"Sometimes we have to help ourselves by doing what's best for us..no matter how hard and hurting that is." - Samira Sanusi
So I was chatting with this friend of mine called Beautiful and we were talking about how sometimes some ladies don’t know how to leave the men that mistreat them. She told me about a friend who was in a relationship and madly in love with a guy,sweet huh? Unfortunately not because that guy doesn’t treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She’s always crying about one thing he did to another,the tears just never stop,and she still can’t find the courage to get up and leave.The whole conversation got me thinking and here’s what I feel about situations like this..
..I believe in trying work things out,I believe in being patient,but I also believe the minute you start to make me cry more than you make me smile or laugh,the minute I start to wonder if things will ever change or get better,the minute I feel like I’ve given all I can give and there’s nothing left for me to prove,that is the minute I’ll say goodbye to you.It’s not going to be an easy decision after all we’ve been through together(the good and bad times),and the strong feelings I have for you will make me question my decision to ditch your ass,but hey,what has to be done has to be done.I love me,and I know I deserve better,and if you as my partner cannot see that and treat me like I’m worthy then what’s the point? I always tell my friends: “Sometimes you have to forget how you feel and remember what you deserve”-Author unknown.No matter how much I care about you or how many kids we have together at some point I’ll have to find the strength to love me,and do what’s best for me.I know it may seem like I’m just bluffing and my opinion on this will change if I find myself in the situation but ahh well.I have expectations,I have standards,I have principles,and if you love me,you have to respect those,if you love me,you have to care for me and show you do.If you love me you shouldn’t lie to me or make me cry,because no matter how much I love you,in the end I’ll get up and leave,because I know I deserve better,I know I deserve to be happy,I know I deserve to be treated right,and I believe in love.Love is beautiful and should make you feel good from the inside and outside.If you can’t give me what I want,another guy will..It’s really that simple :~)
I don’t know Beautiful’s friend, but I know this: No woman deserves to cry herself to sleep every night.Well unless she does some unforgivable things then it’s between you two.But if you’re going to love,please do it right(this goes out to both the sexy ladies and hot fellas).You might think what you do is your business and no one gets hurt,but I believe everytime someone hurts us,God counts our tears and whispers “Don’t worry,I’ll teach them a lesson” and there’s always Karma..and ain’t karma a bitch?
I know its hard to make that decision,whether its ending a relationship or changing careers,but remember..It all begins with YOU.It really is about YOU.YOU have to draw a line and live above it.YOU have to decide what YOU can tolerate or can’t.YOU have to know when to stay and when to leave.And finally,when the time comes,YOU have to drop him like its hot!
God bless,X