Lady Onion

@elodieunderglass wol!

WOL

wish you guys would hate norway for the intense medical transphobia the way you hated swedes for not feeding people. we couldnt get a legal gender marker change without forced sterilisation until 2016. theres 1 board in 1 hospital in the whole country that's allowed to give HRT and they go by 1950s gender roles (i.e. if you're a trans man who wears nail polish, or a trans woman who wears pants, or you're gay, you're denied), and there's a minimum of a full year of psychological evaluations before any treatment is given (they ask helpful and relevant questions like "did you play with cars or dolls as a child" and "do you think about your parents when you masturbate"). anyway burn down rikshospitalet

[ID: tumblr tags that read #i hope im not deflecting when i say this happens in other countries as well #i'm german and it's basically the same here. forced chemical sterilization was required to change your gender marker until 2011 #and if self-id doesn't pass we will continue to have to put up with insane amounts of medical gatekeeping #it's disgusting and dehumanizing and i need more people to talk about this #it's a widespread issue that countries that have a rep for being progressive don't get criticized enough. end ID]

you're absolutely not deflecting, this is super important. so many european countries claim equality and good healthcare while also actively killing trans populations with medical neglect and gatekeeping.

we are being murdered by our governments. they are refusing us life saving medical care. we NEED more people to talk about this

The addition regarding Germany above was posted in early 2023.

As an update, Germany passed the self determination act in 2024, which stipulates that the gender entry and first name can be changed by simply making a declaration at the Standesamt and a three month waiting period, with no medical measures mandated. This was a huge win for transgender people in Germany that happened last year.

This image is from the wikipedia page linked above:

keep fighting!

also i think this has been figured out at this point but the whole "i miss queerbaiting" convo is like... the part of queerbaiting that ruled was because the show was usually putting forward two dudes, those two dudes got to have character arcs and motivations and writing behind both of them. they could both be interesting individually. because neither of them were shunted into 'disposable romantic interest' for each other.

but if a gay couple on tv is now supposed to be there, writers can fall for the m/f trap of 'only one of these characters needs to be fleshed out, the other is just here to explicitly be the love interest and maybe die later' except now they can both be dudes. it's not that queerbaiting was inherently better it's that unfortunately people have always been bad at understanding what makes fictional romance compelling, which is 'who the fuck are these people in the first place and why should i care'

The perfect ot3 dynamic doesn't exi--

Fujoshi warriors, get on her level

It literally makes me feel like I'm losing my mind that almost no one in the global north on here will speak about, or even react to, the fact that the US is literally funding Israeli owned death traps for starving families.

The United States and Israel have made it impossible for all actual aid to enter Gaza. Then, private contractors from the United States created the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation (GHF), with Israeli support, to "take over" aid distribution. They are preventing aid distribution by all humanitarian groups in Gaza that distribute aid in coordination with the U.N., and replacing them with GHF. These GHF sites are set up in collaboration with Israeli military to lure in starving families and gun them down.

Palestinians right here on tumblr have been discussing this for months, but so many people just reblog donation posts without even reading them.

Remember the post recently going around about ICE killing someone in California by throwing him off a roof and forcing all the witnesses to delete their footage (horrifying) where I added sources? that got SO many reactions in tags of "holy fuck" and "how is this happening" and general shock and outrage.

Even with all the reblogs, no one has reacted to my post about the food aid hubs in Gaza. Not even "no one has reacted with outrage," but just... no one has reacted in a way where it's clear they read it and felt or thought anything at all about it. Actually one person did, and it was a genocidal tangent dehumanizing Palestinians.

That's the state of things in the imperial core. Of the people who even pay attention, it's mostly people telling everyone else to tune out.

Hell, the US admits its doing this in our own papers. No one reacts. The US government doesn't need to hide anything cause everyone is willfully avoiding reading what we're doing to Palestine. It's grotesque.

Will you still reblog this post if I add links to fundraisers for my friends who are starving to death? Or will every last word blur into "oh this is a post asking for money, and nothing else about it is worth knowing"?

Nader is starving. His campaign is vetted (4). You can donate here. His blog is @abdalsalam2000

Fadel is starving. His campaign is vetted (197). You can donate here. His blog is @fadel-dani

Mahrah is starving. Her campaign is vetted. You can donate here. Her blog is @mahrahpalestine.

Mahmoud is starving. His campaign is vetted. You can donate here. His blog is @palestinian95

Ahmed is starving. His campaign is vetted (198). You can donate here. His blog is @ahmedaldani333

Are you still reading? Can you still see my words now that I've included links where you can donate? Did they disappear?

i would like to thank the uc berkeley professor who created the technology to put heart rate monitors in watches who also happens to be a furry

bc of you i was able to get my pots diagnosis and better understand what’s wrong w me 🙏🙏

furries contribution to this world is unmatched yall

I just found out that he passed away today, July 18, 2025. may his memory be a blessing and be remembered for his brilliant work and contributions.

Today I had privilege over a white woman.

Just- not for the reasons you may think.

There was a service dog team boarding the plane ahead of us. Normally I just give the usual ~6-10ft of space so we aren't crowding two dogs right next to each other when they need to work- but I noticed something. Her dog was fairly young, and while he was behaving he kept stopping to look behind so he could see us. She, however, didn't look around at all, just asked him what the problem was and to move forward. To which he complied, but then would stop and look at us again after a couple steps.

I called out that I was behind her with a service dog of my own, and that her dog was behaving but definitely distracted by mine, so if she would like I could give them more space. Initially she tried to say no, that wasn't necessary- but then her dog stopped to turn around again. She said that he was new, and that she hadn't expected him to be so unnerved by another dog.

We were the first two to board with a long line of people behind us. I told her no worries, take the time she needs, the plane won't leave without us and we're boarding with plenty of time to spare. That I noticed she didn't look around when her dog turned and recognized the style of harness and assumed she had a vision related disability and wanted to let her know what he was struggling with so she could adjust. That I would keep my distance so he could properly guide her onto the plane. I asked the people behind me to give us a moment so she could board safely. Everyone agreed to it- surprising at 5am and especially because the family immediately behind me had young children I could hear them teaching about what service dogs are- and equally called encouragements for her to go at her own pace.

She said as she walked with more confidence now that her dog was focused again, that she actually had no vision whatsoever and had just been placed with this dog to assist her via an organization.

She was able to board without further interruptions and then I let her know when I walked by her so she could make sure she understood her dog's reaction to mine. She thanked me for that, and for the assistance with boarding.

I waited until she was off the plane to gather my dog and my things.

But I wanted to talk about privilege- you see, while we both have a disability, mine affects me overall far less. It's a 100% fact that with testosterone, I barely have need for a service dog at all, and only bring one as a "just in case", similar to the cane I keep in my car that I haven't touched in a year. This woman is completely blind- her disability affects her in a much more immediate and drastic way.

As a more seasoned handler and team, I have more confidence to demand accessibility considerations. As a man, I'm more readily listened to. As someone with a large, dark colored dog- I even have the mythical "scary dog privilege" where her cute and friendly waggy lab might not. So when I say, give this lady space for her dog to do his job, as someone with a clearly marked, well behaved dog who can see what the problem is, those behind me stopped dead in their tracks and listened.

This is a social privilege in action. As a confident, cis-male-presenting, sighted person with a well behaved dog, this nervous blind woman struggling with her dog needed someone in her corner to advocate for her while she figured out what she needed to do to get her dog back on track.

My privilege over her in this moment is not an example of oppression. It could have been- had I not realized the issue and taken action to help, had I pushed past her, had I started heckling her about her dog's behavior or her own handling. But it is something that I don't need to consider in my everyday life- after all, I'm not the one totally reliant on a dog to tell me if my surroundings are safe, and my need for a dog is very small these days besides.

And- it's changeable.

During my bus trip with Creed back when I was more reliant on him, and he was still alive, I had several bus passengers pitch a fit about having to tolerate a dog on the bus. Despite his good behavior and his clearly marked vest, it was decided by several seats around me that his presence was a problem. Until an old white man in a wheelchair was put on the same bus, and yelled at them for being so intolerant.

I once caught an old white man as he stepped into the mall I was also entering to shop, and fell back against me while having a seizure. I stayed with him until paramedics arrived. I have no idea who he was. An older white woman interrupted AKC staff at a show they were harassing me about my service dog gear- she was a friend of a friend, though a stranger to me at that time. She died a few months later from complications of a lifelong addiction.

And I think this sort of situation is one that this website does not often consider. Between two under-privileged people, social privilege can change on a whim depending on context and the exact intersections at play for *all* involved.

But instead of doing a thought experiment based on theory, tell me. How do you act when you experience this situation in person? Do you have it in you to step in for someone that needs help, regardless of what demographics you or they represent?

David Bowie - Interview - Afternoon plus - 1979  [x]

Not much has changed in the way people treat bisexuality smh

“are you bisexual” “yes” “i’m not sure i understand” “I’m bisexual” “what do you mean” “ThAT I AM BISEXUAL”

Countries the US government has launched military interventions in [1798-2022]

you shouldn’t be allowed to wake up with a headache

I love you Sebago, I would die for you Sebago

Ok first I need everyone to know that the owner posted another picture of Sebago and like. She could easily be a moose for Halloween.

Also, the official Guinness World Record for tallest mule was a dude named Apollo, who was the same height but weighed in at 100lbs heavier.

I felt like you guys will appreciate this

People take names and especially surnames so damn seriously and act like they’re written in stone but the big secret here is they’re all fake, it’s all made up. David Tennant picked out his name at 16 because his real name was barred from the actor’s union he joined on account of their No Doubles Allowed rule, and he wound up naming himself after Neil Tennant from the Pet Shop Boys of all things, and now many years later his whole family carries on that same made-up name he committed to as a teenager. All names are made up and fake as hell, call yourself whatever feels right.

As a trans person it actually always makes me sad when even a cis person tells me they hate their name. I’m always like, change it, and they’re like “oh I dont want to go through the paperwork etc” and I’m like, you don’t have to, just use a different name socially, have your friends call you what you want, and they never know how to respond it seems, like they can’t really wrap their head around that concept being easy and acceptable.. It just makes me sad for them cause I live in such a different social world with fellow trans people in which having a chosen name is expected by most people AND respected, no one will ever mention your legal/deadname.

Cis people can do it too! Normalize it!! You don’t have to be trans to have a chosen name! No one should ever have to go through the burden of hearing yourself being called something you can’t stand, as someone who knows how terrible that feels. Your identity is your own to dictate and dont let the world stop you

(Ofc just be sure to avoid appropriating names outside of your culture that aren’t meant to be shared)

He needs his straining order so he can maintain the proper amount of cahoots to get back on his bullshit, all right?

"came back wrong" sure yeah that's cool i guess "came back suicidal" now you're talking

came back imprisoned by obligation to bear responsibility for the love and grief that others feel for you. came back painfully aware of the horror of existence. came back to a life you cannot bear to live anymore, to a body you cannot bear to call yours.

it's day one of disability pride month and iiiiii started my period and a pain flare at the same time lmao this is fine thank you fibro/pots/pcos one-three punch i'm not about to tear my insides out with my nails at all

hi i'm a disabled biracial queer that can't work and needs help

i need to come up with $950 to pay my bills this month, and I'm already $30 overdrawn at the moment; $600 of that is just for my household's vehicle that keeps my roommate [ @natalieironside ] getting to work and keep the roof over our collective heads. The rest is my medication refills, and various small bills that add up too damn quick.

pledging to my patreon really does help a lot, but if you're willing and able to make direct donations to help my survival, here are the links to do that:

as always: only if you're able, and boosts are deeply appreciated. thank you all so much. <3

Day 10 of disability pride month: I actually feel pretty good today, despite the ridiculous humidity that makes it difficult to breathe while walking the dog, and baseline body pain, so I'm working on art today! Also the budget. (I'm rewarding myself with art)

the $400 car payment is due on the 12th, and i have two smaller bills (a $45, and a $15) that are due today.

The big total need: $810

The little total have: $12

thank you all so much for that big initial boost; an overdrawn bank account is my least favorite financial status. <3 It also meant I didn't run out of meds! Oh yeah, we're fully medicated right now.

(Well. as medicated as an uninsured ADHDer can be, anyway. you get it.)

Day 14 of Disability Pride Month:

The car payment has been made! *collapses in relief* It's my biggest pain in the ass, necessary for survival bill. Thank you all so so much for helping me keep it. I would not be able to do it without you.

The remaining big need: $433

Day 17 of Disability Pride Month:

i ran errands during the hottest part of the day in Florida, and that maaaay have been a mistake. and then the mortal kombat ii trailer dropped so it's been a high heart rate day for one reason or another lol *lays on the tile*

Financially, I am very close to a completely caught up July budget! *celebratory john cena sounds*