Do find it weird when people think cis manhood and masculinity is the only true real manhood and masculinity and act like every trans man wants to look and be like a cis man.
Only reason why I’d ever go stealth and present myself as a cis man is for safety. In every other situation I’m open about the fact I’m trans. How I define my own masculinity and manhood. Cis men don’t define manhood and masculinity.
And when you don’t want to be a hypermasculine perfectly identical to a cis man they get mad. They don’t just define manhood by cis men, they violently enforce that definition.
I say I’m questioning if I will ever get top surgery , and before I can even start to explain that my reason is because of the price and the time I need to take off to heal is unrealistic for me in my situation, I’m attacked because the idea that I’m still a man but don’t conform to their idea to manhood is just so horrible to them.