Haunting the Relics of Fandoms Long Past

All the screenshots of the new trailer when images flash very fast (rebloging now with the rest cause this has a limit)

we used to have normalized whump. remember what they took from you....

back in the day you could write about the most sickeningly vile atrocious war crimes happening to your blorbo and everyone was like. kyaaaaaaaa >w<. they just got it. they understood

What the fuck is whump

Don't worry about it kitten

I am somehow more confused with this knowledge

Caretaker is completely optional (and indeed wasn’t codified until 20 years after the genre was named). That’s the divider between “whump” and “hurt/comfort,” to me. It may have started getting used as a crossover term encompassing h/c because of this website and its inability to deal with slashes in tags. Over on AO3, original flavor whump is reasonably likely to get tagged “hurt/no comfort” these days. The whump specifically refers to the ordeals, the pain, the thing that makes the character suffer. It comes from a common onomatopoeia for the dull thud of something hitting (the ground/a body). We may have the Stargate SG-1 fandom to thank for the terminology.

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masks that cover the face but leave the eyes visible give someone a deeply personal character - they present someone as a thinking, feeling person first and foremost, and anonymise them physically.

on the other hand, masks that cover the face but leave the mouth visible do the opposite - they present someone as a body, a visceral and physical being. where the eyes subjectify, the mouth objectifies them.

the implications of nose reveal are astounding

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.

May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.

I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.

reblogging specifically for these last additions bc I don't think I've ever seen resources for kink w/ disability

Mission: Impossible – The Final Reckoning Trailer References Ethan Hunt’s Previous Missions

me as a 14th century knight: this sucks i'm gonna fms (translator's note: fall on my sword)

Alternatively: fuck my squire

[remembers falling on my sword jokes negatively impact my knight's oath] ...fuck my squire

Princess Shireen Baratheon

The sheer physical control it takes to look so smoothly robotic is freaking insane...and yet we humans (at least a few of us) have mastered it.

Also, when he collapses "to his knees" and then hovers his knees above the ground, flexing his knees in and out, moving across the flagstones? Hellaciously difficult. Oh, I'm sure most people could give it a try, but he does it smoothly, with absolute control. Years of practice, years of physical training.

It is far easier for a human to walk "like a robot" than for a robot to learn how to walk like a human, folks. Machines can knit, but only humans can crochet. Enjoy these sensations of delight and wonder at how marvelous our fellow beings can be!

At a glance, it seems so basic. Kids stuff. Then you watch andnit becomes mind-boggling.

The Shadow Of Mount Rainier Causing A Gap In The Sunset.

Trying to inflict psychic damage to a tumblr user is like trying to irradiate a cockroach, like it can be done, but the lethal dose is not safe for humans either

Besides the point, but you could always try physical damage?

You’re right Gomez, bring me the flail

no we skipped over this a little too quickly what do you mean "her knife"? her knife that sansa keeps on her bedside table?? knife???

Yeah, her knife! Everybody in ASOIAF has a knife, even kids. They carry a dagger around to eat their food. Like in Sansa's case, she took her knife to the godswood to meet her mysterious letter-sender (who turned out to be Dontos), and that's the same knife she cut up her sheets with.

And yeah, it's based on actual history, but this "literally everybody carries around a knife" thing is why in F&B, Lucerys Velaryon (when he was 5 - five fucking years old) had a dagger to cut Aemond's eye with. It is one of the most frankly insane bits of worldbuilding that nobody ever talks about.

fly away, little bird

I’m a big fan of that post-laundry feeling when you’ve got all your A-list clothes back in the game.

"I'm not skilled at gardening and i don't have the time/energy to learn, but i really want a pretty garden, so i hired a gardener"

That makes a lot of sense, it's nice to experience that beauty!

"I love writing music, and I can play a few instruments, but my playing skills don't cover the breadth or depth of what I want my songs to sound like, and none of my usual partners were available for recording this month, so I hired someone who's good on sax and another musician who plays an upright bass to help me record my new stuff, and they added a lot of depth to the experience!"

Good call, when you really want the right sound right now it makes sense to bring in people who are available and talented!

"I'm a decent cook and my friends love the food i make, but sometimes I enjoy a really high-quality meal in a carefully curated atmosphere or i don't want to do dishes, so i go to a restaurant and pay a chef and cooks and waitstaff and dish washers to make me a fantastic meal in a nice setting without any of the chores."

Of course, we all love a good time without the usual work sometimes!

"I love music and I play the piano really well, but sometimes I want to hear it played by someone who's really dedicated their career to it, or who plays in a style I'm not experienced with, so I go to a concert and pay a musician for their music, or I buy their albums so I can listen to it at home."

Yes, getting to experience an expert in their craft is a real treat!

"I've been way too busy to take care of myself or my living space lately and it's been taking a toll on my mental health, so i hired someone to help me tidy up this week and then went to a salon to get spiffed up so I could feel better about myself, and i paid those professionals for their work and education and experience and skill."

Good on you, self care is so important!

"I'm not very experienced with sex and and would like someone else to show me what it can feel like, or I want to enjoy sex at a time when I don't have anyone available, or I enjoy sex and am pretty good at it but I want to experience it a dedicated atmosphere with someone who takes it seriously, or I want to see what all is possible when someone is really an expert at it and treats it like a set of skills they've spent a long time working to master, or sex makes me feel good and i could really use that good experience in my life right now, so I paid a sex worker to help me achieve that goal."

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If you think the last one is somehow fundamentally different from the others, that hiring a professional to provide a service that you want or need for any reason is suddenly immoral because it involves sex, you should probably reflect on why. Because really, at the end of the day, it's not.

#note that someone in any of the other professions (esp gardening cleaning and beauty) could have been labor trafficked!#if that's your only argument against sex work it applies to a lot more than you'd be comfortable with

^ peer reviewing these tags.

"Sex work is exploitative and i won't stand for it!!!!! Anyway what do you think of my garden? I just had it redone by a team of undocumented immigrants who worked for a fraction of minimum wage doing backbreaking labor under a landscape company that will turn them in to ICE if they try to find better work or speak out about their conditions or don't do a good enough job fast enough, so i got a great deal! isn't that wonderful? Anyway, try this Driscoll's™️ Fruit Salad I got yesterday..."

Also, if you are worried about exploitation in sex work (which we all should be), do some reseach and see if there's a sex workers union where you live. For example, In Australia we have the Scarlet Alliance:

While not every country is going to have one, if yours does it is a great way to be able to engage with sex workers while also being certain that they have workers rights and protections. This goes for all the other industries as well by the way.

Sometimes sex workers are trafficked, denied human rights, and exploited horrifically, that is true. And that's why I'm happy that I live in a country where they have a union to protect them. Because those things aren't unique to sex work, and sex workers deserve the same dignity and protection as all other workers.