strength and independence, forcefulness, dynamism, decisiveness, coolness, objectivity, assertiveness, courage, integrity, vitality, intensity, depth of character, grooviness, etc – and projecting onto women all male traits – vanity, frivolity, triviality, weakness, etc. It should be said, though, that the male has one glaring area of superiority over the female – public relations. (He has done a brilliant job of convincing millions of women that men are women and women are men). The male claim that females find fulfillment through motherhood and sexuality reflects what males think they’d find fulfilling if they were female.

- S.C.U.M. Manifesto (Society for Cutting Up Men) by Valerie Solanas 1967

will never get over what happened to the women’s march. the largest single-day protest in the history of the WORLD. 82 countries and 7 million people. an incredible display of female solidarity, hope, strength, and resistance. reduced to “white women in pussy hats.” not by conservatives but by leftists!! who gleefully dismissed this enormous protest because “white women voted for trump.” never mind that the women who attended the march very obviously did not vote for trump. they were all vilified anyway, even though a huge percentage of the protestors and organizers weren’t even white. the whole protest somehow came to be seen as a cringey, frivolous display of white woman privilege. again, the women’s march was GLOBAL and unprecedented in WORLD history. yet it’s pretty much never talked about anymore, except to joke about pussy hats.

I will never get over the fact that theres a rather large group of people who not only think that snoop dogg is a cute family friendly celebrity but also that jk Rowling is evil and too problematic to even be referenced anywhere

i’ve been a 23 year old girl and i can tell you it does not

When I am skeptical of a woman/girl labeling herself as asexual, I'm doing it from a feminist perspective.

How many times have we read of women saying some brainwashed bullshit along the lines of "Orgasming during sex isn't important to me, the special part is feeling close to my partner!" Or the whole conservative woman thing about "wifely duties" where sex is seen as maintenance of the relationship instead of something you enjoy together.

Women are taught by society that our pleasure and autonomy isn't a part of the bigger picture. The increased usage of the asexual label is an attempt to cope with that flawed sentiment instead of fighting it, in addition to women just plain not being attracted to people who don't enhance their lives.

Many of the women who call themselves asexual actually mean celibate (or wish they could be celibate), but that word carries baggage that they understandably don't want. If we want the word "asexual" to have meaning, it's important to focus on telling women that their pleasure DOES matter and it's okay to have standards that no one is meeting.

Crazy how “people deserve dignity and respect regardless if you find them fuckable” changed to “you need to find someone fuckable if you think they deserve dignity and respect” real quick in feminist and LGBT spaces. :/

I literally love early law and order SVU because they’re so judgmental of freaky men. They find out that a guy watches porn and they’re like.. this fellow is sus. Perhaps a killer. And they’re right

that case about that man drugging his wife, raping her and recruiting 72 men to rape her as well will always stick with me. 30% of men approached by the man offering to give them an opportunity to rape Gisèle turned him down, but 0% turned him in.

“natural protectors.” that’s what we’re supposed to believe men are. we are supposed to keep ourselves small and weak and helpless, perpetual damsels in distress, all so that some fictional big strong man can feel really good about himself if he protects us from a bad situation.

but if that’s true - if men really are biologically wired to feel a desire to protect people more physically vulnerable than them - how is it possible that you can get that many men to agree to rape a woman? how can the men who were approached to take part in it, but declined, not report him to the police?

how many of the men who took part in it have daughters, wives, sisters, mothers that they’ve hurt?

they get so fucking mad whenever we suggest we feel unsafe around them rather than protected, but they never have that same level of vitriol for the men who make it clear that they are our predators, not our protectors.

the article i read said most of the rapists lived a few km away...

so women are supposed to live our lives knowing that in a few km radius around our home there's dozens and dozens of predators happy to come and rape a drugged out 60yo woman + more men who know abt this and do nothing. the youngest rapist was 26 the oldest 74. these men are normal citizens with wives and kids. one of them a 34yo construction worker said it wasn't rape since her husband gave permission. one of the men was a nurse, another a fireman, another a city councillor. the woman's husband also had photos of his own daughter unconscious in her underwear and filmed his daughters-in-law in the bathroom. hard to wrap your mind around the whole thing. how many women think they're married to a perfectly swell guy who's really one easy opportunity away from this?

imagine if men lived in a world where they know their wife could easily find 70+ local women happy to come and torture him in his sleep, while more women know and don't care enough to help? i wish men had any clue what this world they created feels like for women