ladies if youre a kpoppie, please occasionally take the time to remind yourself that you are a fan of just some guy

kind of hate when people go like “the law says innocent until proven guilty !!!” as if an individual’s personal opinion has to correspond with legal code. you don’t have a trial on whether or not your feelings change about a celebrity, and it isn’t a criminal punishment to lose supporters.

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im not a big carat blog but everybody needs to know this (tw for sexual harassment) mingyu was accused (with proof) of sexually harassing and spreading horrible rumours about an old classmate to the point where she had to go to therapy for it 

some bits translated from the original article regarding his remarks

information from the document related to her therapy sessions (1)

information from the document related to her therapy sessions (2)

always believe the victim

translation of the article

few things to note: 

1. i basically typed out what i saw first thing when the article was public and people on twt were talking about it, so there will have been updates that i mightve missed 

2. a clarification from the person who translated the article states that the sexual jokes were not directed at her, but she was uncomfortable being in mingyu (and his friends)’s presence when he would tell them. aside from that, the bullying (calling her out specifically) was 100% directed at her. 

3. please try to tag this post appropriately lest more confusion spreads 

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so now mingyu has an issue and the victim actually has proof... you know i still dont forgive them for last year especially because they didnt release an apology. now this time, they have another issue and im not even going to expect pledis to put up a statement or whatever. even if they will, i dont think i'll be able to stand stanning svt anymore. and don't tell me not to drag the whole group bc it was just one member. they still have last year's issue on my mind which fyi involves all of them. but enough of that, let's focus on the present. i'll give it some thought but as of now i'm thinking of actually quitting the fandom now.

btw if u wanna know what the issue is about just search it up on twt. its everywhere. let's just say it's something I've been firmly standing against my entire life as someone who has been a victim and so mingyu with an allegation that has evidence disgusts me.

ACTUALLY I BETTER SEE A STATEMENT FROM MINGYU AND NOT PLEDIS. but dont expect me to forgive him if ever he does apologize.

I think an extremely important part of mental health awareness and intervention is acknowledging that no, help isn't actually always available. Or the "help" that is, isn't actually helpful.

When I was 22 I hit a wall. I called the suicide hotline from my car so my roommates wouldn't hear me crying. I explained that I could barely shower, feed, or dress myself. I needed immediate intervention.

They asked me if they could send an ambulance for me. They wanted to hospitalize me. I explained that I was a week away from finals. And graduation. If I were hospitalized, I couldn't graduate. The inpatient program also didn't allow phones or visitors, and I knew how disastrous it would be for me to lose contact with my family support system.

I didn't need to be hospitalized. I needed daily solutions. Simple ones, even. I needed a few precooked meals in my fridge so I could use my menial energy to keep my body going. I needed a doctor to contact my school and ask if I could have some extensions on my class assignments. I neededna few excused absences so I could catch up on my lost sleep.

They told me there was an intensive program that allowed residents to live in an inpatient care facility and get daily help with tasks like eating, therapy, medication, and showering, while still leaving for work and school, but it cost $30,000. I told them half the reason I was calling them was because of my financial pressures and fear.

In about 10 minutes of back-and-forth, it became clear that they had no true solution for me. I could go into the hospital and an inpatient program which would interrupt my entire life, and which I knew did not create very good results and had traumatized some of my own friends, or, well, I couldn't even go into debt for the other program. They didn't accept any new patients without half of the cost upfront. So it wasn't even an option.

No therapist or psychiatrists or social workers could fit me in for 3-8 weeks.

So I said thank you and hung up, emotionally spent. I felt utterly empty.

Sitting in my car I realized I had a choice, to live or to stop. Nobody was going to save me. Nobody was going to help.

So I went inside, and I cried myself to sleep, and when I woke up I still hadn't made a choice. So then I did. I chose to live no matter how terrible, just in case things turned around down the road.

It was unspeakably difficult. I didn't shower. I barely ate. I either slept too much or not enough.

But I did survive, and a year later I got with a therapist who started to make things a little lighter for me.

I still struggle now, but things are usually much better, and I'm glad I'm still here.

I just think it's important to acknowledge that for many people, especially in rural areas, and for people without money, which is most people, that the "help is always available" line feels hollow. Because often times it isn't, actually.

But that doesn't mean there will never be.

Overall, we need to build an entirely new system for mental health support in this world.

But for now, ask yourself or your friend in crisis what might make things a little more bearable until help actually is available.

A meal? Emailing a professor? Clean laundry? What might make things a little lighter?

I know that on the very brink, things like this may seem totally pointlessnor trivial. But if you can't stop yourself or someone from falling, sometimes the only way to save someone is with a softer landing.

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