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one of worst part of be nonverbal n not really have reliable way communicate by words (AAC, etc)—but happen even when do have them—be not able defend yourself when people misunderstand you when people say wrong thing about you when people talk bad abt u to your face you can’t explain self can’t curse back can’t defend self can’t tell your truth you just force be there sit there in your anger your upset your sad your mad your unfairness because if you let those show you know it just going be more evidence of that wrong thing they say that only you know is wrong n all other people only get see evidence of how it even more true like you not win it always lose

when people call you bad temper rude angry all the time bad behavior explosive, n only you know it because first time people do thing to wrong or annoy you you can’t say anything do anything abt it you can’t tell them it annoyed you. n second time same thing. third time same thing. five thousandth time same thing. all day every day multiple times a day same thing. n one day you bound to explode n you think in your head how unfair it is how if you do same thing to verbal speaking people if you kick them in corner enough they would also one day get impatient n explode except everyone other verbal speaking people would sympathize with them because they able relate to them see them as person n that verbal speaking person able defend self explain why they explode why stuff annoying. n difference between you n them be you nonverbal thus less relatable be totally different creature n you cant defend yourself u cant get your perspective heard

so when you explode you can’t get your perspective heard people assume you have no perspective for them to hear because they not sympathize with you they not see self in you they not think through your perspective.

n so when you explode out of desperation out of control they say to other speaking verbal people observing n not helping you, “see, what did say? it has terrible temper rude it has anger issues it has behavioral issues n which mean we need fo what we doing to it more to help them or else they never going stop have bad temper anger behavioral issues.”

but in same vein almost like they on purpose make it more difficult for you like they take joy in your suffering they say “geez just communicate normally like regular person no need with all this attitude” n you know by communicate normally they mean communicate by words in calm n comfortable (to them as receiver, not you) easy to accept (for them) way. when by very definition you cant communicate by mouth speech n you not have great access to alternative method of communicate n even if you do you at such huge advantage bc it so much more ignorable it take so much longer time longer concentration more effort n you know they will give you none of that bc that not convenient for them it not help them be morally superior it not help them win their argument. it be as cruel as lock cat in tiny cage n poke it hit it stick it scare it as you ignore its body language n terrified meows for who knows how long n then get mad at it for attacking you out of desperation n label it as have behavioral issues n should be put down.

they hold you to impossible standard n idk what more insulting, for them to not know it impossible standard to you because you visibly obviously nonverbal a core part of who you are n to be able to just forget abt it when it convenient to them, just how neglectful are they like it take more effort to forget abt it than it be to remember it. or is it more insulting that they on purpose hold you to impossible standard they know be impossible for you, how sadistically cruel that is.

they give you none of the access none of the privilege none of the understanding none of the support none of the sympathy they give to other speaking verbal people but they expect every single one of the ability every single one of the expectation of the demand of the convenience of the ease they receive from other speaking verbal people n if you fail give them those it your fault.

I really don’t understand what goes through my carers’ heads sometimes.

Like why have I had to explain to three separate people that it isn’t appropriate to open the door to a public toilet while I’m sat on the loo with my pants round my ankles? I don’t think any of them would be okay with someone exposing them to the whole world like that.

But tell me again how people with carers are privileged when the people we rely on to stay alive and meet our basic needs don’t even remember that we’re real people with feelings

Screaming at everyone this upcoming autism awareness month that nonspeaking/nonverbal people who are autistic are still autistic. No matter if they’re nonverbal/nonspeaking or not.

(Nonverbal as in cant speak at all, all the time!!)

I always get “that doesn’t happen” and in the same breath I get people asking what makes a nonverbal person nonverbal and that it’s “always caused by other issues” instead of it just them being autistic and autism does in fact sometimes cause you to just be nonverbal.

I don’t know. I don’t think people realize the reality of being nonverbal. You WILL get people who say “that isn’t autism”. Always. For not even just nonverbal things, but being higher support needs even. Or having “stereotypical” autistic traits.

Violent meltdowns? Cant possibly be autism. Needing help bathing? Brushing your teeth? Medication? Phone calls? Not being able to mask? All not autism. (This is sarcasm)

I think people need to realize just the LACK of awareness towards autism that isn’t just white low support needs, high masking autism.

wheelchairs are like hamsters they love to die in bafflingly innovative new ways that you never thought possible

wheelchairs yearn for death like horses

it's like enrichment for them

no april fools stuff like jumpscare or prank on this blog don’t worry 👍 going be business as usual

when someone autistic can’t access autistic community in “traditional way” - like can’t communicate by word independently n need caregiver assist, or can’t communicate by word at all, or can’t be online or go in person event by self need caregiver be with at all times - big part of autistic community’s way of “accommodating” them be kick them out not let them in

I'll be honest I think some of you guys just hate wheelchair users

do you care about severely disabled people who are disabled due to mental illness, intellectual disability, and developmental disability. do you care about people with low adaptive functioning? do you care about disabled people who are visibly disabled without any aids, for the way they talk, walk, act? do you care about disabled people who need 24h care? about disabled people who need almost anything to be explained to them simply? about disabled people who can't and might never understand things you take for granted? do you care about disabled people who are missing from society - who are locked up at home with family or away in institutions? do any of you actually give a shit about pw mental health conditions and ID/DD and include them in your activism?

Screaming at everyone this upcoming autism awareness month that nonspeaking/nonverbal people who are autistic are still autistic. No matter if they’re nonverbal/nonspeaking or not.

(Nonverbal as in cant speak at all, all the time!!)

Who is saying this? I've been in this community since I was 12 and never saw this once

You’d be surprised. I get a lot of “but you’re intellectually disabled?” Or “it isn’t autism, it’s intellectual disability.” “It’s this…” “its that.” You’d be surprised what people say online, and In real life. Especially in real life.

Intersexuality / Intersex variance

Intersexism

Helpful clarification, I keep seeing people use the word intersexism to refer to being intersex.

I feel like "know your audience" is a writing concept that people aren't taught enough about in school. Its usually reduced down to like, "use simple words when writing children's books" but it really means a lot more than that.

Its also about knowing that different words have different meanings to different audiences. If I say "pedestrians" in a wheelchair user space, people are going to understand that I mean people who walk. If I say it outside a wheelchair user space, people will assume I mean "anyone not in a car."

There's also layers of understanding that audiences have. When I talk about "obligate wheelchair users" in a disability space, it's because nearly everyone knows that ambulatory wheelchair use is a thing and that ambulatory doesn't always mean someone can walk a useful amount. Saying "obligate" is a short way to say I'm including everyone who can't walk a useful amount and HAS to use a wheelchair along with nonambulatory wheelchair users, while leaving out people who are part time or occasional wheelchair users. If I used it in an able bodied space, I'd first have to establish ambulatory wheelchair use and how it's a spectrum, and then we'd be derailed.

There's more to knowing your audience than that, but it's not really relevant to the current arguments around the use of the word privilege in a disability post geared towards educating leftists. Also, another part of knowing your audience is knowing when a bunch of exhausted cripples are going to start going "woah brother, I hope you don't think I'm going to read all THAT." and I'm already past that point. 😬 [cringe emoji]