/hj is the funniest earnest tonetag in the world even without the handjob joke because it's ostensibly meant to clarify tone for autistic people, but the tone it's clarifying is "unreadable level of ambiguous seriousness that requires social context beyond what text can convey /glhffgt"

I'm half joking, which either means that I'm presenting sincere beliefs flippantly to avoid backlash, that I'm completely lying about what someone like me would say, that I'm presenting a mix of true and false statements, or that I'm loaning out a socially acceptable opinion to nudge you back in line /hj

THAT'S WHAT /HJ MEANS???

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"what if a dangerous man pretends to be trans to-" what if we actually dealt with the underlying causes of dangerous men. what if predators faced real consequences more often. what if you stopped using trans women as a proxy for your grievances with liberal feminism's individualist denial of the need to fight systemic issues.

what if you stopped assigning blame for patriarchy's evils to one of its more vulnerable victim groups.

I've never seen this put more succinctly.

i bring a sort of "intersex people aren't a counterargument against terfs and we're actually so tired of being used as just that and ignored" to the queer community that perisex people don't seem to like

If you are reading this message, then I was admitted for my top surgery and am currently either having surgery or am twiddling my toes waiting for my turn with the surgeon.

Thank you to everyone who has supported me this past year since the initial date with the original surgeon was canceled day-of (last March, and then again in June, at which point she simply stopped responding to my attempts to contact her). There were days where it felt like I would never make it, like I was never going to have this done, and like I should just give up and make my peace with binders forever.

This was a hard year. To lose my job and the 150 PTO hours they stole from me (unfortunately legal), to have my surgery canceled and my surgeon refuse to allow me the right of an appeal, to have the horrific financial struggles under this economy, to the constant stress of the elections and everything that has followed. It has not been easy, here in this house.

In a few hours I should be awake and breathing a huge sigh of relief. I am restarting my queue and will come back to this blog more regularly once I am not high out of my mind on either anesthesia or painkillers.

Thanks again, everyone. I made it.

That's amazing!!!! :D Screw the haters. They lost in the end. You won. All the best and I hope your euphoria skyrockets on seeing your chest after.

can’t believe this iconic moment hasnt shown up on my dash yet in light of today

et tu

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Was scrolling through AO3 and found this gem

Enemy to parent is a trope we have to popularise lmao

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BOYS NIGHT, 15th March, Senate! bring your own booze! remember what happens in the senate stays in the senate ;). BOYS NIGHT BOYS NIGHT BOYS NIGHT

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ai does not belong in creative spaces. period.

Good addition. We need to come at this from a minimum of TWO angles: A) don't give them easy accolades which is what AI use is about; wanting the praise without having to do a minimum of thousands of hours of work to get there, but also B) WE NEED TO ACTUALLY ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO DO THAT WORK.

Getting better at creativity is HARD WORK. A lot of people don't know how to cope with and push through the hundreds of walls you run into trying to reach any level of skill in any kind of artistry. Until we break apart some of the toxic ideas and attitudes we have within these fields - especially at fandom level where most people get their start when they're at their most vulnerable and have the lowest self esteem - AI and its false promises of an easier path to the same rewards will always be an irresistible siren call to all artists, but especially budding ones with no experience coming from the layperson world of "photographic accuracy = good artist"/"everyone should write exactly like my favourite author or they're objectively bad" and, most egregious and damaging of all "being bad now means you aren't worth encouraging and appreciating for what you're doing well because being good is something you just are and being bad is immediate elimination from any chance at being a good creator no matter what you do."

Which of course is a load of fucking bulllcrap. But I missed out on extremely valuable time I could have been learning and practcing the fundamentals because of that idea being so deeply entrenched in my brain, rotting my self-esteem to the core and eating away any genuine belief I could ever become what I needed to be to tell stories well. I'm now accepting of course that you can start a skill at any age; I just wish I hadn't been held back by the belief that I didn't deserve to get better because I wasn't good immediately.

And sure, I've slipped into talking mostly about visual art here out of habit, but for many people (me too sometimes) this absolutely applies to writing too.

Let's do more than just ignore them. Let's nurture them into learning the joy of their own creativity again.

People calling me specifically a "theyfab" is really quite funny considering I explicitly don't use they/them and I have also never publicly stated or implied my AGAB.

People just assume I was assigned female because I talk about supporting transmascs & trans men having an important place in the queer community. Intracommunity discourse people assume anyone who disagrees with them has a vagina. Some of you really are not beating the transandrophobia & straight-up misogyny allegations. I'm not even transmasc, I just have, you know, compassion for my fellow queers?

I gotta say I don't know why people suddenly think its okay to bring back the hysteria bullshit as long as you say "AFAB" or "TME" instead of "woman."

Not to mention, y'know. In this specific case the intersex erasure.

It's very blatant and jarringly obvious as someone who hasn't really ever been subjected to the whole 'hysterical woman' thing, unless I'm online and people mistake me for a transmasc. Then I am subjected to it. Hmm. Strange. I'm sure this is completely unrelated.

I feel for y'all.

apparently people are now purchasing thick water to make slimes with because of a trend on tiktok

thick water is for disabled people who can’t swallow properly. stores usually have extremely limited supplies of it.

please don’t buy thick water for fun or to make slime with. it’s literally the only way some disabled people can drink anything. It’s not a fucking toy

Transmedicalism seeks to make trans people seem more legitimate to cis society via pathologizing transness the same way intersexuality is currently pathologized.

Literally any fucking intersex person can tell you this is literally the WORST way you could possibly go about trans activism.

I have been wrongfully marked red with Shinigami Eyes.

If you have the extension could you please do me a favor and either un-mark or mark me as trans-friendly, I talk about important topics related to intersex issues and this is a very obvious attempt to silence my voice within my own community.

I am not the only pro-trans activism blog who has been affected by this, you can help by leaving a review of the way this extension can be misused here (firefox) or here (chrome)

Links;

Intersex Terminology Preference Survey (always open!!!)

Radfems/TERFs, transmeds, binarist rhetoric users, centrists, radqueers & queer assimilationists are not welcome here.

Dehumanizing bigots is bad, not because I want to be nice to them, but because they are human beings and they serve as a reminder that anyone is capable of evil ideation and action. Violent bigots are not fundamentally different beings from you. They are human beings, who have developed a reactionary and destructive belief system due to their circumstances combined with their biases. In a different timeline, that could've been you. Anyone can be radicalized. Nobody is immune to propaganda, not even the person reading this.

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK