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Michael Kovach

@kovox / kovox.tumblr.com

voice actor for animation and games. nothing i say about projects i work on is official or canon
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The last few months have been extremely hard and all this has lead to me having to make possibly the most difficult post Iโ€™ve ever had to make. Michael and I are no longer together. We both are making our own posts about this so please be sure to read his as well.

About 3-4 months ago Michael started becoming romantically involved (verbally, not physically) with another person and was not honest with me about it. To add important context Michael and I have been polyamorous for the vast majority of our relationship. I have had a second partner for a while who Michael has also been close friends with since well before I started dating them. Michael was of course free to have multiple partners as well, the issue is that he was dishonest and broke my trust.

I didnโ€™t plan on all of this coming out this way, but over the last couple months my trust has continued to be repeatedly broken and Iโ€™ve seen little effort on Michaelโ€™s part to repair our relationship. I donโ€™t hate Michael or think heโ€™s a bad person. He just has things to work through and heโ€™s starting therapy soon while I have also started therapy for my own struggles.

All of this being said though, Michael and I will still work together. Part of what makes this so hard is that we still love each other very much, but neither of us can make us work. I do not want a single project or friend of ours to treat him any differently. I do not want ANYONE picking sides, as that isnโ€™t what either of us need. We both have a lot of healing to do and that cannot happen without kindness and understanding. I wish nothing but the best for Michael on his healing journey, I just canโ€™t be a part of it anymore.

After 6 years of being together, Ashley and I have decided to go our separate ways.

The last few years, my relationship with Ashley has felt more like a very tight-knit friendship, and I've admittedly been comfortable with that. Though, I failed to recognize that this also created distance between us and slowly caused my romantic feelings for Ashley to lessen over time.

Early into our relationship, the discussion of polyamory came up, and while it was unfamiliar territory for me, I was willing to try it. A few years later, once Ashley started dating her current partner, I saw how happy the both of them were and it left me feeling relieved and happy for them - which unfortunately led to me unintentionally distancing myself further in our relationship.

I very recently developed feelings for another person and we became romantically involved over text. I failed to properly communicate this with Ashley and ended up hurting her, especially given how distant I had become by that point. While my intention was to slowly break things off as gently as possible to avoid hurting Ashley, I ended up giving her false hope in repairing our relationship even though I had already made up my mind - and I deeply regret that. I made things more hurtful than they needed to be.

At the end of the day, I love and care about Ashley and genuinely wish the best for her. Which is why I believe the most responsible, healthy thing we can do for each other is give each other space and focus on our own journeys as we heal. She's already started therapy, and I've got my first session tomorrow. I'm going to be taking a lot of time to focus specifically on myself and my cat, Rose.

Please respect our privacy in this time, and continue to support Ashley through everything she does. Thank you.

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I didn't know Michael Kovach had Tumblr and I also completely forgot about this but LOOK AT THE SHIRT I MADE A WHILE BACK

How do you, personally, think N would react if he were to watch a movie/show where the dog died?

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We made sure he watched All Dogs Go To Heaven first, so he knows they'll be OK.

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