One time in highschool our teacher said that it was never under any circumstances okay for a boy to hit a girl and I asked “not even in self defense?” and he said “no” so I pointed to the kid next to me and said “so if I just started whaling on this guy then he’d just have to take it? What the hell” and he was like “you two have had the same homeroom for three years do you not know his name” and I was like “that’s not the point right now” and Mr. K if you’re out there reading this I’m still mad about it

the argument actually took up most of the class after that but there was a point where he said “why do you want men to hit women so badly?” And I answered “I don’t want anybody to hit anybody, I just think assuming that no woman you meet could possibly hurt you is kind of insulting” and I didn’t WIN per se but you could kind of feel the air shift as the conversation went from “chivalry good” to “girls might WANT to kick your ass”

Anyhow it’s been like 15 years now but I still swear by “capacity for harm is not gender-specific”, “nobody should be hurting anybody”, “men can be abused too”, and “gender equality means accepting that women CAN hurt you” so suck it, Mr. K

i always say this and ppl give me crazy looks. all my male coworkers and friends insist that even if a woman were to come up to them and literally punch them in the face that they wouldn’t fight back because “you don’t hit women” and like i find that fucking BAFFLING. you’re telling me that a human being with the free will they are given chooses to come up to you and deck you in the face you’re not gonna fight back bc they have tits? and then when you point out “hey do you only feel that way bc you inherently views women as weaker beings who can’t really hurt you and that you could easily hurt” and they just go “no i just don’t wanna hit a woman” but WHY. i understand there’s obviously not the urge to just go up to a woman and hit her but how tf are you gonna not even defend urself

how could socialism do this?

nah if you’re poor and you’re out here just buying random shit how do you expect to ever not be poor?? coming from a previously poor person

So is having empathy for poor people insane too?

imagine that maybe i’ve been poor? and i’ve seen people literally continuously dig their way into poverty bc they won’t stop buying luxuries when they have no money 🫶

Ok as someone who is actually poor, like impoverished to the point of no escape, lemme tell you something.

I get about 950 dollars a month in SSI benefits, which with the subsidies I have for housing is more than enough to keep me alive. So you’re probably thinking I should save up money to pull myself up by the bootstraps and get into the middle class, right?

WELL THEN YOU DON’T KNOW SHIT ABOUT THIS!

If I did that I would save up about a thousand dollars before a new check comes in, I cash it, and then immediately forfeit my benefits, including my health insurance, food stamps, and housing.

So no, you’re fucking wrong, you can’t just pull yourself out of a situation designed by the rich to keep you poor, and you’re a self absorbed, whiny little cunt. Don’t talk about shit you don’t understand.

(And before you say it this is a systemic problem, so don’t try to make the argument that this is specifically a me issue, when anyone on welfare is in my position and has to make the choices I do, so shut the fuck up please)

do tumblr users have reading comprehension? like holy shit. being literally in poverty as in can barley afford to keep the lights on and yet constantly buying new things and spending money you don’t have ≠ never buying yourself anything that brings you joy. i DO understand because i fucking loved that way for years. i was huddled in front of the oven for warmth bc we didn’t have heat. literally scraping by in a one bedroom home with four people. and i watched all the poor people around me constantly buy new shit they didn’t need and refused to do any type of budgeting or anything and then acted SHOCKED they were still poor.

obviously i don’t think every fucking poor person can just pick themselves up and be rich but like. you can’t sit here and tell me it’s not some people fault they are poor. adults make repeatedly bad decisions and end up with nothing and there’s literally *nothing* to do about it because these people will always dig themselves a hole. so maybe read what i said again bc holy shit

(TW FOR ABLEISM, MELTDOWNS, ETC.)

Supporting disabled people is more than just supporting us when you think its cute, easy, or beneficial for you.

If your support ends when you see an adult in public with a diaper bulge, you aren't supporting disabled people.

If your support ends when you see someone drooling, you aren't supporting disabled people.

If your support ends when someone has a violent meltdown in public, you aren't supporting disabled people.

If your support ends when someone needs help being fed, you aren't supporting disabled people.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

I know that you dont think its cute or aesthetically pleasing to try and calm me down and be understanding of me when I throw my communication device across the room and slam my head into the ground because someone laughed too loudly, I know that you think its embarrassing. I know you dont think it's all "uwu cute tism" when I can't shower for a week straight and spend the whole day crying, yelling, and biting myself, but if that makes you angry at me, you arent supporting disabled people.

What is your limit to supporting disabled people? What is your limit to being okay with the fact that I am NOT like your nondisabled friends?

Where does the support end and the disgust start? How long until we are "too disabled" for you?

/not at anyone specific

not attacking the point but at which point do you expect people to just allow this shit to happen? if a disabled person is having a violent outbreak in public you can’t just expect people to go “oh well he has a disability” like i don’t understand the logic here. just bc something is caused by something else doesn’t just immediately excuse it and give you cause to say we aren’t “supporting” you. like anyone is clearly gonna be upset if you’re just having a fucking meltdown and you’re 30 years old?? like have some nuance. i am so sick of coming on this website and hearing “if this group doesn’t have your completely unwavering support or you question anything they do you’re a bigot and a horrible person” like jfc

no I don't think anti vaxxers should get organ transplants and I don't think they should get surgeries at all. I don't even know if they should get antibiotics or medical care.

if they don't believe in medical science, then they can die of whatever they get.

Thats just divorcing them from the fact that an anti intilectual society had been built around them. I don't consider it anti vaxxers fault they have taken lies to be truth when any number of them could have dropped out of school, been mislead by trusted peers or be suffering from mental illness.

I mean litterally there is a reason these beliefs are in circulation and its not because those people are all bad man.

I know this is the liberal leftist website where we remove personal responsibility from all human actions.

but try to understand when I say this: you are not exempt from criticism for being a racist or a sexist just because you were raised that way.

you are not an innocent little child, who doesn't know any better, when you are a grown ass fucking 34 year old mom who refuses to mask and doesn't believe covid is real even as her husband is choking to death in the hospital that you shouldn't even be in because it's filled with black magic.

I have no sympathy for anti vaxxers, they deliberately choose bullshit sources and ignore official ones. they make no attempt to challenge themselves, they choose conspiracy theories and maga bullshit because it makes them feel better.

and their dumbass feelings are going to bring back fucking polio and make measles deadly and kill babies and immunocompromised children.

fuck them. I have no empathy for them.

if they want to die of easily preventable diseases, then they can do so. but it should be away from the rest of us.

oh this take is so dog shit.

I'm so sick of these people.

this is NOT the year to try to make me feel bad for Trumpers just because they don't know any better.

that 59 year old white man who thinks Hitler might've actually not been so bad is not a poor little misguided baby

step the fuck off.

it’s so frustrating that anti vax people can run around giving people deadly diseases and literally undoing years of progress but the moment you say “okay then don’t come to our hospitals when *youre* the sick one” you’re the bad guy

nah if you’re poor and you’re out here just buying random shit how do you expect to ever not be poor?? coming from a previously poor person

So is having empathy for poor people insane too?

imagine that maybe i’ve been poor? and i’ve seen people literally continuously dig their way into poverty bc they won’t stop buying luxuries when they have no money 🫶