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Things people label as abuse when it's done to a partner that parents somehow get away with

  • Hitting/spanking. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.
  • No privacy (no privacy = going through their phone, tracking their location, attending therapy appointments, etc.). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but good parenting when it's a teenager.
  • Emotional neglect. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "not the parents' fault" when it's a child.
  • Overworking them. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but earning their keep when it's a child.
  • Doing things to purposely make them cry. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but hilarious when it's a kid.
  • Breaking their stuff/deleting video game progress. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.
  • Forcing affection when they don't want to. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them good manners when it's a child.
  • Locking them in a room that they can't escape. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "they've got to learn one way or another" if it's a child.
  • Expecting them to suppress their emotions. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to be mature if it's a child.
  • Getting angry when they ask a question/challenge your logic/need clarification. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to not talk back if it's a child.
  • Not letting them eat anything unless it's what you put in front of them (that includes not letting them get anything for themselves). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them to be grateful if it's a child.

If you've ever labeled any of these things as abuse when an adult opens up about their experiences but will defend parents who do the same thing, you need to reevaluate yourself.

DNI: Narcissistic/Borderline/Anti-social/Histrionic abuse believers.

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