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please help me pay for my dad's funeral
i decided it was easier to make a new post. please reblog. i appreciate it so much.
on december 20th my dad passed away, after i had been caring for him for a year and a half with his heath becoming progressively worse over these past couple of months. he had absolutely no money at all, as he was disabled in several ways. i have three sisters but only one of them have been helping me with caring for him, and we just don't have any money either. my sister is doing random temp jobs in pre-schools because that's all she's been able to get, and i am disabled myself and can't work.
on december 27th we had a small ceremony in the hospital chapel with only the closest family present, and afterwards we went to my sister's for coffee and i had baked my dad's favorite cake. we are incredibly to have found a very sweet and empathetic funeral arranger (english not my first language i'm sorry) who has been very understanding of our financial situation.
but even the most economic of death aftercare is highly pricey. the price for her services has come to 12,000 danish kroner but that's not including a headstone which we don't even have a price for yet but it looks like several thousand on top of that along with fees for having the urn put in the ground, and there's also obligatory court fees for estate settlement that i don't even know about yet because the beaurocracy is slow and i am fumbling in the dark here doing all of this on my own and i have to be so damn practical in handling the literal worst thing in my entire life.
i will spare my rambling. so far from my last post so many lovely people have reblogged and given lovely donations and so many kind words, but at this point donations amount to about 1300 danish kroner, which is just a drop in the bucket, and i am so ashamed to have to go online begging for help to do this, but i don't know what else to do.
i would do the whole countdown to show how much i need and how much has already been donated but at this point i genuinely don't even know how much the final cost will be but it's looking like at least 16,000 danish kroner.
even if you can't donate reblogging is so appreciated thank you so much and i am so sorry
i talked to the stone carver, and with his fee i think at this point our full cost lies at 17.000 danish kroner, but i am gonna call the funeral director to ask her to help me make sure i have done everything i need to do, and i haven't forgotten anything in this whole process.
so far donations have come to about 1500 danish kroner from some very lovely people. i owe you everything.
but please even if you can't donate, please please please keep reblogging so maybe someone else can. i am looking at debt for years and years for this even with having gone for all the cheapest options.
