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You should have four hobbies:
1. One to make you money
Examples:
Freelancing
Ecom
Stock trading
Affiliate marketing
2. One to keep you in shape
Examples:
Pilates
Running
Yoga
Strength training
3. One to expand your mind
Examples:
Reading
Learning a new language
Taking online courses
Puzzles & brain games
4. One that makes you happy
Examples:
Painting
Cooking
Photography
Gardening
A person who values themself has standards and remains exclusive
They don’t need attention from the masses because they know their worth
They understand that being accessible to everyone lowers their value
They are selective with who they date because they know it’s a reflection of them
They aren’t seeking superficial validation online because they don’t need it and most likely get it in real life
They make career choices that align with their passions and beliefs and don’t comprise their morals for a dollar
They understand that quality friendships are more important than a large circle of acquaintances
They love themselves and take care of their body, they don’t partake in hobbies that are unhealthy
They invest in their personal growth and education because they understand that expanding their knowledge and skills increases their value
They are mindful of how they spend their time and choose environments that nurture their growth rather than drain their energy
They don’t settle for mediocre and always strive for excellence in whatever they do
They avoid toxic relationships and environments
They are intentional with their energy and choose to share it with people that align with their values
They practice self discipline
They like being alone and understand that being alone is a time for reflection and recharging
They have very strong boundaries and demand respect in all interactions because they respect themselves first
Every now and then it's important to stop and ask yourself if your belief system is tied to insecurities, complacency, laziness, fear, doubt, past trauma, societal expectations, comfort zones, or unresolved pain
These factors can shape how you see the world and yourself, creating mental prisons without you even realizing it
These subconscious self imposed barriers can hold you back from growth and reaching your full potential all whilst alluding to the idea of fulfillment
Recognizing these constraints is the first step toward building a belief system that really serves you
After all, if you want to conquer the world, you must start with yourself
Audit your life often and be honest with yourself about who you are, your choices, and who you want to be
Are you comfortable?
Are you settling?
Are you trying to play it safe?
It’s easy to assume that when someone pulls away, they’re rejecting love. But the truth is, hurt people aren’t always running from good people—they’re running from the inner work and healing they need to do
Yes, you want love. But a hurt person only perceives familiar patterns as love. If chaos, neglect, or inconsistency were present in their past, they may mistake those experiences for connection. When something stable and healthy appears, it feels foreign—almost threatening
They aren’t rejecting kindness; they’re rejecting what doesn’t match their internal wiring
Healing isn’t about finding someone to love you despite your wounds. It’s about learning to recognize love when it finally arrives. Because until then even the purest form of love can feel uncomfortable—simply because it’s new
If you’re the one running, ask yourself: Am I avoiding them, or am I avoiding what I need to face within myself? If you’re the one being run from, remember: Their distance isn’t about your worth—it’s about their readiness
If you want a soft, abundant life—one with ease, luxury and opportunities—you can’t play small, meaning you can’t shrink yourself, settle for less or avoid risks. A life of ease and success requires expansion: expanding your mindset, your self worth, your willingness to take up space, and your ability to go after what you truly want
Playing small means avoiding challenges, underestimating yourself or staying in situations that don’t serve you out of fear or comfort. But a soft life isn’t just about external luxury—it’s about being in alignment with your highest self, making choices that serve your well-being, and stepping into the version of you that attracts what you desire
In simple terms: If you keep thinking and acting small, your life will reflect that. To have more, you have to become more
Alignment means being in flow with what genuinely fulfills you—where your energy, effort and actions lead to meaningful results instead of constant struggle
Playing small looks like
Staying in a job you hate with no growth or reward because it feels “safe”
Pouring energy into things that drain you instead of elevate you
Settling for less because you fear stepping into something bigger
Alignment, on the other hand means
Choosing paths that match your values, skills and long term goals
Effort feeling productive rather than exhausting
Attracting opportunities effortlessly because you’re operating in your zone of genius
When you’re in alignment, the work you do feeds you instead of just taking from you. That’s where the “soft life” actually begins
“Someone somewhere is searching for you in every person they meet.”
— Unknown
And they will meet you once they have met their true self
If I ever feel out of sorts or not myself, unmotivated etc I focus on love. Giving myself more love, listening to love frequency music, practicing gratitude & surrounding myself with positive, uplifting energy. This helps me reconnect with myself again, reignite my motivation & feel full of energy
Love is always the answer
beautiful women will be like “i baked a cake” and you will say “oh ? what flavour is it” and they say well its a honey rosewater apricot pistachio cardamom vanilla fig jam earl grey poppyseed orange blossom extra virgin olive oil chiffon sponge soaked in raspberry elderflower champagne lipgloss pomegranate matcha ginger blueberry cherry blossom magnolia petal almond passionfruit persimmon syrup with whipped amalfi lemon limoncello ricotta goats cheese honeycomb black pepper bergamot lemon thyme lemon balm rosemary chantilly whipped cream cream cheese feta cheese italian meringue frosting . like ok. i want to spend the rest of my afternoons walking around inside your beautiful mind like a garden
A karmic relationship is an intense, turbulent connection meant to teach you lessons about self worth, boundaries, love and healing. Karmic relationships don’t last, but they shape you into the person you're meant to be
You feel an instant connection, like you've known them forever, but the intensity is almost overwhelming
The relationship feels like an emotional rollercoaster—intense passion followed by a lot of pain
You keep dealing with the same conflicts yet nothing truly gets resolved
No matter how much they hurt you, you feel unable to walk away
There's a sense of codependency, obsession, emotional turmoil
They trigger your deepest fears, insecurities and wounds
Everything moves unnaturally fast, from emotional confessions to major life changes
The relationship is unpredictable, with frequent breakups and reconciliations
This person enters your life to teach you something, but they rarely stay
Instead of feeling uplifted, you often feel exhausted, anxious, or unbalanced
Ultimately, the pain forces you to face your wounds, change and heal
“Sex is an energy exchange and it matters who you share yourself with. It is not about marriage, but about caring for someone in a sacred way. Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise. The more you interact intimately with someone, the deeper the connection and the more of their aura is intertwined with yours. Imagine the confused aura of someone who sleeps with multiple people and carries around these multiple energies? What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life. I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be.”
— Yvette Feinberg
