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I'm headed home for the holidays, so I made this very simplified watered down comic to explain why I got top surgery!

It's obviously much more complex than I could fit into words, let alone a little comic, but I hope it resonates with someone! 🏳️‍⚧️✂️

Happy Trans Day of Visibility!

Here's a comic I made in 2022 about having top surgery! 🏳️‍⚧️

By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

  • Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.
  • Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation
  • Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.
  • Meditation
  • Martial arts
  • Sports in general
  • Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)
  • Woodworking
  • Cooking
  • If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You might always have a disability around this (I certainly always will), but it can be easier. You do not have to be this stuck forever.

i really hate coming out but still want my extended family to know, so my mother took it upon herself to invent the game “guess which one of my kids is gay.”

the rules are simple.

  • sit down with uncle so-and-so
  • he says something about gay people in passing
  • my mom says “there’s a gay person at this table right now. guess which of my kids it is!
  • he looks frantically between the three of us trying to figure out if she’s joking or not and trying desperately not to offend anyone but also she won’t continue with the conversation unless he makes a guess so he has to make a guess
  • we all enjoy his discomfort immensely

This isnt coming out of the closet. This is coughing loudly from within the closet to scare the people outside of it, which is immensely more entertaining.

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