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Kia, Black, Bi, 25, Nonbinary, they/them TME (Transmisogyny Exempt), @white people: don't follow unless I follow first (current white followers can stay)

Have your AGE in your bio/carrd or you're getting blocked.

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  • If you think you can be a trans inclusive radical feminist dni
  • Tme people who think they can use the t-slur DNI or you will be blocked when I find your stupid ass
  • Transandrophobia truthers (and whatever the nonbinary equivalent is 🙄) DNI or you will also be blocked
  • Thinspo/Proana blogs DNI or you will be blocked
  • Johnny Depp stans/ people who think Amber Heard was the "real" abuser
  • If you describe yourself as a "Fandom nerd" or your blog as a "Fandom blog" Do Not Follow me
  • If your blog is empty and/or you have a default profile pic I will assume you're a bot and block you
  • If you send me anons about being blocked before ever interacting with me, I'm trying to make you explode with my thoughts

shayma escaped gaza before the crossing closed and has been struggling to care for her family of 16 in egypt. rent is skyrocketing, and now her brother needs help funding his master's degree. she just lost her childhood friend and her friend's family, she needs support right now.

she didn't ask me to post this, i just wanna show her there's still people out there who care. please help her

Its not whataboutism to notice when you don't mind that palestinian children are killed in the most horrendous ways imaginable and their bodies disrespected but go into philosophics about how israeli childrens' bodies are "disrespected" because they were put into coffins (????) You literally do not care that we have been seeing nightmarish images of Palestinian children being killed for more than a year and it's not even subtle you genuinely do not mind seeing those images because otherwise it would have changed your entire world view.

rap has probably been the most consistently popular and influential genre of music for the past 40+ years but your average person on tumblr is less willing to listen to it than a random white teenage boy in the suburbs or a 4channer who lurks on /mu/ every once in a while

ask a tumblr user why they don't listen to rap and you get shit like this lmfaoooo

i'll reblog resources and info on how trump's fucking us over of course but it really is so telling that a lot of these people weren't posting the same things when biden was president. instead we were getting all these long posts about how he was great and progressive and Doing His Best. like we all conveniently forgot he was the one who stopped hospitals from honestly reporting COVID death numbers and let dozens of transphobic bills pass and let roe v wade get shredded and pursued oil pipelines and endorsed cop city and deported more people than trump and let boeing get away with openly assassinating a guy and enthusiastically funded palestinian genocide and

started ignoring the bird flu resurgence to begin with and let food corporations lie to inflate prices and didn't push all that hard for student debt relief and endorsed the use of militarized police against students and endorsed mask bans and stood by as terrorism charges were brought against people passing out leaflets and

if this system supposedly still works then nothing happens overnight. you can't say one day that biden had no influence or power and then as soon as trump takes over a day later he's an unstoppable dictator. both of them work completely within the framework of the United States as a colonial imperialist empire, it's just one of them pretended he couldn't do anything about anything to make leftists think he was still on their side

my pitch to avoid transphobic language is, as always, to avoid euphemism.

"(coercive) assigned sex at birth" is not a euphemism, it is an accurate description of a literal process that includes a social, legal, and all too frequently medical component. it is legal assignment into a sex class. it describes something done to us. it is something done to every single person who has any official birth documentation.

when you use it as a euphemism to imply any specific trait (e.g. "AMAB" to imply "has a clitoris/penis capable of penetration" or "AFAB" to imply "has a uterus capable of gestation") this is a transphobic assertion. it is equating the particulars of the body with one's assignment, which is functionally how cissexism works. the point is to obscure the legal/economic reality of assignment into a class through suggestion that it is merely descriptive of bodies.

assignment does not describe bodies. it is used to determine what forms of medical abuse someone is subject to, what medical care and bodily modifications a person can legally pursue and economically access, with what required documentation and formal surveillance. in this way, it can describe what traits one is punished for having, what legal restrictions to bodily autonomy one must navigate around, but it does not describe what traits one has.

if you find yourself searching for a term to euphemistically suggest a sexed trait (whether a genital configuration, a gestational capacity, a hormone ratio, an amount of breast tissue, etc.) without having to say it outright, whatever you reach for will likely end up reifying sexgender (which is the construct that creates intersex and transgender/transsexual subjectivities). there is no non-transphobic way to use euphemism to avoid talking about the particulars.

and you can tell people use these terms euphemistically, because they will complain at terminology like "TMA"/"TME" by stating that it "describes genitals" or is "demanding to know one's birth sex." To say someone is transmisogyny affected (structurally, legally, socially, economically) is a relationship to a particular mode of oppression. Same with saying someone is transmisogyny exempt. It describes a relationship to structural power. It literally does not suggest anything about one's physical traits at all.

now, because of how transmisogyny operates materially, it is a result of the sex assignment process, and the enforcement of that assignment. so trying to define TMA without respect to CASAB essentially attempts to redefine transmisogyny away from its material analysis of how it operates. however, TME has no direct relationship to CASAB-- perisex cis men, perisex cis women, intersex cis men, intersex cis women, perisex trans men, intersex trans men, some perisex nonbinary people, some intersex nonbinary people, etc. are all TME. it's a relationship to a particular power structure, not a physical descriptor.

if you want to avoid transphobia, then make a practice of thinking through what you're actually talking about (a practice? documentation? physical traits? a relationship to power? someone's gender?) and then talk about it with specificity.

and if you discover that talking about it specifically would be inappropriate (e.g. you wanted to ask if someone "is AFAB" but your actual question is "do you have a penis?" and you don't want to ask them that because you're in a context where you aren't in a sexual encounter and this information is not necessary) then do not say it. using a euphemism would not make that question any less inappropriate, it would just layer transphobia on transphobia.

Assignment is a social process, not a reflection of biology. Trans women aren't tma because we have "beards and other masculine features", come on, do you fucking know what you sound like? We're tma specifically as a function of rejecting male assignment.

hi. this is an incredibly bad faith reading of what i said. i am fully aware that it is a social process. that social process affects all people perceived as transfeminine and there are afab intersex people who are perceived as transfeminine due to having a mix of traditionally masculine and feminine traits, and face transmisogynistic violence. intersex people are absolutely not the primary targets of transmisogyny but they can be and are affected by it too.

Tma stands for transmisogyny affected, but what the term means, which gets clarified *constantly* in these discussions, is the primary targets of transmisogyny, which is to say, transfeminine people. Tme people are tme not because they categorically cannot experience transmisogyny, but because they're able to exempt themselves from it by leaning into their assignment or by leveraging transmisogyny against tma people, whereas for tma people it is inescapable and also goes beyond the interpersonal and into the structural. That power dynamic is why splitting tma and tme people in the specific way we do is analytically useful.

Also just to be explicitly clear, there are intersex people who are tma. Intersex transfems exist.

This is the money which was raised in a day for Ao3. This is the spare income contributed by a collective of people to fanfic site, so that they can be a board member. $130k USD and I am sure a good chunk of it came from tumblr users too, cause of the way we lose our minds on here when ao3 is down.

The centering of one's own comfort is such a tremendous thing, that it can make us disregard a genocide. It can make us forget that not even a year ago, a member chose to leave ao3 because the site apparently took an issue with the chant "from river to the sea". It can make us accuse flesh and blood people who are trying their best to survive under a genocide, of being scammers while pouring money into a site which will probably just sit on it. I am not at all surprised to find that what is a scam and what is not, is intrinsically linked to the factor of personal comfort.

While op (le-bjorn) has deleted the doc containing receipts of otw participating in genocide apologia, they still have links to compilation of incidents which all point to how racist the platform truly is. All this and still in 2 years time, ao3 has collected a total of over $250k donations. This is disturbing when you think about how many of the fandom bloggers have repeatedly expressed discomfort at having to witness the suffering of Gazans, before finally choosing to go completely mask off and are now leading smear campaigns against fundraisers- their proof being the broken English and reused template of sending asks.

I am just so tired guys. Idk what to tell you, but where this stupid site could raise close to 200k in 2 days this year, a writer in Gaza has been struggling to raise even a hundred dollar in a day. Siraj has received only TWO DONATIONS in 12 hours!! He just needs $145 CAD or $104 USD to reach his current short term goal.

So please BOOST and DONATE. It is honestly so painful to see how much he is struggling, when I know that every single time he feels ashamed of begging people to care. He is a writer and he tells stories but every potential he ever had, has been destroyed in this genocide. Right now he is desperately trying to protect his family of 23 from winter and death.

With your help Siraj has reached 91k, but still his hardships are far from over. Preparing for winter costs a fortune. Winter clothes are very expensive and with 24 people, it will definitely be difficult. On top of that Siraj has to buy nylons to cover up the broken windows of the apartment he has managed to rent. So please keep donating and boosting. We are only $363 CAD ($262 USD) away from our next goal.

$91,137 / $91,500 CAD

Only $5 raised in the past 2 hours ! Siraj in only $48 away from his short term goal, please keep sharing and donating.

pro-abortion. pro-divorce. i believe we have the god-given right to give up

when people go after no-fault divorce or abortion what they're really doing is trying to enshrine the sunk cost fallacy into law

it sounds like a joke but this is a genuine political belief of mine. you should be able to leave a situation you don't like. the government has no business trapping you in a relationship.

quitters rights!

Ghada's Journey from Gaza:

A Plea to Save My Family from the Horrors of War

Hello, my name is Ghada, I am 32 years old,

and I once lived a life full of hope and ambition.

I studied Information Technology and earned my bachelor’s degree, working for a private company for some time. But when the war in Gaza erupted, the company stopped operating and was completely destroyed, leaving me without a job and no place to work 💔.

As the bombing intensified and the violence escalated, we were forced to flee our beautiful home, which was completely destroyed, to the city of Rafah in southern Gaza. We lived in a small tent barely a few meters wide, but even that was not enough. We were forced to flee again to central Gaza, where we now live in a school for displaced people, moving from one place to another without knowing when this tragic journey will end 💔🏚️.

My father, Nabil, who is 62 years old, used to own an aluminum workshop, but it was destroyed during the war. My mother, Fatima, 57 years old, faces daily struggles with the lack of electricity and the closure of bakeries. At their age, my parents suffer greatly from the constant displacement and the challenges of moving from place to place 🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️.

My younger brother, Khaled, 23 years old, graduated with a bachelor’s degree in accounting and worked at a contracting company before the war took away his job and shattered his dreams. Despite this, Khaled now bears the responsibility of providing for our basic needs like food and water, trying to keep our family afloat under these harsh conditions 🍞💧.

I also have two married brothers, Mohamed and Ahed, who live with us in the same displacement location with their children (Lama, Nabil, and Amir) and (Fatima, Eman, and Noor). The children, having lost their toys and games, have found some joy playing with the pets 🐾, trying to find happiness in the darkest of times.

But the bitter reality is that we are living in an uninhabitable environment. Diseases and insects are widespread, and sewage water floods the area around us. The children, who should be focused on learning and playing, now suffer from malnutrition and disease. Recently, the spread of the polio virus among them has only added to their pain and suffering 🦠😔.

Life here no longer meets basic human dignity. We live without clean water, without a home, without even the basics of survival. Our children have no education, no toys, no new clothes, not even shoes to protect their feet. Skin diseases, malnutrition, and polluted water and food are our daily reality. We are living in inhumane conditions in every sense of the word, and we beg you not to forget us 🙏.

All we hope for now is to find safety, to not die before we can escape or move to a safer place. But even that simple right seems impossible. We need your help to raise the money needed to cross the Rafah border between Gaza and Egypt, where the coordination cost for one person ranges between $5,000 and $7,000.

Please, help us raise our voices, and help us save our family 🙏💙.

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