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sadhappylady

@sadhappylady

Hanna, she/her. In my 40's. Norwegian. Mother of two, environmentalist, Young Royals fan. Friendly soul!
For @youngroyals-events character month, week 1: Sara (autism/ADHD/neurodivergence)

"When it comes to doing things wrong, I'm somewhat of an expert. And the anxiety that follows, that's the worst feeling in the world. I carried around a hell of a lot of guilt and shame for letting you and Simon down. So when Linda and I eventually got divorced, I just gave up."

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Your confidence and the way you have opened up about writing smutty fic has been really great and eye opening in a way. I think there's still a lot of shame around wanting to read or write smut in fics in a way that's unapologetically centered and letting our imagination go wild. It's amazing and tbh we need people to be more open about it so we can all stop judging ourselves for liking it or for ever feeling drawn to them (bc let's be honest I think it's usually guilt we bring up from what we were told about sex etc). So thank you and all the other smutty writers out there !!!

This is so 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 oh my god. I'm- yeah. Yeah. This ask really struck a chord with me and I'm beyond grateful that you sent it in, oh my god 😭

Hearing this means SO fucking much to me, you have no idea. I'm so happy that the things I write and how I talk about writing them can have even a little bit of an impact.

I do think there still is a lot of shame around it. I mean, I guess in a way I'm not really confronted with a lot of it because the reactions I do get on my fics are very positive which I'm insanely grateful for and I obviously don't know about the people who want to stay hidden, but. Yeah. I think it's definitely a thing.

And I 100% agree with you, I think SO many of us struggle with that inner judgement or guilt about liking smut, wanting to read it, wanting to write it. When, honestly? It's just one of the many ways we can enjoy depictions of intimacy and romance and human connection and joy and all sorts of different emotions! Smut can absolutely be as cathartic as all other genres, and even when it's not that deep, it's fun and enjoyable and interesting to read!!! And, just as much, it's fun to write!!! It's not any less moral than any other fics, just because it's sexual.

And while I can confidently say all that, about smut in general, I still struggle soooo bad with that internalized shame. So much of it is, for me personally, just like you said, linked to the things people in my life said or implied about sex or sexual content. Purity culture of all forms is fucking rampant and it's awful, and it's definitely exasperated if you add queerness into the mix, both of the subject matter and of many readers and writers of fanfic. Like. The amount of times I have to tell myself that it's actually okay and kind of the point to depict my queer characters as sexually attracted to each other... Just because there's still traces of shame that rise to the surface very easily.

But I've noticed A LOT of growth in myself since I started writing fic again when I came into the fandom. I remember how terrified I was of going there, whatever that meant, in the first few smut fics I've written for yr, and now that fear is deeeeefinitely a lot less pronounced than it used to be!

In February I remembered how bad I felt a year ago while writing the hallway scene fic and how I thought I was leaning into it too much. And now recently I posted collar Wille and, while still nervous and very invested in how it would be perceived, felt good about having gone there and written something I haven't tried writing before!!! Hell yeah for some niche smut!!!

And, honestly, a huge part of that has been the lovely lovely lovely feedback I've gotten from people like you, the conversations I've had about this with friends, the amazing smut fics I've gotten the chance to read in this fandom (so THANK YOU to everyone else out there writing smut! you guys inspire me to no end 💜💜💜), and, very fundamentally, the way the show itself handles sexuality.

Whelp. That got unnecessarily long. But... yeah... Your message means more to me than you could possibly know, I'm going to cherish it forever, so thank you 💜

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Hiiii a friend of mine is doing their thesis on collaborative fanfiction and it would be really awesome if anyone here who is a reader or writer of fanfiction could answer their short surveys :) I remember how hard ut was to get responses for my masters research 😩😩 it won’t take long and I might even give you all a sneak peek at chapter 7 of divorce fic…..

Feel free to do both!!

For readers

For writers

Thank youuuuu and please pass on to friends in other fandoms!!!

I’m forgetting so many people rn but the tumblr app is so bad at auto filling and I can’t remember how alot of peoples handles are written 😭😭😭 so if you see this and I didn’t tag you my brain is blanking

Gifts 🎁❤️🎁

YR-Anniversary Love Language Fic Rec List

@books-books-smolderinglooks suggested Love Languages as a theme to celebrate for the YR season 3 anniversary! So I am celebrating with fic rec lists!

Gifts - Receiving a heartfelt gift -not always material- is what makes them feel the most loved!

Little Acorns by wilmonlibrarian (T, WIP -67K)

You’re Simply The Best by Cloudymilk (E, 123K)

Protected by bastuba (M -44K)

finding home by Elin98 (G, WIP -98K)

What we’re building (M -14K) Yours to Keep series by fitz_y

*I KNOW I have missed some, so please add your rec picks!!

💜 Happy S3 Anniversary and Happy Reading!

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The 3rd chapter of I Just Wanna Let It Go is out!

Summary: It has been a week since Wilhelm's speech. Simon and Wilhelm are adjusting to the new changes in their relationship while coming to realize certain things are harder to let go of than others.

In the third chapter Simon discovers new things about his identity and what other people might think of his relationship.

Read the third chapter here!

A little snippet:

"How are we going to do this then?"
Simon shrugged. "I guess we are going to let our instincts guide us." That sounded like a terrible idea now, why did he agree to this?
Wille looked down, suddenly seeming shy and tugged at his lip. "I can feel them in the back of my head but I'm used to ignoring them or well, at least trying to."
"What are your instincts telling you now then?" Why was he encouraging this, he should stop talking!
A mischievous smile spread across Wille's lips. "To fuck you."
Simon almost rolled his eyes but a fond grin made its way onto his face despite his current state. "Besides that?"
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I think y’all are giving Erik wayyyy too much credit in fandom….

He’s not the one that threw a fit about going to Hillerska - and notably, he didn’t throw a fit when Wille didn’t want to but had to anyway. He tells Wille to “stop being selfish” and to learn to “keep up appearances.” He says that “the faster he [Wille] adapts, the easier his life will be.” This is very much reminiscent of the Queen’s rhetoric.

Even Vincent compares the two brothers and says that “Wille doesn’t seem to be about the royal life, not like Erik.”

I mean, I don’t think he did anything wrong, but from the little we see of Erik, he isn’t confrontational enough of a person to stand up for Wille or go against the status quo. He supports Wille’s relationship yes, but at the bare minimum - he encouraged Wille to keep it quiet, to enjoy it privately, because that’s what Erik does. He lives privately and he’s okay with that. He is very much someone who has learned to survive in the confines of his role and is trying to teach Wille to do the same.

Between the two of them I’d actually say that, had Erik not died, Wilhelm would’ve been the one to stand up for Erik in the off chance he wanted to step out of his role and do something against the grain. Of course, this doesn’t mean that they can’t be close or there’s no love or anything like that (I firmly think there is love between all members of the royal family including between Kristina & Wille), but just that the revolutionary in the family has been, is, and always will be Wilhelm and Wilhelm alone.

someone just liked this post i made from 2022 and i can't stop laughing

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