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Selene Distress

@selenedistress / selenedistress.tumblr.com

Selene Distress. She/her. 24 years old. Sayer, and occasionally, doer of things. Tumblr intermediate. My mom once said that if I ate my nails they would turn into worms in my stomach.
Anonymous asked:

Is transitioning even worth it? i see so many posts every day talking about how being a trans woman in todays society is utter hell. I kind of feel like a girl but I could live without it, yknow? i don't need it in order to be happy. It would be nice but it would be so much effort just to be pelted with a barrage of misery every day from vitriolic bigots.

idk im just feeling kinda hopeless abt the whole thing :(

it is more worth it than you can possibly imagine

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Anon, I’m going to tell you what I wish someone had told me 5 years ago, because at that time I could have written what you wrote here. That version of me was living in Plato’s cave, aware that the images on the wall were a mere projection of the real world, but still convinced that I could stay in the cave because the projections were real enough to satisfy me and the climb out would be too rough and too dangerous to be worth it. Anon, I am holding you by the shoulders and staring gently but directly into your eyes and I am telling you: you need to get out of the cave. The climb out is arduous, and the world outside is dangerous, but it’s real, and once you’re out here, you can finally be real too. I used to think I could be happy in the cave, but now that I’m here, now that I’m me, there is no force strong enough to push me back in. You’re right, trans women have it bad right now. It’s a rough life, but it’s the only one worth living, because it’s the only one where we are living.

You need to get out of the cave. You know the way out. The climb is hard, but OP and I and so many others on this site will help you when you need it (please, for real, DM her or me if you want). But you need to get out of the cave. You deserve to be real. I love you.

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Can I be honest I was a terf for awhile and then I realized they didn’t just hate trans women they also hated themselves too and kept repeating a bunch of mysoginistic shit. And I knew the sexist stuff they said about cis women wasn’t true…and it was so weird it got me thinking about the stuff they were saying about trans women. and I started realizing they didn’t really hate trans women for being trans…they hated that trans women were enjoying being women while TERFs absolutely hated being women. the irony is that their own internalized sexism opened my eyes and turned me into a trans ally.

EPIC WIN IM SO PROUD OF YOU it’s not easy to break free of turd circles since it’s run like a cult. Once you realize they contradict themselves all the time and aren’t even feminists it becomes hard to take any of their arguments seriously

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“Appeal to a wider audience” is corporate lingo for “strip more themes from a piece of media so it’s safer and more sanitized for investors”

I struck a nerve in the billionaire fandom with this one

pirates of the caribbean really introduced an eldritch octopus man who kills indiscriminately and torments the dead as their poster villain and then you watch the movies and it's like, "oh no, actually the worst villain in this series is a small white british man who functions as the herald of capitalism" and that was very very brave of them

"never kill yourself" is perhaps my favourite meme these days. there will always be joy in your future and you just need to stick it out to find it

“Appeal to a wider audience” is corporate lingo for “strip more themes from a piece of media so it’s safer and more sanitized for investors”

I struck a nerve in the billionaire fandom with this one

okay but if you ever see a male creative who had a string of great work and then everything else he did was dogshit, go to the "personal life" part of his wikipedia and look at his relationships. you'll either find a major tragedy he didn't recover from (completely understandable) or, more likely, there was a woman in his life doing uncredited shit editing his stuff or contributing generally and she's not there anymore.

I told a friend about this phenomenon in literature and he called me weeks later like, I remembered what you said about women doing uncredited work when tim burton came up. he made a string of bangers then everything else just was nowhere near as good. the timeline matches perfectly to when he was with this german visual artist (lena gieseke). he's done some good work in collaboration, but if things were dug into I suspect we would find she did a lot more than people realise.

so yeah whenever you look around like wow women didn't work in history, or, women aren't auteurs, or, there just aren't as many great female writers - societal reasons for that aside, half the time they absolutely did.

Hell yeah

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