You are my shelter from the blizzard... ❆

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This sounds cornyyy but

Selfshipping helps me love myself better, bc when I write fic I have to romanticize my s/i (who is me), thereby romanticizing myself and my quirks/looks/personality. If I write from my f/os' perspectives, I have to write from the perspective of someone who loves me, and appreciates these things about me.

Through this process I have, bizarrely, cracked self-love.

I'm sure this is a common feeling and other people have said this better than I could but I was thinking about it a lot today

no no no no no - you don’t understand. i know that fictional mf isnt “real”, but the love i give to myself on their behalf 100% is.

i imagine their love to be forgiving, honest, safe, patient, and supportive. those are all feels i have learned to extend more to myself since i started self shipping. i’ve bought myself flowers, candies, and valentine’s day gifts. i have gotten myself merch, been soft with myself when i cried, and looked at myself in the mirror like im beautiful. becuase i am.

yes, other things like therapy and affirmations have helped me on my journey to being kind to myself as well. but people forget that self shipping is pretty beautiful and powerful on its own.

the truth is that you love that character because they get you. they relate to you, and they support you. the thoughtfulness you use to imagine that love is still you. the feelings you express to yourself and others because of that love is still you. they love you, and deep down, you love yourself too <3 every self shipper deserves to take a second to realize that your favorite character would want you to love yourself, because you deserve that.

when i look at sienna, i get this butterfly feeling in my stomach. one that makes me think “gosh, i feel so happy that a fictional character helps me realize that i actually love myself very deeply.” like i’m grateful for you, dude? i’m grateful that i related to your story so much that i found the confidence to tell my own.

it goes way deeper than “oh the character is cool”. like no - the character is flawed, angry, and made in the image of an imperfect human. and i was too. and that’s okay. we both deserve love. i think people forget that. how good it feels to just be nice to yourself.

Selfshippers with phobia(s) : just know that no matter how many time people tell you that "it's not that deep", "you should get over it" or that "there's no reason to be scared", your f/o would never think like that.

Because they understand that fear isn’t a competition and that trauma doesn’t have a hierarchy.

They know that courage isn’t about what you're scared of, it’s about what you do anyway. They see you trying your best and they'll always help you the best they can with overcoming your fears.

I think you should imagine your f/o with messy hair right after they wake up

i've been the archer

i've been the prey

who could ever leave me, darling

but who could stay?

by @/chapioca on vgen

Reference below the cut ^_^

if english is not your f/o’s first language…

imagine them rambling about how much they love you in their native language

maybe they’re drunk, or half-asleep, or just talking to themselves

whether or not you can understand them, you can feel the love and adoration in their words

do you find it particularly attractive when they speak a different language?

do you make an effort to learn their language so you can understand and communicate with them?

or maybe you’re the one helping them improve their english?

or is this whole scenario reversed, with you primarily speaking a foreign language, and your f/o helping you with your english?

oh, and don’t forget to imagine any cute pet names they would call you in their language!!

regardless of any language barriers, you and your f/o love and understand each other more than anyone else ever could <3

yeah okay i need to be held once in a while, when irl gets to me 🙄🪽 as if it’s m—

hey u, yeah u..‼️🫵🏾

your f/o told me they can’t wait for your anniversary with them! They’re already planning so many ways to celebrate with you.💕🎉

Even it’s today, tomorrow, months from now, or if your relationship with them just started. No words could describe how much they cherish you❕🫶🏾

imagine holding your f/o… putting their head on your chest… after everything they’ve been through they just feel safe around you and trust you. they feel like putty in your arms. they keep you warm as they’re practically on top of you. whenever you shift they subconsciously just hold you tighter.

imagine them resting their head on your shoulder/arm as you’re doing something and resting. they just love laying on you.

STOLEN FROM AN ANTI

nonsharers who are "too possessive" or "too much" for other selfshippers despite minding your own business and ranting to yourself. i love you.

nonsharers who get called delusional, whether that is true or not. i love you.

personality disordered nonsharers. i love you.

mentally ill nonsharers. i love you.

autistic nonsharers. i love you.

nonsharers who DO have to fight the urge to be mean. i love you.

nonsharers who are more self destructive than outwardly destructive. i love you.

nonsharers who have lost friends over it. i love you.

nonsharers who are really, really tired of seeing posts like "don't harass doubles!", because you know already... me too. and i love you.

nonsharers who are making those posts. you don't have to make yourself appealing to anyone, okay? i love you.

sharers who support us. i love you!

and more! wait, one more thing:

you see all those "i love you"s?

your f/o has 10x as many for you. <3

a fictional character could never hurt me. a fictional character could never make me cry. a fictional character could never ignore me for someone else. a fictional character could never cheat on me.