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Fandom PSAs

Dont’ Like, Don’t Read

or DL; DR

  • You are responsible for curating your own online experience.
  • If something upsets you, makes you angry or queasy or triggers you, stop reading/looking at it. Avoid things that might make you feel that way.
  • Learn to use the Sort and Filter function on AO3, especially the Exclude tools.
  • On social media, block and mute accounts / tags / words when necessary.
  • If you hated something, you don’t need to tell that to the creator or start pointing fingers at them publicly.
  • The Back button is free. Use it.

Addendum:

Yes, for this to work, creators need to tag their works accordingly, so that people know what sort of content they are about to engage with and can nope out if necessary.

I will probably make another PSA about the importance of proper tagging later.

Ship And Let Ship

or SALS

  • You are allowed to ship whatever you want.
  • Everyone else is also allowed to ship whatever they want.
  • You are entitled to dislike or even hate a ship. If you want to do this online, in public, don’t use the ship tags for hate posts.
  • If you see someone posting about a ship they like and you don’t, there is no need for you to start arguing with them in their replies / comments / QRTs / reblogs. Don’t throw your hate in their face.
  • Do not harass fan creators or fans for shipping something you disapprove.
  • All of this also applies to liking / disliking an individual character.

Addendum:

”I agree with this, except when…”

No, then you are NOT agreeing with this.

Let me make this VERY clear. There are NO exceptions. None.

You don’t EVER harass real people over pixels.

If you disagree with this, kindly block and move on.

Your Kink Is Not My Kink

or YKINMK / YKINMKATO

  • The longer version is ”Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That’s Okay”.
  • People have different tastes. Not everything is for everybody.
  • Even if you don’t like a specific kink, other people are still allowed to use it in their creations.
  • You are entitled to dislike kinky content and think that it’s ”weird”.
  • Don’t kink shame or judge people based on their kinks.
  • This goes both ways: your kink is not someone else’s kink, so don’t push it onto those who are not into it.

Be Kind

or Don’t Be An Asshole

  • Focus on the things you like instead of the things you hate.
  • Create and unite instead of destroying and dividing.
  • Don’t harass real people over fictional things.
  • Stop stirring up petty drama just to get some attention on social media.
  • Stop trying to ”win”. Fandom is not a competition.
  • Remember that your own experiences aren’t universally shared. Your perception of things can differ from someone else’s, but that doesn’t mean either of you is necessarily wrong.

All Hail Derek Hale

I just scrolled by a post that mentioned Derek being dead. Honestly, I completely blocked out all the details from the movie. My brain went...Derek's dead? That never happened.

Then it flashed back. Oh, yeah, that's right. That complete fuckery of a movie actually exists.

I guess his death is out there in some universe. Just not mine.

"It's not denial. I'm just selective about the reality I accept."

What started as a joke in the short drabble I wrote is now one of my favourite headcanons.

Eli’s nickname as a kid is Trouble.

The nickname came about because Sheriff Stilinski was telling Stiles and Derek that wherever they go, trouble follows, and Eli - with his perfect timing - toddled in after them, prompting the Sheriff to jokingly say, “And here’s Trouble.”

After that, the nickname stuck. And made for many laughs when they would call him Trouble or refer to him by the nickname and he would happily say, “I’m Trouble!”

Stiles is Mischief, Derek is Sourwolf, and Eli is Trouble

So like I understand the whole Derek freaks out when he realizes that he’s in love with stiles thing. Cause, sure, valid after everything he been through.

But like I also feel that he would be so relieved. That it’s stiles. Stiles is someone who is safe to fall in love with. Not in the sense of “oh he loves me back so I won’t get my heart broken” (he does) but like in the sense of it won’t be used against him.

Stiles has saved his life over and over again, has kept his secrets and defend him. And Derek cannot help but feel relief of the fact that it’s stiles who has his heart . Because it’s entirely safe with him. Stiles would not abuse him like any of his past relationships. It’s not something the Derek has to worry about. And that just makes it easier to fall deeper in love with him.

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