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This article was co-authored by Lydia Stevens and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophie Burkholder, BA. Lydia Stevens is the author of the Hellfire Series and the Ginger Davenport Escapades. She is a Developmental Editor and Writing Coach through her company "Creative Content Critiquing and Consulting." She also co-hosts a writing podcast on the craft of writing called "The REDink Writers." With over ten years of experience, she specializes in writing fantasy fiction, paranormal fiction, memoirs, and inspirational novels. Lydia holds a BA and MA in Creative Writing and English from Southern New Hampshire University.
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We’d certainly like to believe that all romance stories start with a meet-cute and end with a happily ever after…but what about all that middle stuff? Fortunately, we can rely on tried-and-true romantic tropes to keep us on the edge of seats and whispering just kiss already! to ourselves. From friends to lovers and forbidden love to secret identities and soulmates, we’ve put together a master list of romance tropes that you can find in novels, movies, TV shows, and more.
The Most Popular Bookish Tropes for Romance Novels
- Friends to Lovers: Two characters are friends and eventually fall in love.
- Enemies to Lovers: Two characters hate each other but eventually fall in love.
- Forbidden Love: Two lovers are somehow forbidden from being together.
- Fake Dating: Two characters pretend to date, then fall in love.
- Marriage Before Love: Two characters are forced to marry due and later fall in love.
- Secret Identity: One love interest is hiding their true identity or circumstances.
- Forced Proximity: Two characters are somehow stuck together and fall in love.
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Friends to Lovers The friends-to-lovers trope is one of the most common and beloved—everyone loves the idea of falling in love with someone who’s like a best friend, after all! In these stories, two people often have a friendly or BFF-style relationship before one (or both) of them begin to realize that their relationship may be something more.[1]- Examples: Emma by Jane Austen (Emma & Mr. Knightley), Friends (Monica & Chandler), When Harry Met Sally (Harry & Sally).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Pen pals
- Marriage pact
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2Enemies to Lovers On the opposite side of the spectrum from friends to lovers but equally popular is enemies to lovers, where two seemingly incompatible or rival-type people end up together. These “enemies” often start the story by constantly frustrating each other or being at each other's throats. It’s only a matter of time, however, until they realize that their emotions for each other run far beyond anger.[2]
- Examples: Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (Elizabeth & Mr. Darcy), Bridgerton (Anthony & Kate), 10 Things I Hate About You (Kat & Patrick).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Old Enemies
- Rivals
- Revenge
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Forbidden Love Forbidden Love (or star-crossed lovers) is one of the most iconic and long-running tropes—Romeo and Juliet ring a bell for anyone? For whatever reason, the two people in this story aren’t encouraged or allowed to be with one another. Maybe they’re from feuding families, maybe one’s a royal while the other’s a commoner, or maybe their same-sex relationship isn’t approved by those around them.[3]- Examples: Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare (Romeo & Juliet), Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Buffy & Spike/Angel), Titanic (Rose & Jack).
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- Star-crossed lovers
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4Secrets or Secret Identities As a trope, “secrets” can encompass a lot of different situations and scenarios for a pair of potential lovers. In a majority of these ~secretive~ stories, one character in the romance has a secret they’re trying to keep hidden—usually related to their identity or past. Sometimes, these characters are hiding their secret on purpose, while other stories may have them forgetting a key part of their past due to amnesia or another outside force.[4]
- Examples: Twilight by Stephanie Meyer (Edward & Bella), Dexter (Dexter & Rita), Superman (Clark Kent & Lois Lane).
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- Secret admirer
- Secret baby
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Betting One character makes a bet that they can seduce or otherwise “get with” another character. They may have made that bet with a friend of theirs, and they usually don’t (initially) care about the feelings of the person that they’re betting. As they get closer to them however, they start to develop true feelings—and the main conflict usually comes when the object of their affections learns of the bet.[5]- Examples: Perfect Chemistry by Simone Elkeles (Alex & Brittany), Cruel Intentions (Sebastian and Annette), She’s All That (Laney & Zack).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Ugly duckling
- Wallflower
- Bully turns into a nice guy
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6Forced Proximity Forced proximity is a very popular trope that shows two characters who are forced to be near each other for whatever reason. On the more likely end, they could’ve been assigned to partner on a project for school or walk. Maybe they’re sitting next to each other on a plane, or they’re trapped in an elevator together. Whatever the particular situation, the pair should be stuck together until they start to feel the sparks fly.[6]
- Examples: The Flatshare by Beth O’Leary (Leon & Tiffy), People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry (Poppy & Alex), The Breakfast Club (Bender & Claire).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Trapped in an elevator
- Stranded
- Platonic cohabitation
- Only one bed
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Best Friend’s Sibling This trope is similar to forbidden love…or it can at least often end up there. Basically, the protagonist falls in love with their best friend’s brother or sister, often followed by a period of denial or a feeling that their friend wouldn’t approve or be happy about the situation. Ultimately, of course, they give in to the temptation! The BFF’s sibling could also be swapped out for their partner, ex, or widow.- Examples: The Silent Waters by Brittany C. Cherry (Maggie & Brooks), The Edge of Seventeen (Krista & Darian), Love, Victor (Pilar & Felix).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Best friend’s lover
- Best friend’s ex
- Best friend’s widow
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8Second Chance A “second chance at romance” trope presents two ex-lovers who are given an opportunity to get back together again. Maybe they’re married, and feelings have fizzled out, or they were together a long time ago and were forced apart for various reasons. They might start hanging out or hooking up as friends before they eventually realize they still have feelings for each other. Or, they may cross paths as “enemies” and be forced to be around each other until they eventually fall back in love.[7]
- Examples: The Notebook by Nicholas Sparks (Allie & Noah), Dawson’s Creek (Joey & Pacey), The Vow (Paige & Leo).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Hometown romance
- Widow/widower
- “You’ve changed” (i.e., the couple is in conflict and has to find their way back to one another)
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One True Love This romance trope is perhaps the most classic of all since it sees a character finding their perfect match, soulmate, or whatever predestined term you prefer. The characters in this story are the ideal match for each other, and their connection may even feel magical or instantaneous (i.e., love at first sight). This trope is often used with first loves or with long-distance relationships where these soulmates must overcome the separation with the power of their love.[8]- Examples: One Day by David Nicholls (Emma & Dexter), The Vampire Diaries (Elena & Damon), Snow White and the Seven Dwarves (Snow White & the Prince).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Soulmate
- Love at First Sight
- Magic
- Long-distance relationship
- First love
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10Age Gap Also known as a May-December romance, an age gap romance features two characters that engage in a romantic relationship while having a significant age difference. Usually, the difference in age is at least 10-15 years or more, which causes them to confront generational differences, societal disapproval, and incompatibility in life stages throughout their story.[9]
- Examples: Part of Your World by Abby Jimenez (Alexis & Daniel), Younger (Liza & Josh), Harold and Maude (Harold & Maude).
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Fake Dating In a ‘fake dating’ or ‘fake relationship’ trope, two characters make an agreement to pretend to be in a relationship or in love for whatever reason. As they continue to act out romantic scenarios with each other and convince their friends and family of their love, they eventually realize that their feelings for each other are more real than they thought.[10]- Examples: The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood (Olive & Adam), To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before (Peter & Lara Jean), The Proposal (Andrew & Margaret).
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12Amnesia This straightforward trope features one character in the romance getting amnesia. Usually, the characters were already in love before one of them got amnesia, and then the story details their journey towards falling back in love. Alternatively, the pair may not know each other yet, but the amnesia plays a part in one of them keeping a secret or not knowing their true identity.[11]
- Examples: Someone to Watch Over Me by Lisa Kleypas (Grant & Vivien), 50 First Dates (Lucy & Henry), Falling for Christmas (Sierra & Jake).
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Mistaken Identity In a ‘mistaken identity’ story, one person mistakenly believes that their romantic interest is something or someone else. As opposed to the ‘secret identity’ trope, the identity of this person isn’t being deliberately withheld—or at least not at first. In this case, the mistaking of this person for another (and the ensuing drama) was not done intentionally.[12]- Examples: Dream Girl Drama by Tessa Bailey (Sig & Chloe), The Princess Bride (Buttercup & Westley), You’ve Got Mail (Kathleen & Joe).
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14Holiday Romance A favorite trope of the Hallmark channel, holiday romances celebrate the season by bringing together people (and future lovers) at holiday events and gatherings. These stories usually revolve around holidays like Christmas, Hanukkah, or New Year's, although other holidays may come into play from time to time.
- Examples: In a Holidaze by Christina Lauren (Maelyn & Andrew), The Holiday (Amanda & Graham, Iris & Miles), Home for Christmas (Johanne & Jonas).
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Opposites Attract In an ‘opposites attract’ romance, the two main characters in a romantic partnership are total opposites in at least one significant way. They may have different personalities, backgrounds, or lifestyles, but they’re still somehow drawn to one another. They could be extroverted and introverted, spontaneous and cautious, rich and poor…but their story showcases how people are sometimes attracted to someone completely unexpected.[13]- Examples: The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald (Gatsby & Daisy), Parks & Recreation (April & Andy), Grease (Sandy & Danny).
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- Spontaneous vs. serious
- Messy vs. neat
- Rich vs. poor
- Physical differences (i.e., height/overall size)
- Love interest has a profession that the protagonist hates
- Wanting different things (e.g., true love vs. a fling, country vs. city)
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16Blind to Love There are many types of ‘blind to love’ stories, but almost all portray one character who’s unaware of their clear love for another person, or two characters who are mutually unaware of their love for each other. This trope is often also referred to as “last to know” or “oblivious to love,” and it’s often combined with other tropes like “friends to lovers,” “enemies to lovers,” and “sworn off relationships.”
- Examples: Best of Me by L. K. Farlow (Duke & Valerie), Futurama (Fry & Leela), My Best Friend’s Wedding (Michael & Jules).
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- Aloof couple
- “Everyone can see it but them”
- Changing sexual preferences
- Dating the wrong person
- Can’t spit it out
- All grown up
- Slow burn
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Sworn Off Relationships With this trope, one of the romantic leads has decided to swear off love for whatever reason. Maybe it doesn’t fit their lifestyle, they’ve had too many negative experiences, maybe they don’t believe they’re worthy of love, or maybe they’re afraid of commitment. Who knows! Whatever the reason, it’s safe to say that they’ll change their mind about love by the end of the story.- Examples: Sleigh Belle by ND Testa (Belle & Jake), Valentine’s Day (Kara & Kelvin), How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (Ben & Andie).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- “I’m not good enough for him/her”
- Afraid to commit
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18Unrequited Love One of the most tragic of romance tropes is unrequited love (although this tragedy nearly always turns into a happy ending by the last page). Unrequited love refers to one person having strong romantic feelings for another person who doesn’t feel the same way about them. In a true romance novel, the second character will return the other’s feelings by the end.[14]
- Examples: The Wrong Bride by Catharina Maura (Raven & Ares), (500) Days of Summer (Tom & Summer), Pretty in Pink (Andie & Duckie).
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Celebrity or Royal Love Interest In these stories, one of the romantic leads has immense power, money, and influence. They might be a member of the royal family, a famous celebrity, or a billionaire. Then, a “commoner” (think: Cinderella) gets involved and the pair fall in love![15]- Examples: Ella Enchanted by Gail Carson Levine (Ella & Prince Charmont), First Daughter (Samantha & James), The Idea of You (Solène & Hayes).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Rags to riches
- Lost heir
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20Office Romance As a relatively true-to-life romance trope, the office romance typically takes place in a run-of-the-mill workplace. Two players might be forced together in their office for hours at a time while working on a project, or they might run into each other frequently during meetings, in hallways, and at work events. Eventually, after their sustained proximity to each other, they realize that they want to be more than just colleagues.[16]
- Examples: The Hating Game by Sally Thorne (Lucy & Joshua), Babygirl (Romy & Samuel), The Office (Jim & Pam).
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- Men in uniform
- Politician
- Priest
- Bodyguard
- Boss
- Working with the ex
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Dark Past A ‘dark past’ as a romance trope refers to one or both romantic protagonists having some sort of dark past. Their traumatic or secretive past is shown to impact their present relationships, including the one with their new paramour. These tragic backstories are an excellent plot device, as they add complexity to the characters’ development and intensity to the narrative of the romance story.[17]- Examples: The Sweetest Oblivion by Danielle Lori (Elena & Nicolas), Orange Is the New Black (Piper & Alex), Bones and All (Lee & Maren).
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- Dark secret
- Emotional scars
- Rejected by parents, friends, former lovers, etc.
- Redemption
- Break up to save them
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22Knight in Shining Armor Likely one of the oldest (and, arguably, archaic) tropes on this list, the ‘knight in shining armor’ story portrays a heroic character who rescues a damsel in distress. The hero is traditionally masculine and a paragon of qualities like bravery, chivalry, and honor. The helpless damsel then falls in love with her chivalrous protector. In more modern takes, however, this trope is often subverted with a gender role reversal—commonly referred to as “dude in distress.”[18]
- Examples: Devil in Winter by Lisa Kleypas (Evangeline & Sebastian), Once Upon a Time (Charming & Snow), Gone With the Wind (Clark & Vivien).
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- Damsel/Dude in distress
- Kidnapped
- Protector
- Injury
- Road trip
- Wound tending
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Different Worlds In this trope, two characters develop a romantic interest in each other despite the fact that they’re from different “worlds” or backgrounds. They may travel in different social circles or have been raised in different financial classes. In a more literal sense, a sci-fi romance story might feature lovers who are literally from different planets! This difference in upbringing and culture is likely the main conflict in this couple’s love story.[19]- Examples: The City of Brass by S.A. Chakraborty (Nahri & Ali), Enchanted (Giselle & Robert), Notting Hill (William & Anna).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Fish Out of Water
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24Sunny vs. Grumpy This trope is similar to ‘opposites attract,’ but it’s such a popular dynamic that we had to give it its own category! In the sunny vs. grumpy trope, one character is constantly grumpy while the other is bubbly around the clock. Despite this distinct difference in their personalities, the pair turns out to be attracted to each other and balance each other out perfectly!
- Examples: Beach Read by Emily Henry (January & Augustus), Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston (Alex & Prince Henry), New Girl (Nick & Jess).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Golden retriever and black cat relationship
- “Who hurt you?”
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Love Triangle The love triangle trope features three people, two of which have a romantic interest in the same person within the triangle. In most cases, the third person is interested in the other two people and is trying to decide between them, but other times the third person is not at all interested. Alternatively, each person may be crushing on another person in the triangle (i.e., Person 1 likes Person 2 who likes Person 3 who likes Person 1).[20]- Examples: The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins (Katniss, Peeta, & Gale), Bridget Jones’s Diary (Bridget, Mark, & Daniel), Gilmore Girls (Rory, Jess, & Dean).
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- “If I can’t have you, nobody will”
- Matchmaking gone wrong
- Two-person love triangle, e.g., Clark Kent loves Lois Lane, who loves Superman but doesn’t know that Clark is Superman.
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26Teacher/Parent Romance A teacher/parent romance is a modern trope that sees a teacher seducing or falling for the parent of one of their students. In real life (and in the romance books), these relationships are often discouraged, if not outright banned. As a result, these romantic stories often include other tropes like ‘secrets’ or ‘forbidden love.’
- Examples: Can’t Text This by Teagan Hunter (Monty & Robbie), Hot for Teacher by Monique Fisher (Latrice & Nathan), The Princess Diaries (Helen & Mr. O’Connell).
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- Parent with new love
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Marriage Before Romance In a ‘marriage before romance’ trope, the couple has married or become engaged before they actually fall in love with each other. This trope is most common in fantasy or historical romance stories, where an arranged marriage or marriage of convenience would be more common (although these tales can also be told in the modern day). The pair may also have gotten married drunkenly, and go on to fall in love after their tipsy nuptials.[21]- Examples: Marriage for One by Ella Maise (Rose & Jack), Green Card (Bronte & Georges), Reign (Mary & Francis).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Arranged marriage
- Marriage of convenience
- Drunk marriage
- Jilted bride
- Runaway bride
- In love with the best man, bridesmaid, etc.
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28Beauty and the Beast Borrowing its name from the beloved French fairytale, this trope refers to a romantic story where one outwardly “beautiful” or good-hearted person falls in love with a “beastly” character who’s considered frightening, rude, or monstrous by others. Throughout the course of the story, it becomes clear that the “beast” has a hidden depth, and this character is slowly transformed to reveal a good-hearted person who’s deserving of “beauty’s” affections.[22]
- Examples: Lord of Scoundrels by Loretta Chase (Jessica & Sebastian), Gossip Girl (Blair & Chuck), Down with Love (Barbara & Catcher).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Playboy in love
- Loveable rogue
- Sleeps with everyone but you
- Blackmail
- “All girls want bad boys”
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Suspect and Investigator In this Law and Order-esque trope, one character is investigating another for whatever reason. Maybe they’re actual officers of the law, or maybe they’re “investigating them” for cheating on an exam or another less serious offense. Despite the antagonistic nature of this pairing’s start, their forced proximity eventually leads to love.- Examples: The Risk by S. T. Abby (Logan & Lana), Psych (Lassie & Marlow), Basic Instinct (Curran & Catherine).
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Related Sub-Tropes:
- Undercover love
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This article was co-authored by Lydia Stevens and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophie Burkholder, BA. Lydia Stevens is the author of the Hellfire Series and the Ginger Davenport Escapades. She is a Developmental Editor and Writing Coach through her company "Creative Content Critiquing and Consulting." She also co-hosts a writing podcast on the craft of writing called "The REDink Writers." With over ten years of experience, she specializes in writing fantasy fiction, paranormal fiction, memoirs, and inspirational novels. Lydia holds a BA and MA in Creative Writing and English from Southern New Hampshire University. This article has been viewed 1,224 times.
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