Not Knowing You’d Change From Just One Bite.

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I think I am annoyed enough to write about it, actually. Here's why "curate your space" and "don't like, don't read" and "fandom safe spaces" fail to work for everyone:

People don't usually don't tag for racism and misogyny. It's just fandom as usual for way too many fans. And asking them to tag for it? Is taken as a personal attack. Because the suggestion that they might have have done something racist or misogynistic is far more hurtful and offensive in their mind than what they actually wrote.

The argument that someone's properly tagged niche fetish fic will damage society is bs but fandom at large exists on a sliding scale of casually to actively racist and misogynistic. The queer utopian fandom experience is really only true for people who get on board with whatever the most popular ship is in the fandom--usually mlm, sometimes m/f, only vanishingly rarely wlw. Almost always white. Most fans don't see the racism and misogyny as an issue because their wants and needs are being met in fandom. If other fans are unhappy? "Curate your space!" But you can't curate out a systemic problem.

If you think your fandom doesn't have a racism or misogyny problem, you're probably happily living in that popular ship bubble.

#^^^^^#this is what people in the tags of my misogyny post fail to understand #like if I go to female friendly spaces and curate my space that doesn’t address or fix the problem of how widespread casual misogyny is #do better. ask for more and never ever settle #change and growth are never ending and you have to constantly look inwards to address your biases (which we all have)#the main issue is most people aren’t willing to accept that they are wrong. that they can and will be racist and sexist and homophobic #because it’s uncomfortable and because they identify as leftists/progressives so they can’t possibly be those things #idk how to tell you that just saying you’re anti racist doesn’t make you magically anti racist #I had a guy who swore up and down that he was an anti racist but when I called him out on behavior instead of self reflecting and listening #he decided to tell all of our friends that I was a liar and my word couldn’t be trusted because I’m crazy < crazy black woman stereotype #and then when everyone else called him out on it he shut down and cut us all off #not to mention that he attacked the only other brown person in our friend group for not believing he was anti racist #and this is the issue!!!! most of you are so caught up in these labels you forget what they mean!!!#and you forget that it isn’t about what you identify as but rather your own actions #and when you choose not to think about what you’re engaging with and how. people notice.#it’s up to you to decide what’s more important. real people or your own comfort #and unfortunately most of you pick your comfort time and time again

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happy jet star saturday! i finally FINALLY posted chapter one of the very slowburn very party-centric very putting jet star into situations danger days fic called be still, my indelible friend (15.5k). i have had so much fun working on this and i'm happy to have it out in the world!!!

summary:

California, 2015.

Party looks at him, really looks. Heavy boots over dark jeans; black jacket, writing on the front of it; sunglasses on his head, over a mop of brown curls; a handsome face with kind eyes.

They put the gun down.

after a year long wait (whoops) chapter two (39.8k) is now up!

summary:

California, 2016.

Party likes Bombay Beach. But it doesn’t feel solid, permanent; it’s a pitstop on the way to the end. A mirage, promising safety when the desert still looms all around them. But they keep it to themself.

There’s no imminent danger. It’s been a long time since they could say that. They won’t take it for granted.

hooray! chapter three (38.6k) is up!

summary:

California, 2017. Dracs show up at a vending machine. One of them shoots Kobra in the leg. Party and Jet just barely manage to get them all, dodging shots and aiming poorly. Jet gets clipped in the shoulder, Party gets another graze on their arm.

“We can’t keep doing this,” Jet says as they drive away, voice wavering. He drives with one hand, unable to bend his shoulder. “I’m so sorry, Kobra, I’m so, so sorry. I should’ve protected you.”

Anonymous asked:

man I agree with you but it’s insane work to call a Latino guy a c**n like that yknow

what the fuck else am I supposed to call him? A traitor? A white dick sucker? A coconut (brown on the outside white on the inside)? Like I have no tolerance for brown and black people who ignore racism in favor of white validation. Harriet Tubman used to just shoot people like that. I personally think I’m being much kinder.

#They will all go to hell before they die and that is a scientifically proven fact!#jude.answers

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It seems like some of you enjoy that there's a black person who you're "allowed" to hate and make fun of obsessively and that's why you act that way about pete wentz. The hypocrisy is astonishing and you're actually a racist and bad feminist to only be vocal about sexual violence in the scene when it's about a mentally ill black man holy FUCK

Anonymous asked:

kind of venty but it’s ridiculous how often people will talk about pete vs how much urine is talked about on mcrblr/bandom blogs specifically . like u could make the argument for other white guys that there’s less overlap between them and mcr as there was with fob but up to a little while ago huge swaths of mcr blogs were listening to and reccing msi (especially for bass)

NO SAY THIS. like okay if you hate pedophiles so much where is the energy for the rest of them? Put your money where your mouth is and roast all of these guys alive. But it’s just the black one. They just wanna be racist that’s all it is. You’re so right baby omfggggg

how to be dense as fuck. Mixed media. 2025.

#Yeah you were racist then too dw I’m glad your clown ass left the tomatocule. You too ares. Unbelievable edgyass little babies.#and your little coon ass friend whining and crying like let’s not forget I’m a poc in bandom too 👍🏽#that’s worse!!! You know that’s worse right? You can still be racist to other poc. And we can still hold you accountable.#lmao. Here ⛏️dog yourself a little deeper #jude.txt

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it was never about Pete Wentz and the fact I’ve had to make numerous posts about it over years is exhausting. You’re being purposely obtuse, it isn’t about him, it’s about how you treat him. like the second you had a valid reason to start being awful about it you jumped, and that makes me as a black person feel unsafe and uncom-fortable. like the moment you deem me unworthy of respect you’ll jump at the opportunity. Some of you have!! The person I’m writing this about specifically has warped this conversation so twisted. and don’t hit me with the survivors. me, and countless other survivors of csa have been hurt and disgusted by you making light of someone’s abuse. you care about this some much and your way of doing that is. To make jokes? be so fucking honest you don’t care about this, you just wanna make fun of a black man you feel is easy to make fun of. Because you have a convenient excuse. It’s in extremely poor taste and incredibly trashy. I know you don’t actually care about these victims the way you say you do. Any of you. You still ship Ryden. You still listen to all time low. No one says anything about Chad Gilbert grooming Hayley Williams. Because none of you actually care. You just wanna be racist. And that’s what I’m hurt about.

Because there’s no way in hell this is caring about victims. There’s no way in hell making this post and giggling and laughing about it is caring about csa survivors. There’s no way in hell you can sell this to me that isn’t just an excuse to be racist. And derail the conversation and hide behind your supposed altruism, but I’ve been here before. Specifically with you. and I’m tired of being exposed to it. I’m tired of having my poc friends deal with it. I’m tired of being nice. I’m tired.

Anonymous asked:

hey i just saw your post about pete wentz (link below) and i was wondering if you could explain the context a little? i’ve looked into the pete wentz dating a minor allegations from the 2000s and came to my own conclusion that they were false, though im not 100% convinced and am open to new evidence. is that what you were referring to, or something else? to be clear this is all respectful and i just want to learn. thanks!!

https://www.tumblr.com/jerseymuppet/776681790702256128?source=share

To my knowledge there isn’t new evidence? The story has (to my knowledge) stayed p consistent on the accusers end, but aside from some livejournal entries and some podcast interviews. That’s really all there is… now I’m not saying it did or it didn’t happen, I genuinely don’t know! But idk where to point you for more information. Sorry about that.

Anonymous asked:

Oh god I forgot about jimmy’s racism like ,,,, his music isn’t even listenable there’s really no redeeming qualities here

truly. Put the whole man in the trash. And the rest of the band tbh. Maybe the whole scene. Perhaps. The entire industry.

#Let’s just start over. And if anyone gets too famous we make them work at McDonalds for a year to stay humble #jude.answers

shitbewild asked:

I see you're going off today

Oh my GOD I can't stress enough how racism/facism/etc. needs to be pointed out in fandom!!!!!!

People are too hateful, and they say the most vile shit about some of the best artists out there simply for being black, like fuck off

This is the same shit I was talking about when Captain America BNW came out. People wanted EVERY single reason to hate it, when I've seen Marvel movies 10x worse than this one. Just say you can't stand to see black people succeed in any format and go.

And people try to argue it's not about race, but when you ask them to critically think and tell you exactly what they don't like about it, they can barely form one coherent sentence.

I'm already upset about Trump and everything else going on that's going to make it more difficult for marginalized people to move through this country, and you hateful fandom bitches do NOT help the situation because you think you have a hot take. Bitch bye.

Ya'll say you wanna see more poc succeed but when they do, you tear them tf down, like, not everyone is perfect and not every representation is going to be a home run, but the whole point is being supportive regardless of if it meets whatever standards you carry in your brain.

Anyway, love ya Jude, keep your head up <3

hey tahj 💕💕 yeah I agree. They hate to see black people succeed they hate to see us happy and thriving and winning. Uggggg it’s so evil you can be critical of black people without being racist is so easy I do it alllll the time. Watch this.

Kendrick Lamar may have beat his wife. He also makes good music. < see how I made those statements without being weird or turning it into a joke. It’s very simple.

#I think some of the criticisms were founded. Like yes. Thinking critically about what you consume and financially support is important.#however.#All marvel movies are us military propaganda. That sure as fuck didn’t stop you from going to see spiderman homecoming so I have to ask #was that really the issue #yes yes pro Israel propaganda bad I know I agree. But so is every other marvel movie. What’s really different #jude.answers

Anonymous asked:

so weird how all the ppl bringing up Pete’s possible few interactions with Diddy being MCR blogs even though G has very notably hung out with jimmy urine and Ian watkins like ,,, I wonder why they care about one person possibly having been around predators in the industry but not the other? (Note: I’m a MCR fan as well myself I just don’t like the hypocrisy and toxic stuff a lot of this fanbase does)

GREAT POINT. I have PERSONAL beef with jimmy urine too. Ugh. Its convenient!!!! It’s so convenient and easy to ignore when your white favorites are weird and then dogpile the black guy!! It’s fun and cool!! And there is nothing wrong with it that’s indicative of bigger systemic issues or personal bias!! Cmon join in!!!

#You’re real as fuck for this I forgot about mr urine COMPLETELY #real as FUCK #jude.answers

Anonymous asked:

I’m not involved with bandom discourse anymore but I think claudia a while ago made some stupid fuckijg joke about how Pete apparently should’ve killed himself which ,, idk to me even if you think he’s a pedo is still a really gross joke to make about an openly bipolar person, yk?

Claudia loooves that joke. That meme screenshot yeah? I know the one. Unless you’re talking about something else which also checks out. I’m gonna be honest I didn’t take his psychosis into consideration, but that definitely adds a new layer of depth here.

#Tbh it’s complicated due to the allegations against him but I can definitely understand and agree that it’s harmful to bipolar people #especially when I’m sure they probably turn around and loooove chapel roan who is also openly bipolar #jude.answers

pisshandkerchief asked:

just wanted to say that I haven't been super involved in bandom lately so I'm not reblogging some of this but I saw your posts and I wanted you to know I agree with what you're saying. In the end it's not really about Pete Wentz. it never has been. yeah he did all that. whatever. I'm not defending it. But so did soooooo many other WHITE men in the scene and are we talking about that? no not really. face it almost every rock star on the face of the planet has fucked around with an underaged girl, or if they haven't they've been to a party with someone who has. and the only one bandom seems to want to talk about.....is the black man. call me when we're discussing mikey way's underaged girlfriend. actually, here's another one: call me when we're discussing gerard way's racism. and yeah, that pete wentz grooming moodboard post is absolutely disgusting. if you want to bring up these issues treat them with the weight they deserve, don't make them into a funny joke or a meme. all of this is to say this shit is ridiculous and you're right to point it out. I'm sorry about all the shit you have to deal with as a person of color in this INCREDIBLY white space. 💕

Hey Lexi 💕💕 you’re so real for getting out of this cesspit. Love that for you. And you’re so real. That’s been my whole issue with this because at the end of the day… it’s just racism disguised as activism. which is insidious especially given the context of the inciting post. Caring about csa/sa survivors shouldn’t be something you do as an. Excuse to be racist. Which seems to be all they do. So. Calling a spade a spade lmao.

#Thanks for the support cowboy. Appreciate you 💕 how have you been btw whatchu been up to? I miss you #jude.answers

Anonymous asked:

this whole discourse is just so infuriating because people keep running right past the point, which is just don't be racist when you're talking about POC in the scene. (And yeah that post from rangerpanties was way outta line and frankly disrespectful to victims, and you can kinda tell that Some of these ppl are just so glad to have a reason to talk shit about a biracial guy). And it's extra infuriating when they ignore the white guys in the scene who do similar things or worse!!! Anyway, in short I agree with you and I wish this fandom and just tumblr in general wasn't so racist

That’s always the issue. Obfuscation and distraction. Well. I can’t be racist because. You hate csa survivors. Ha! Checkmate. No dawg I am one of those. I’m also black tho and I see what youre doing lol. Very disingenuous.

Anonymous asked:

i can’t stand people.

“uhm he has pictures with diddy ☝️ i’m very smart and intelligent. it’s not like 80% of the music industry has or had some connection to him at some point. i don’t call out anyone else btw just pete specifically for no reason. and me making jokes calling him a kid liker is cool and fun btw and not weird.”

I don’t think white people understand how influential diddy was in the music industry. Like he was The Guy. So yeah. If you made music you probably crossed paths with him at some point. Literally everyone has. The diddy party thing doesn’t work the same as the Epstein list because. Yeah you kind of had to go to his parties if you wanted to network. That’s why so much of it is speculation rn because. There is so much uncertainty who knew what and all that. I mean mcr has that picture with jayz at the Grammys or whatever and jayz was allegedly diddys right hand man so I mean…. If we throw away our critical thinking skills and just assume.

#We can jump to conclusions to its fun and easy!#jude.answers

void-flesh asked:

The mood board is such a fucked up joke to make I can't believe people are immediately acting like they were trying to speak up for survivors.

Except this is how people always turn on a dime to get out of accountability. Holy shit I'm sorry about what your inbox must be like

yeah that’s been Claudia (and a lot of other people’s) go to excuse about the situation for a years now. and it sucks because like. No! They aren’t wrong! He was accused of that! but also. why do you only talk about him? out of all the other predators in the scene you know about why is it only him? And why are the jokes so consistently vile? Idk make it make sense.

#Thanks for the ask! Haven’t seen you in a minute (my fault haven’t been online) nice to hear from you #My inbox isn’t bad actually! It usually isn’t tho. I’ve been told I have a fuck around and find out energy to me. Which. Yeah.#jude.answers

Anonymous asked:

u can acknowledge the good things pete wentz did for the emo scene regarding racial inclusion but also acknowledge the fact that he has done some not great things in his personal life. those things dont cancel out the good things he did for the scene, but he did still do those not great things. both can be and are true at the same time

Sure! I agree! But I’ll even take it a step further bro I literally don’t even care about the shit he did tbh like cool yeah rah black man in the scene awesome! Love when people acknowledge that! But it isn’t about him as a person it’s about. How you can’t talk about one black person with racist connotations, and expect to not hurt and affect other Black people and poc. That’s literally it. Whether or not he’s a good person or if he did all that doesn’t matter to me you can believe what you want to believe. I don’t care! please just care about the people around you. Also making jokes about the fact he might have. Groomed or assaulted someone. Isn’t. The way to go about that. Like we know that? Right????

#I feel like I’m talking in circle can some of yall just admit youre racist. Like #ugh #and during black history month #jude.answers

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