If you have the time needed to go out of your way to send people rude messages over what they ship rather than just silently blocking them and moving on with your life, then you have way too much time on your hands and need better hobbies to occupy said time.
Something I love about confronting Cazador is how he obviously never processes that Astarion has friends until it’s too late.
Petras and Dalyria must have mentioned that Astarion wasn’t alone when they met him, but when you read Cazador’s journal? He’s 100% fixated on Astarion. How Astarion stood in the sun, how Astarion was willing and able to disobey him. And when Astarion shows up, Cazador barely acknowledges the party at all - and sure, that’s partly because this is Astarion’s moment in the narrative, but Cazador doesn’t so much as ask why these random strangers are there! They’re not part of his plans, so they don’t exist.
And then they immediately save his errant spawn from the ritual and start beating his ass.
Just. What must have been going through Cazador’s head when that fight starting turning against him? ‘Is that… the Blade of Frontiers? Why is a monster hunter - and is that a cleric? - helping a vampire spawn? An undead? Ah, but they must be treating it as a necessary evil to have a chance to slay me, of course - hold on, why is the cleric healing Astarion? Why does that wizard keep Counterspelling everything I’m casting at Astarion, why waste the spells when I’m not even targeting him? Did… did that druid just cast Daylight on Astarion’s weapons? And that brute of a tiefling - that’s not just disgust in her eye when she looks at me, it’s fury - and she keeps putting herself in front of Astarion, why in the hells would she - she’s running right at me- ’
I hope that one of the last things Cazador ever knew was the choking realisation that Astarion didn’t just come back strong, or free. Astarion came back loved.
The alt-right’s foothold into Gen-Z is frustrating and I can see from over here how they’re doing it.
You’ve got a generation of young-adults who are learning to be adults for the first time and for so many of them it sucks. It sucks to be in your first shitty apartment where things break, and to have your first shitty car that needs maintenance, and to be working a low-paying service or retail job where you get berated all day and barely scrape by. And you go home and you have taxes to figure out and electric bills to figure out and a screen on your phone to rot into to destress.
And this is men and women, equally, in this spot. But the alt-right messaging gets to tailor their approach to gender.
And hey women, yes you working a shitty job for shitty pay, overwhelmed by financial responsibilities and car repairs, what if you actually didn’t need to do ANY of that? You don’t need to. And you don’t need to feel guilty about it. (You’re not quitting, you’re not being lazy), you actually are just embracing the chance to be exactly who an ideal woman should be. You should actually be beautiful, and demure, and barefoot in a sunny kitchen, glowing, pregnant, hearing the joyful sounds of your children while you bake a roast for your wonderful husband (strong, protective, loves you, handles the finances, handles the jobs, handles all the things you hate). OUR ancestors (don’t mind the dogwhistle) did this for GENERATIONS, and modern society has failed you instead!
It’s offering to break women out of all the parts of their real life that suck, and do it in a way that promises they’re actually being better, being more admirable, more moral, more respectable, more correct, can feel good about, can feel proud about, as a Woman as Feminine as Mother as Goddess.
And the thing being promised does not need to actually reflect reality. It’s a fantasy. It is not real. For every “beautiful demure barefoot” day, you’d be having another one covered in shit changing diapers of screaming infants with screaming children while your husband ignores you because it’s Women’s Work (take pride!) But that doesn’t matter. It just needs to sound better than the reality they’re living.
Then the men are targeted too. And it’s the same in that it’s getting to them by appealing to pride in their gender, but the messaging is different. It’s “those finances are hard but ACTUALLY you’re leveling up, you’re grinding, you’re finance maxing.” It’s hard but it’s the kind of hard that is a challenge you can WIN at, boast about, post about, prove your manliness. Knowing cars, knowing home repairs, knowing taxes, that’s your MAN pride, and you are so elite, you are so sigma, you are the envy of everyone, you are a masculine man. Women love you. Women will defer to you. Strong, respected, moral, loyal, unshakeable. Unlike those pansy men (mind the homophobic dogwhistling) who will whimper and cry like girls. You are better.
The shitty retail job is actually humble beginnings because you’re minmaxing your way to financial success (bitcoin, crypto, investments). You can sleep with any woman you want as long as you’re confident, and then you’ll find one who understands how smart and confident and strong and protective you are and she will defer to you as her man. She will birth your children and teach them good morals and you will make it. Our ancestors lived this way for generations (dogwhistle) and modern society took it from you.
And with that messaging it makes it clear who the enemy in all this is - modern society that has convinced women to torture themselves with high education and terrible jobs, turned them Ugly with Ugly opinions and bad hair and nasty attitudes, yelping about “rights” and “equality” (pitting them against men! TAKING things from men!) All the while, society has been trying to emasculate men–replace them with women, make them soft and emotional, make them gay, make them WEAK. We’ve been made WEAK.
The naive women hearing this go “I’m not ugly! I don’t hate men! I DO hate my job and my finances. I’ve been tricked. I’m actually rebelling by declaring my goal is to get a Perfect (White) (Christian) moral husband who will make all our decisions and protect me and our children.” (And when she’s financially trapped in an abusive marriage…? When she’s suicidal with PPD but her husband won’t touch that because it’s Woman Hysteria…? And when her husband leaves her for someone who was as hot as she was 20 years ago and now she’s figuring out finances, health care, taxes, bank accounts for the first time in her life…?)
And the men go “They’ve been TAKING things from us for too long! It’s time to be men again! It’s time to take pride! I am strong and confident. I am in charge! I never show weakness!” (And when he’s got a gun to his head due to the depression he’s never been allowed to talk about as Women Feelings…? And when he’s financially ruined from a crypto scheme that stroked his ego and robbed him blind…? And when he’s dead from alcohol poisoning and none of his adult children notice because no one’s spoken to ‘Dad’ in 15 years…?)
And it’s so hard to fight because you’re arguing against a fantasy. How do you disprove their fantasy? It’s so hard to explain to them, hey you’re working a shitty job where you have no future because the rich bastards took it all from you. And now you’re doing their work for them. You hate society because of what they’ve done to it and now you’re doing their work. Now you’re targeting groups who’ve never done anything to harm you and the guys responsible are laughing to the bank. How do you explain? How do you disprove fantasy?
My approach to disproving the fantasy is to recite the actual reality about the lives of my grandparents and great grandparents who lived in this supposed “fantasy.” To talk about how one of my grandma’s sisters had to point a gun at her husband and tell him she’d kill him dead if she ever saw him again, because he was abusing their children, and how they were technically still married when they both died.
How when my great-grandfather died, he left behind seven children and a wife who didn’t even have an eighth grade education, and how his family starved. She was too frail to work the fields of their farm on her own, and she had no skills or knowledge to get another job. Her eighteen year old son, who was brilliant and was going to go to college on a scholarship to become an engineer, had to give up all of that to run the farm then join the military to try to keep his family alive.
I tell them about how my grandmother slapped me when I was a child and complained about having to go to school, because she knew that going to school for a girl was a privilege, and she saw what happened when women weren’t educated. She made her daughter go to college. She made her promise to never, ever be dependent on a man, and she made me promise the same. She was a typical 1950s housewife. Suicidal, young, and cripplingly addicted to Valium just to get through the day.
It doesn’t really work. But I tell these stories because this is the story of not my family, but most poor rural families from this so-called “Golden age,” and I hope for the love of God that someone will listen.
I reblogged this last month, tagged it, and said “might as well see if it works.” I used this video as a reference to find all the forms that i needed (which is A LOT, especially if you’re a dependent) and sent them through the mail, not really allowing myself to hope.
dude.
$2,714 of medical debt from my top surgery - gone. im shaking this was such a weight on me for 2 years and it fucking worked. what the fuck.
best thing tumblr ever did for me is the term “rotating it in my mind”. it’s really true that sometimes you think about something real hard but you can’t tell what the thoughts are exactly. it’s revolutionary stuff, i might even say
sometimes the subject of your thoughts is just in this thing
I feel like the big push for AI is starting to flag. Even my relatively tech obsessed dad is kinda over it. What do you even use it for? Because you sure as hell dont want to use it for fact checking.
There’s an advertisement featuring a woman surreptitiously asking her phone to provide her with discussion topics for her book club. And like… what. Is this the use case for commercial AI? This the best you could come up with? Lying to your friends about Moby Dick?
One of the big pushes tech companies are making for AI is entirely in the tool of convenience. Take Gemini for example, one of Google’s really big pitches for it is in features like Help Me Read and Help Me Write, which are like the lowest tier use case for deep learning models but are also the two AI features that the average consumer will actually care about. Sure they advertise the GenAI stuff Gemini Advanced is able to do, but they’ve woken up to the idea that the average consumer does not care about GenAI and non-AI Bros fundamentally loathe GenAI.
Every company with a language model got sucked into the venture capital pitfall of AI and now have to market the one set of features the general person actually cares about.
I work in advertising and the culture shift surrounding AI even from January until now (end of March) has been drastic. At the beginning of the year, the company I work for was using AI to design most of their assets. Clients started coming back and requesting that we no longer use AI generated images or videos for copyright liability reasons. Basically, there’s no way to tell whose art or photography was scalped to make an image, so as companies who are trying to make a profit using potentially stolen images, it puts them in a gray area, legally.
Also, companies do look at their comment sections. Anti-AI commenters on social media (“this is not a real image” “I don’t trust companies who use AI” etc) are seen by higher ups of a company. Basically, keep bullying brands who use AI, it’s working. Now my company uses almost no AI for deliverables, which is a huge win.
Well, a combination of an idea given to me by @combatantwriter and continued frustration with the X-Men with regards to their inaction on Greymalkin Prison inspired this one-shot featuring an in-depth conversation between Omega Red and Rogue.
