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i just have a lot of feelings

@gemsofthegalaxy / gemsofthegalaxy.tumblr.com

If I had a wife, she'd love it! Kitty (or Kiki) officially late 20s, bi, she/her pronouns. PS- i like engaging with people on my posts, but i will absolutely delete replies if i dont like the vibe they're bringing, if i find they're rude/bad faith, etc! xoxo

so long as we're back to social justice 101 on this stupid website, u need to be aware of the feedback loop that emerges from disproportionate scrutiny: any social group that is placed under extra scrutiny, regardless of the actual prevalence of any particular behaviour, will appear to engage in that behaviour more often.

you see this most blatantly with racialised groups (more cops in black neighbourhoods = more arrests in black neighbourhoods = "omg look at all the crime in these neighbourhoods!" = more cops in black neighbourhoods etc). even if the rate of crime is the same (putting to one side the criminalisation of poverty which is also an important related factor), one group gets away with it way more often and a new generation of racists is indoctrinated with the crime statistics which "prove" that some groups are simply more criminal in nature. we see a similar phenomenon online with particular groups (trans women being a huge example) being subjected to mass stalking, their every move documented by weirdos and broadcast as representative of the group as a whole.

tl;dr - overscrutinising groups based on existing bigotries creates a recurring feedback loop, reproducing those bigotries across generations and nominally justifying them. this is bad, and you need to remember that you are not immune to it.

With the power of adhd you can do two halves of different chores and then sit down again instead of finishing either 👍

This may be mistaken for half-assing it but you would be wrong. I am whole-assing but I've distributed my ass across multiple tasks and didn't finish anything. But. Multiple chores are more done than they were before. Take it or leave it

thinking again about vampirism as disability

what if you slept all day and woke at night, lonely and frustrated. what if you couldn't go to social events, or even mundane public spaces like stores. what if you couldn't see the sun. what if you couldn't go to the pool, or the beach, or the creek. what if you couldn't eat what everyone else is eating. what if you couldn't eat at all. what if your basic needs came at the cost of your loved ones' quality of life. what if you became agitated, confused, maybe even violent if your needs weren't met. what if people blamed your behavior on demons, or worse, your own inherent evil. what if people saw you as a threat to your own community. what if the default response to your suffering was either indifference or violence. what if people thought you were better off dead, that you no longer count as human, that they're doing you a favor by letting you disappear. what if people assumed you must somehow deserve all of this. what about that.

Inktober day 22 - Ghost

The ghost at the top of the old lighthouse, watching over the ships and wondering if someone will come to keep him company.

Been wanting to draw a lighthouse for a while too!XD

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she was so real for this

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Anderson Cooper: "That rumor- were that you had a male appendage. That you were a hermaphrodite. And you joked about it on the stage last night." Lady Gaga: "Maybe I do." Cooper, laughing: "But it- but it's interesting-" Lady Gaga: "Would it be so terrible?" Cooper: "But it's interesting, a lot of artists would immediately put out some sort of a statement saying that this is absolutely not true. You have fun with it." Lady Gaga: "Why the hell am I gonna waste my time and give a press release about whether or not I have a penis? My fans don't care and neither do I."

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Folks don’t realize they’re showing THEIR ugliness every time they bring up the possibility of her being intersex. Like it’s something terrible, awful, ridicule worthy, or any of their fucking business.

No, it doesn’t make a goddamned difference to her skill as a performer but you know what else:

Being intersex ISN’T a fucking punchline or a joke, it isn’t something to be pitied or commented upon. Unless there’s an intersex body in your immediate circle, it doesn’t fucking have anything to do with you so shut the fuck up about it.

I guaran-goddamned-tee there’s not a single intersex person on this planet who wants or needs your unsolicited opinion or thoughts about their body.

Hiding behind the word ‘interesting’ doesn’t make you sound clever or compassionate. It makes you sound like the opinionated piece of shit you are.

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