like. remember that shrimp post, about how that one channer was deradicalized by caring about his pet shrimp?
the key part of that story is that he chose to care about something other than himself. that's what deradicalized him.
it wasnt other people caring about and being nice to him.
like. look, if you're a man, trans or cis, and you feel like no one cares about you, or listens to you outside of the misogynist right-wing circles of incelry and transandrophobia truthing. you might be right.
but i guarantee you, if you choose to start caring about other people, start listening to them first, and stop making yourself the center of every interaction, you will find people who listen to you, and care about you.
radicalization, especially into mra or misogynist spaces, does not happen because feminists and leftists are mean. it happens because the men who enter those spaces dont want to care about others. and those spaces tell them they dont have to.
if you feel like you've been radicalised, or are in danger of moving that way, deradicalisation rests on you, its your responsibility. and the first step is learning to care about other people.
learning to care about people who are different from you, and who do have problems that are worse than yours, and who might even have problems that you've directly contributed to. learn to listen, and care, and support, and apologize, and take responsibility for the harm you've caused and are capable of causing.
and you'll find people who care about you back. who listen to you, and who'll respect you. you deserve a community who isnt afraid to call you on your shit, and we need more people on our side who wont socially murder us for being called on their shit.
no actually, it is your responsibility and yours alone to choose not to be an asshole and a bigot. it isnt easy, thats what makes it a choice, thats why its so rare. but its not supposed to be easy.
because society rewards men for being misogynist. it rewards white people for being racist. it rewards cis people for being transphobic, etc.
men are not treated like they're ontologically evil by society, stop fucking lying
@macchiatosdumptruck I hope you don’t mind but I think people should see your tags
We did NOT just go through 3 months of "I'd choose the bear" for y'all to say "Men are not treated ontologically evil by society".
Empathy is a two way street. Stop slapping the people who aren't going your way as you pass. >:T
I like how it took a man loving something that didn't turn his every concern and fear into a weapon that finally managed to help him pull himself out from the darkness he found himself in.
That it took caring for something that never belittled him, never looked down on him, like his parents and classmates did.
That he's being used by people now as some kind of shining example of bootstrapping is sad. It was random fucking happenstance that he managed to realize his issues. No one ever helped him, no one ever cared about him until he fought his way out of the hole society shoved him into.
Shrimp have more compassion for men then these women is the take away here.
we been knew
Also worth noting that Shrimp Anon wasn't ever "deradicalized" because he wasn't a fucking terrorist, but was, in fact, DEEPLY DEPRESSED AND LOSING THE WILL TO LIVE. Don't frame a guy finding a passion and reason to go on like he escaped the Federal White Nationalist Grooming program for Incels and vowed to dedicate his life to feminism and trans activism. You couldn't even care about this one guy enough to not try to make his story about your eternally retarded beef with men.
