Animals that I really NEED to pet:

i learned about a stupid looking bird today and i cant stop laughing

its called a crested satinbird (cnemophilus macgregorii)

In hindsight it's very insulting to be told that flunking out of college due to adhd is actually "quite common"

just like, if there's a history at your institution of disabled kids not being able to make it you realise that's your fault right. like why don't you fucking do something about it. i guess they tried to do something about it with me and it failed so they let me go. crazy. nice work. why should we try to do any better.

only 5% of people with adhd who go to college finish a degree. FUCKING. FIVE!!! PERCENT!!!!!!!!!!!

that should disgust and enrage you.

if any other demographic of students had a 95% failure rate, we would be demanding reform and studies to understand why that’s happening

when i was at my first university, trying to get accommodations for my ADHD, they just kept asking me what accommodations i wanted, and refused to answer when i would ask what was available to me. how the Hell am i supposed to know what i can have? what’s available???? also, i don’t know!!!! i’m an adhd sufferer, not a fucking disability expert for the fucking college, unlike you, DISABILITY EXPERT WHO WORKS FOR THE COLLEGE.

but because the us is OBSESSED with making sure no one gets anything “”for free””, she literally would not tell me what my options were until i broke down in tears and asked her why she was refusing to help me. and then she did a big sigh, like i was fucking up her entire career by *checks notes* asking the disability center in my university to help me, a disabled student

at the second uni i went to, i tried to explain to a dean that i was literally two gen eds that had nothing to do with my degree away from graduating and that i was burnt out and broke and exhausted and suicidal and i just needed to be able to finish my degree without the gen eds. and this. fucking. guy. looked me right in my face and said in the most patronizing tone he could muster “if you can’t handle it, then maybe college just isn’t for you.” keep in mind that up until that semester, i had been an honor student who made Dean’s List every semester and didn’t get below Bs. if it hadn’t been for my mental breakdown, i would have graduated cum laude, maybe even summa cum laude.

but this dean of students looked a disabled person right in the face and said well i guess you just can’t do it, short bus

Pulled these from a couple articles really quick but yeah the statistics are not kind. I remember writing a scathing essay about my issues with ADHD and college as part of an assignment for academic probation. I got back an email calling me entitled and lazy. Somehow, this thread helps me feel a lot better. I still have about a semester of school unfinished that I’m unsure if I’ll finish but… yeah. Makes me feel better to know it’s not just me.

PSA: The Job Accommodation Network maintains a searchable database of accommodation suggestions for a wide variety of disabilities.

The full database can be accessed here and the ADHD page is here. The full database can be filtered by disability, by limitation, by work-related function, by topic, and by accommodation. Many of these accommodations are applicable to academic settings as well as the workplace.

Here are the section headers for ADHD accommodations ideas to give an overview of what the page contains - this post would become Do You Love the Color of the Accommodation if I attempted to list them all here

The ADHD page linked above also includes case examples and strategies for determining what sort of accommodations might be necessary. More broadly, the JAN website as a whole is a treasure trove of information related to the Americans with Disabilities Act and resources for both individuals and employers.

Oh fuck that's really nice, I will read it

Also just heard a podcast interview with a software developer who had good suggestions

The head of disability accommodations at my college just kept ablesplaining to me that “accommodations are to level the playing field, not give you an advantage,” and that her job is to “protect the school’s rights” rather than help disabled students. The only accommodations they would offer me were 1. extra time on tests, and 2. an alternative test-taking location - neither of which I needed. I ended up getting (most of) what I actually needed by unofficially asking the individual professors, but it should have been legally protected.

I guess the biggest problem with tentacle porn is that it seldom has a positive message

Well bless his heart

Final Destination movies are getting a lot lazier

I work a labor job near a very big tech headquarters, so I see these musktrucks every day and interact with their owners frequently. And I've come to realize that a lot of these guys are desperately insecure in their masculinity. Which isn't a stunning revelation or anything. But like, the insecurity is rooted in the nature of their work and the 'traditionally masculine' skills they don't know a lot about and are very, very fragile about. And this truck is like, a magical bridge for them, over that gap. Or it's supposed to be, that's what I think it is marketed as in a twisted way. It seemingly combines things they are knowledgeable and comfortable with - techy gimmicky horse shit - with the things they don't know a lot about: tools for doing physical work, which affirms the masculinity they feel alienated from.

Because no matter how much money they make, how successful they are in the tech hive city, they still get bent out of shape when they encounter physical problems to solve like the one in the picture above. Because it's outside their domain of experience. And society tells men that they should be, not only knowledgeable about these things, but masters at it. And they aren't.

But if they buy Elon's cybertruck , maybe they can become more like the rugged, capable jock their dads always wanted-

It's really sad. It's funny, don't get me wrong, but the more I interact with these guys and the more I understand what's wrong with them them, the sadder it is, too.

THE NINTH DOCTOR - Walking & Brooding

beautiful women like my posts every day and yet the nightmare goes on

does anyone else feel me. can anyone hear me in here.

do you see the issue now

the rainbow is a well-known symbol of gay pride that originated in the late 1970s in san francisco, when the gay community promised to never again destroy the earth by flood

ADHD is so debilitating and it isn’t talked about enough. Imagine your body doesn’t produce enough of the most essential neurotransmitter. You are constantly seeking this neurotransmitter through any way possible, and it’s why you get addicted to doing things or focusing so heavily on something you forget to meet every single basic need.

You sit there and question what the fuck is wrong with you because it was so easy to study yet you just didn’t do it. It was so easy to do the things you stopped doing but you literally can’t do them.

Like wtf do you fucking mean I was born with a chemical imbalance that makes me incapable of getting up??? Wtf do you mean I have to take stimulants to counteract crippling ADHD symptoms, and then those stimulants actually just make me like everyone else????

Dude. What the fuck.

Good night to only the team names at the Seattle women’s hockey club

the point of art is not to be great but to make it transparently obvious that there is something wrong with you

The point of art is to let other people know that the thing wrong with them is also wrong with you

Happy Neil banging out the tunes day!!!

Doomscrolling Save Point

hey relax for a second and watch the cat

Basically, I don't think there's going to be an announcement that Tumblr is getting shut down. If the pattern we're seeing holds, I don't even think it's going to happen intentionally. I think Tumblr is going to go out like an early 2000s forum: they're just going to keep cutting the tech support budget until something goes wrong in a way that none of the remaining skeleton crew know how to repair, which could be tomorrow or three years from now. If it does happen, it's probably going to happen completely at random, so there's no point stressing out!

we should hype up bottom surgery more i think. both twitter transphobes and chronically online trans people really like to be disgusted at phalloplasty, vaginoplasty, ext. and i really think we should treat them as cool and sexy and neutral like top surgery scars or whatever

As of tomorrow I will be 49 weeks post bottom surgery. And lemme tell you...it's pretty great.

There was a level of constant dysphoria from having a dick that I didn't even know I had until it was gone.

Vaginoplasty is pretty amazing. I'm very, VERY happy about having gotten it.

Some things to keep in mind:

I say this because a lot of the negative shit around bottom surgery hinges on people NOT knowing about the healing time and using the shock value of not-yet-healed surgical wounds. Bottom surgery is FUCKING AMAZING, but yeah, it can be gross and painful at first.

I had my surgery done at GRS Montreal. The staff there are AMAZING. They were kind, patient, and helpful.

Here's some bottom surgery facts:

Dilation is a pain in the ass for the first 4-5 months. Not because it hurts, but because you have to do it so often. After that it becomes more like "here is an hour a day that I set aside for me time". At the end of the first year you will only have to do it once or twice a week, at which point it definitely becomes more like just setting aside a bit of time to get in touch with your womanhood, just to relax.

Dilation doesn't hurt (though it can be uncomfortable in the first month or so while the swelling comes down). Your new vagina is a part of your body and your body takes care of it. It is honestly pretty neat!

Bottom surgery is legitimately AMAZING. It has been practiced for almost 100 years. It is established medical practice. Do not let transphobes dissuade you from it!

Bottom surgeries are statistically a huge success.

Virtually all people who have had bottom surgery report being significantly more happy with their sex lives.

Virtually all people who have had bottom surgery report physically + emotionally better orgasms.

Bottom surgeries are not mutilation. They are not façades created purely to appear more cis or to please cishet partners. They are as valid an expression of transness as any other form of transition, medical or not. The motives for bottom surgery are often not purely sexual AND there’s nothing wrong about post-op, pre-op, or non-op sexuality.

I’m not interested in having bottom surgery at all. However, it is so important to unpack ALL of your internalized transphobia and be the best ally you can be to other trans people.

^ These tags are good to remember.

Bottom surgery isn't for everyone, but if you have the sort of dysphoria that could be alleviated by a different configuration of genitals, it will change your life.

IM LOSING MY MIND?? WHERE DID THE BREAD COME FROM. WHY IS IT SIDEWAYS. WHAT IS HAPPENING

The way everyone just paused before just putting more tofu on XD