tbh on some level i do think it becomes a myth that most women dress seductively for themselves. if you ask a skinny beautiful woman why she likes to wear uncomfortable heels and tiny skirts and hours worth of makeup and hair styling she says it makes her feel confident. why does it make someone feel confident? itโs because she knows she looks desirable. who is she desirable to? men, mostly, because her โpersonal styleโ lines up with patriarchal femininity. like once you dig a little bit into the โwhyโ part choice feminism becomes misogyny in a barbie pink package. obviously iโm not saying the only way out of patriarchy is to stop being effeminate at all, but the fact of the matter is that strictly conforming to what men want from you is never and can never be feminist, and that the reason for doing so is almost never truly about personal comfort and independent choice. you, self described office siren, would you dress that way if you worked from home? would you dress that way if it was guaranteed with 100% confidence that nobody will ever see you like that? the intention is right in the name of the trend: to attract menโs attention. like itโs so fucking silly to act like any of this is empowering or a free choice. iโm not stupid. you may be stupid enough to think youโre doing it for Yourself but i certainly am not