being counter-charmed - or worse, silenced - is a bruise to the ego, certainly, but one may console oneself against the ignominy with the thought that at least this is the work of a fellow student of the mysteries, an equal in the Art.
true humiliation, now--! this comes only in the form of some rough-minded oaf of a woman - a bandit, perhaps, or one of the more contemptible varieties of knight - forcing her foul, calloused fingers into your mouth, and laughing - laughing! - when you bite down!
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speaking hypothetically, of course.