Sayer Of Sooths

bugs is…. shrimp????

say what you will about the reserve bank of india these are some cracking coins

some of the worst classism is white collar middle class americans against blue collar & minimum wage workers. “why does that plumber make more than me” because he’s been perfecting his craft for 30 years and you send emails. “they’re in the trades bc they’re too dumb to do anything else” ok take that engine apart and put it back together real fast babe. “they’re boring bc they never left their home town” have you considered they financially couldn’t? I am not saying it is anyone’s job to educate, nor you need to respect people who do not respect you, but while you maybe never sympathize we need to learn to empathize. consider why (who) allowed for massive parts of country to be uneducated and how many impoverished areas of this country haven’t had a voice for a very long time. we are all victims of the rich. remember it is up vs down

"never kill yourself" is perhaps my favourite meme these days. there will always be joy in your future and you just need to stick it out to find it

i cant stop saying "grisp it"

That wonderful home cooking! #vintage #cottagecore #supertaster #aesthetic #momcore

What did I do to deserve a fate such as this.

girl it was already blazed....naught but embers

MY OLD RACIST PROFESSOR WHO GOT FIRED FIVE YEARS AGO IS AT THIS PSYCH CONFERENCE?!!!?

IM LIKE STANDING TEN FEET AWAY FROM HIM IM GONNA END IT ALL.

men lose their masculinity (the social reward for correctly performed manhood) through advocating for, sympathizing with, or doing labor that is allocated to women.

(and I'm not talking about some innate, spiritual, or psychological masculinity. I mean social masculinity--being regarded by higher ranking men as masculine.)

you genuinely do lose your current standing if you meaningfully and consistently object to the economic, legal, and interpersonal status of women, especially in ways that implicate men around you.

many men believe that if they are willing to do this, occasionally, then they are owed a recuperation of their masculinity through some other means.

if they are sacrificing masculinity through advocating for women politically, then they expect to bolster their masculinity through receiving expressions of gratitude and adoration by women ("feminist men are so hot" "consent is sexy" "pro-choice men get laid more" etc.) or they expect to bolster their masculinity through emasculating other men by asserting the standards of masculinity they adhere to are the "real" masculinity ("real men support women" "sexists are immature boys, I'm a man" "I'm secure in my masculinity and they're insecure" etc.)

to dismantle patriarchy, you need to be able to advocate for women even when it means losing gendered status. other men mostly will not respect you, and many misogynist women will not respect you either. it might not get you laid or praised or validated. in fact, it will probably subject you to increased scrutiny and criticism (because feminized subjects are always subject to such, and if you lose social masculinity, you too will experience this to some degree).

will you still advocate for women even if there is no social benefit and only social cost? do you have principles, or do you just want the fantasy of being a benevolent ruler?

Reminds me of this passage from Julia Serrano’s book “Whipping Girl”

I hope you don't mind me elevating these tags to the main post, @trautkeinenartigenkindern. (adding some spacing for ease of reading)

this really reflects my experiences, too. so many specific examples from my life come to mind.

I think this is such an insight about common ways many men manage this dynamic of simultaneously wanting to act in ways they understand to be feminist while also wanting to hold onto their masculinity (i.e. the social power granted to them for maintaining sexgender class As A Man).

if they sacrifice public masculinity, they feel entitled to its security in the private sphere. if they move equitably in the domestic sphere, they do not speak up in public where other men could see and emasculate them.

I think, too, of the men I've known who only seem to be "feminist" around women, and change their entire body language/phrasing/conversational tone as soon as other men enter a space.

there's definitely a careful balancing act happening for a lot of men.

my grandmas dawg

heres what your grandmas dog wold look like. if they were a trail of ant

im getting sick of this.

This is the only condiment you can use for one whole year.

i dont hate shipping i just think a lot of you people maybe like shipping too much

its ok. you can engage in a fandom without shipping. its ok. there are other things you can do. not everything needs to be about romance and characters being cute and kissing

“you can engage in a fandom without shipping 🤓 🤓🤓” ok and?? I don’t want to. I’m perfectly happy with everything being about romance and characters being cute and kissing

i was being too lenient before i have now decided no one is allowed to ship anything. in fact nobody is allowed to like eachother romance is banned in my beautiful world #hatred #ihatelove #mybeautifulworld #imalwaysright 😇

I'm kinda down bad for H'aanit in Cyrus' outfit so I did another sketch 🫣

“From whence you came” is a classic place to send back a foul beast

you better start believing in bathrooms son... you're in one

Nononono not the bathroom not again

I got like zero sleep and I’m at work trying to act like a human being and I was nearly moved to tears by a stock photo of a sad businessman

he;s so sad