Be excellent to each other.

the biggest mental wall you’ll run into in RP—or any other endeavor really—is always gonna be, “What am I doing wrong?”

at some point or another you’ll spend a lot of effort on something—a post, an edit, an event, a blog, whatever—and it won’t get recognized no matter how much you push it. when it only happens once maybe you’ll get discouraged but carry on. the important thing to know is it’ll keep happening.

it’s not really anybody’s fault and this is just how social media is. things weren’t always this way but they are now and it’s platform invariant. it doesn’t matter if you’re posting fics on AO3 or putting up videos on YouTube or writing tweets on Twitter. the real engagement rate versus views is always less than 10%. usually 1%. sometimes less.

so eventually you’ll hit that wall and start to question yourself. that’s just how our brains work. it’s your self-awareness kicking in. your Default Mode Network. the thing is that that system can betray you and get you into trouble and it’s exactly encapsulated in the question itself.

odds are you aren’t doing anything wrong.

odds are it has nothing to do with you. people get busy with real life. there are time zone differences. interests shift. interests don’t align. people are nervous. people are anxious. people don’t know what to say. people don’t know what to do. people don’t think what they have to say matters.

it almost certainly has nothing to do with you the vast majority of the time but it’s hard to keep that in mind when you’re the center of your own universe. we’re not built for that kinda perspective.

what we can do is stop ourselves from asking that question if there are no immediately obvious answers to it. we can learn to be kind to ourselves. and more than that we can reach out to try to make a difference for others. everyone can only do what they can at any given time—no one can give 100% all the time—and only you will know what you can do. you only have to answer to yourself for that.

but be kind to yourself and if you can be kind to others too. together we can make things even just a little better.

Anti anxiety.

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The Good Place (2016-2020)

brah

The Good Place’s take on morality is so important to me. It never suggests that being good is easy or straightforward - quite the opposite - but it says, over and over again, that we need to try because we’re all people and we all matter.

ultimately i think kindness is the most radical thing you can do with your pain and your anger. it’s like, you take everything awful that’s ever been done to you, and you throw it back in the world’s teeth, and you say no, fuck you, i’m not going to take this.  you say this is unacceptable. you say that shit stops with me.

humans are fucking terrible and this awful world we live in will fucking kill you but if you are kind, if you are brave and clever and try really hard, you can defy it. you can impose on this bleak and monstrous structure something beautiful. even if it’s temporary. even if it doesn’t heal anything inside you that’s been hurt.  

i’m gonna sleep and i’m gonna wake up and i swear by everything in this deadly horrible universe i’m gonna make someone happy. 

i’ve seen a number of comments and tags where people feel that they must swallow or repress their anger in order to engage in kindness. that is not at all what i am recommending here. radical kindness is an expression of anger. it is not passive. it is not repressive. it does not require you, in any way, to forgive those that have fucked you up. it does not require you to be quiet. 

it just requires that you be kind. viciously. vengefully. you fight back. you plant flowers. give to charity. play games. pet someone’s dog. scream into the dark. paint and write and dance, tell jokes, sing songs, bake cookies. you have been hurt and you don’t have to deny that hurt. you just have to recognize it in other people, and take their hand, and say: no more. enough. fuck this. no more. 

have a cookie.

i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine. 

i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine.

1. The universe is indifferent. We ought not be.

2. A good quote: There are two kinds of people. Those who think, “I don’t want anyone to suffer like I did.” And those who think, “I suffered; why shouldn’t they?”

3. Two good quotes by Kurt Vonnegut: “Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you’ve got a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies-“God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.”

And: “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”

Another good quote:

“I. THIS IS NOT A GAME.

II. HERE AND NOW, WE ARE ALIVE.”

You can be kind and fuel it with rage. You can be kind and fuel it with a bitter twist, or you can be kind and fuel your kindness with righteous anger, or you can be kind and fuel it with love or spite or ecstatic joy. And no matter what your fuel is, you still can make kindness happen in the world so that people can warm themselves by it.

Kindness isn’t an emotion, kids. That’s the thing. Kindness is action. Kindness is choosing to take your emotions and channel them towards doing the most good where you can; to choose the targets of your actions carefully; to spread a little joy behind you, when you have a little to spare.

Kindness can mean a gentle word or a shouted imperative. It can be a warm meal or a gentle hug or a clean death. Kindness can manifest in many ways, and not all of them are one hundred percent nice. The kind thing to do may be doing nothing at all. 

But kindness is, above all else, an action. We are imperfect humans, and we cannot control our emotions–but we can control what we do as a result. We can control the actions that our emotions and experiences propel us to perform. 

The darkness is nothing but the absence of light, you know. It is endless and nihilistic and all enveloping. A lit candle has no hope against it.

But if enough of us light small candles and little matches behind us as we walk through this wide, uncaring universe, we can light up that sky. We can take an empty world and we can fill it with each other. 

That’s how we can take the bones of an empty universe and forge a warm hearth fire humanity can use to keep back the night. 

But kindness is, above all else, an action. We are imperfect humans, and we cannot control our emotions–but we can control what we do as a result. We can control the actions that our emotions and experiences propel us to perform.

I’m also a fan of Camus:

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.”

Cat and robot at a computer requested by Mavin on patreon. [Drawing of a cat and a robot typing at a keyboard in front of a computer. On the back of the computer, it says “We’ll make things better together.”]

some things I need to remind myself daily tbh

too real

reminder for us all

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