mmmโฆ is it too indulgent to finally share my favorite ocโฆ should I do itโฆ mmmโฆ
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Sometimes i feel like younger queer kids are getting a bit to bold with openly talking to people they donโt know In The Context Of:
More than once i have had a younger/same age queer person come up to me in public settings and say something about โfinding other gaysโ or clearly clocking me as nonbinary and Iโm like :)))))))) hey buddy Iโm here with my conservative parents can you fucking not out me :))))))))
Just say you like my outfit or hair and move on, fuck even tell me you like my shoelaces. Donโt call me gay and limp your wrist at me when you donโt even know me? Especially when thereโs a bunch of ppl around?
i was out with my ex once when three *very* young queer kids, like thirteen years old, came up to us and asked us โare you guys, you knowโฆโ and did the limp wrist thing at us. one of them loudly exclaimed that it was so cool to meet other queer people in real life. this was in public in an unbelievably conservative area - we didnโt even feel safe holding hands because we were surrounded by Mormons. we got lucky that day, but Iโm begging yโall to remember that the world doesnโt work like the internet. other queers are real fuckin people. donโt do this shit. OP is right; tell me you like my jacket, or my patches, or the rainbow spokes on my wheelchair, but donโt out either of us!
This used to be standard operating procedure not even ten years ago: NEVER OUT OTHER QUEERS, even if theyโre supposedly already out. Never assume that itโs okay to let third parties know that so-and-so is queer. Ever. You never know when youโve found the one uncle with the heart condition that they canโt bear to risk telling, or the one neighbor whoโs just threatening enough that they donโt mention it around, or even the grandma that they havenโt gotten around to mentioning it to yet. You might have just ruined a very important milestone for someone, or you could have put them at actual risk of harm.
Alsoโฆ stop freaking assuming. If you donโt see a pride flag on them, please donโt just assume. You canโt tell ANYTHING about a personโs gender or partner preferences by what theyโre wearing on any given day, what their hair looks like, or whether or not theyโre using makeup. You legit cannot, and you look like a jerk when you try.
this is even more important now that Trump is in power.
some people will be choosing to live in the closet and it is not your job to pressure them one way or the other.
protect your lgbtq siblings - honor their choices - and never talk to cops, collaborators, and snitches.
Younger queer people have grown up in a better world, but weโre in a time of backsliding right now. Do NOT out other queer people. Also, Iโm not gonna tell you how to present yourselves in publicโฆโฆโฆ..but please, I am begging you to re-evaluate HOW safe you are in the current climate.
toya showing an a really stupid dead meme bc she looked a little sad (he is trying his best)
success!!
